I’m separated from my wife and the desire is strong. But I know that seeing other people (even if we gave each other permission) would not answer anything.
Like an edging masturbation, it would probably feels great for the time, but hollow as soon as it’s done.
My little man want sexual activity, then I need to process with my heart, at this point my wife comes to my mind. And then finally I think logically. I don’t want to hurt her and in the end she’s the one I love.
She feels the same. So even though we are in an open relationship, we never have done anything with anyone else during our time together.
My personal opinion is that is you can’t stay faithful in your relationship, you are not ready to have a relationship and by that I mean building a future together.

There is something to love, loyalty, honesty and intimacy. Perhaps it is not so much that monogamy is the problem as unaddressed or unresolved issues with the people involved.

Considering that divorce rates have declined and that boomer have the largest divorce rates, while millenials have the lowest divorce or marriage rates, I would say it is the old(er) giddy newly weds that cannot make things last. XD

There are a lot of statistics about this subject!!!

It is amazing how many individuals do not know that their real father was never married to their mothers!

Wedlock is far more prevalent than we realize!!!

Whatever a couple decides is OK for them... is OK. Some situations may be unexpected or hard to swallow, but if you can carry on with the relationship and enjoying it, done is done!

Monogamy is not the problem. It is committing to a monogamous relationship and then not being able to live up to the commitment. On second thought, not being able to live up to a commitment is okay as long as one doesn’t try too long and end up betraying one’s partner. If they find out they can’t live up to it then they should get out before they start looking elsewhere and hurting someone.

Of course you cannot own someone. But a monogamous relationship is not about owning. It’s about dedication, devotion and giving oneself to a partnership.

There is a world of difference between being a father and being a sperm donor. Finding out the kid you loved and nurtured for years doesn't share your DNA shouldn't affect how you relate to him/her. Pissed off about the infidelity? Fine. Blame the kid? Bullshit.

I think this subject is complex but often needlessly so. If people make the agreements they truly want to make, and keep those agreements, many problems would be avoided. We can always change an agreement but simply acting outside of an agreement and hoping to keep it a secret is trouble.

One reason I joined this site was to view how other people without religious proscriptions and constraints took to ideas of monogamy. (I don't believe monogamy is the natural state of the human mammal)
Overall seems the notion of exclusive relationships is just as strong as in the society at large.

Marriage provides legitimacy - who is legally responsible for the results of this couple having sex - they have sworn to only have one another . If he has an out of the marriage and she bears his child , he is also legally responsible for that child and that responsibility takes finances away from his family . If she bears someone else's child , she is responsible for seeing that that child is cared and maintained financially . The law says regardless if the child is her husband's or not , he is responsible for supporting the child . There is also the health issues . If either partner is having sex outside of the marriage , they can bring unwanted std's into the marriage , which can cost their partner their life . HIVAIDS , Ebola , Sipholis (sp) , Clamedia (sp) for starters .

Fidelity is something couples have to work out on their own. Not everyone wants to be faithful their whole life but some people do. Like anything else Always be variations.

Not right if they make husband pay for their mistake other than that so what