To all former believers: was sex more fun when you still feared an all seeing, all knowing, wrathful God? For me, agnostic sex is still awesome, but without the fear of eternal damnation, it's not as risky or exciting. I also got a kinky thrill thinking the old guy in the sky was floating on a cloud, judging me. Thoughts?
I just enjoy being a large mammal. Maybe I was never truly a "believer".
I never actually thought about it during the act, and if I gave it any thought at all, it was kinda creepy that a guy in an imaginary place was watching me get it on.
However, the very best sex of my life was with my married neighbor, who was also a Jehovah's Witness, and I guess by her standards we were sinning left, right, center, front, back, and sideways (and on one occasion sort of upside down). (I know, I know... TMI ) So, depending on how you look at it, I guess when she was sinning, sex was the most fun?
If I had it all to do over, though... much as I loved and wanted her, I would tell her to get herself free first and then be with me. Because that's the straightforward moral choice. I should never have got in the middle of their marriage.
@miked3003 .... Interesting. I wonder of it's something about the religion?
I know mine was very frustrated because her husband viewed sex as mainly for making kids, and they had done that, so except on the rare occasions he was super-horny, he wasn't interested. If their church indoctrinates people that way, then those who aren't good at suppressing a normal sex drive are going to seek outlets outside of marriage...
To me, sex is better without fear, because it opens up the possibility of relaxation and an easy, comfortable psyche, so it will make sex with someone who we like much more pleasurable.
But since in my experience hook-ups depend mostly on there being some element of danger or thrill to overcome boredom (since there is no built up element of trust or affection in a hook-up), then it makes sense to me that the absence of belief would make sex seem less great.
I was a virgin until I lost my faith. Self-control in that area has never been a problem for me.
I didn't believe by the time I had sex but I have heard that before. Comedian Pete Holmes grew up really religious until his 20s and talks a lot about how religious people sex is the hottest because nothing could feel naughtier than if you think you're going to hell for this and still can't stop yourself. There's no greater expression of lust than that lol. I don't think it's worth staying under the thumb of religion for but I am strangely extra turned on by sacriligious porn sometimes lol, a little blasphemy goes a long way even if you don't believe in it's consequences.
But I'm sure it's hot in the same sense that autoerotic asphyxiation or tantric edging is hot. Denying yourself something always amplifies the reward center when you actually get it, it's why people become masochists but I'm all about that hedonism now lol. I'll take it guilt free when I can get it, I don't need any extra religious help in denying myself anything. The objective universe has that pretty well covered so far.
I always knew there was no god....
Sex drugs, and rock&roll
My Baptist past ducked me up, until i,got married to a girl who loved sex....
There was no time when I was having sex and believed in original sin (if I ever did).
Same here. My parents taught us that we deserved sexual pleasure.
i have been an atheist since i was 15. i was a virgin. but i never believed in original sin anyway, and the god in which i kind of loosely believed was not wrathful. i was raised a secular jew. we don't have any of that. all-seeing, that was the cool part as i was a lonely child.
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Honestly no? The Bible teaches that it's something to be ashamed of. I felt free letting go of false pretenses of religion and had better sexual experiences after learning to not feel bad that I was having sex with multiple partners before I was married.
I was never a follower, so it's always been great for me. ???
Had long ago figured out original sin was BS before having sex.
nah...I mean most of my sex has been as a non-believer and is a big reason why I am one.
So I think the opposite is more true for me. I enjoyed sex and thought religion had dumb rules about it...people do too sometimes but sex is awesome and always thrilling.
I don't get a great thrill out of "taboo"...maybe once upon a time but because I try not judging or imposing limits "taboo" for many is not for me.
I got the reverse as a teenager. The JW's came knocking while my mum was out, had a conversation that seemed to make a lot of sense, and left me with a book. I was religious for 3 days after that, and given that meant God was watching me masturbate, gave that up, too. That was actually the deal breaker on day 3. I decided I'd rather have the release than the faith.
There's plenty of excitement still to be found in sex. Perhaps look at expanding your repertoire a little, if you have a suitably broadminded partner. There's plenty of stuff you can get off on the perceived wrongness and shock value of. I won't tell you mine, except that they're all perfectly legal and between consenting adults.
The original sin thing is what made me an atheist at age 11. I did not do sex then. So, no to your question.
Sex is awesome. But it's fabulous if you have someone you really care deeply about to share it with.