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What's worse?

What is worse Physical abuse, emotional abuse, or verbal abuse?

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Ravenwolfcasey 7 Oct 1

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You don't have an all are equally bad option. I choose that.


Why did you leave out mental abuse?

or sexual abuse is left out.

@sweetcharlotte so many ways to be hurt.?

@sweetcharlotte I did not put that in here because obviously that's the worse form of abuse..

I feel mental and emotional abuse are the same

I think mental and emotional abuse are two different things. I was physically, mentally, and emotional abused as a child by my stepdad.


I think this is a dangerous line of logic to take that is fraught with problems. As Audre Lorde is wisely said “There is no hierarchy to oppression.”


Physical abuse is the worse, it is what all forms of abuse lead up to if not checked. Emotional abuse and verbal abuse are just preliminary.

That makes sense. When the verbal and emotional abuse fail to properly cow and control you, physical abuse is their only recourse. And you've already been conditioned to accept it. That's why I'm in therapy. I don't know if my reactions to stuff is normal, I prefer to have permission to be upset about behavior I receive. I don't want to just be crazy. My therapist assures me I'm doing well, so I can disregard when my son tells me everything is my fault.


They're all equally bad and leave lasting trauma.

I suppose verbal/emotional abuse could be considered worse because it isn't taken seriously.


I have to agree with the others, but to destroy one internally is damage that cannot be seen by others who may be able to help.


I voted for physical abuse.

Emotional abuse can certainly have long-term negative effects, sometimes worse than physical abuse, but it depends on the individual. Verbal abuse can be emotional abuse, also depending on the individual.

I chose physical abuse with the thought that what is worse may depend on our age, and since most of us are adults longer than we are children, as adults physical abuse is the worst. It is a violation of our political rights. As adults we have many more choices to avoid emotional abuse and what is considered abuse depends more on the receiver than the giver. Receiving verbal abuse as adults can cross the line into physical abuse, and also a violation of our rights, if our "space" is invaded or becomes threats.


I guess it depends on a case by case basis. Some people can take one or the other or both and kind of be more immune to it then others.


They r all terrible


All of the above.


Abuse is abuse. What doesn't matter is the method of delivery. Trauma will always be the result.


This is subjective. The worst is the kind you are receiving.


It doesn't matter what kind of abuse it is, whether it be physical, mental, or verbal, they all do significant damage. It's like asking which form of energy is better, coal, nuclear, or natural gas. It doesn't matter because in the end all you are doing is heating water to steam to spin a turbine. Abuse is abuse no matter the form.

This ^^

@RavenCT Thank you.


I find them all equally abhorrent.


The reason I voted for physical is that Physical Abuse contains Verbal and Emotional Abuse.

I experienced all three as a child, from an alcoholic father, and know that Physical made me afraid to be in his site line. When he came home from work, my heart would be nervous and I'd stay away the best I could. If it was a time for Verbal Abuse, which were a whole lot of insults, such as, "you are stupid, fat, a looser". Eventually I believed it all. Then Emotional Abuse is when he would be when he looked at me and pull of his belt at the same time, but not hit me then. I still shudder at the sight of mens leather belts.

To ask which is worse is not a question I can really answer, as all three result in lasting, regretful memories, which makes life harder to find joy. But it can be done ! Abuse should be against the law and those people should go to prison. They imprison people for smoking marijuana, but not hurting children in most cases, especially verbal abuse. Thank you for letting me rant & rage 😟


All are bad, but no one directly died from emotional or verbal abuse

Unless they kill them selves because of said emotional abuse. 😟

@Kriptikos that is why I said directly. You are right but one does have time to get away

Emotional Abuse can cause people to self harm


Emotional abuse. Mainly because it is the emotional abuse component that leads to victims of physical abuse to stay with their abuser. Without the emotional abuse more women and men would get the hell out upon the first occurrence of violence. By the time physical abuse happens self-worth is almost non-existent.



All are inexcusable and wrong. They are all damaging. They say more about the abuser.


None of the 3 are cool. But physical abuse... let's say ER visits aren't cheap.


They all take a huge toll but I think emotional is the most insidious because it is so subtle that others miss it. It's hard to hide bruises and screaming but the emotional is easily missed.


They are ALL wrong. I'm not picking one over the others.


I strongly dislike psychological abuse. I suspect my son is gaslighting me. I don't like like it.


Each recipient is going to act and react differently. Physical might be easy for someone and impossible for someone else, etc. It depends on who the recipient is, and the abuse that is given.


Every single one can screw a person up - be they adult or child. And most happen in some combination.

I've never been told any tale of abuse and thought "that's the one to have." .

No vote here.

On the other hand, it seems to me that both physical and verbal abuse lead to emotional abuse. And probably the abuser either conciously or subconciously intends their physical or verbal abuse to cause emotional harm. I can't say that I was ever physically abused (that I remember), but did suffer verbal abuse from my alcoholic father, and I'm sure his intention was to hurt me emotionally. Although I've always referred to this as psychological abuse, it amounts to the same thing.

@bingst Absolutely. You never have to lay a hand on someone to cause them unending harm. I saw way too much of this. (working with clients).

And in my book - it being done to a kid who usually has no decision making power over leaving? That is the worst.

At least an adult has some decision over staying or going.
Even when they believe they don't.


No abuse acceptable any shape or form .Categorizing forms of, is at best ...stupid ; and I feel that making it such is at best dehumanizing .Sorry having been subject to all forms , I feel quite strongly about this one .

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