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WHAT'S YOUR POSITION ON ABORTION ?

Yes...No? Do you base your position on religion or science? Does the woman have the right to chose?

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Woman's body, woman's choice. No one else's business beside her doctor's.

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On demand no questions asked. It's all about body autonomy.
As it stands now even dead people have more right to body autonomy than women.
No one can force you to donate blood, an organ, your body after death or anything else for any reason yet somehow women regardless of their state of mind, health etc can be forced to carry a child to term due to circumstances beyond their control be it finances, distance to procedure, draconian laws against choice or all of the above.
As far as late term 99.9% of women put in that position wanted to carry to term, but by the time some problems(20th week or so) are found in the fetus there is not much window of time to make a decision .

This is not a negotiable topic for me. Do not force children to be born to women who would rather have not carried to term. Hasn't anyone ever met someone that made you wonder why they had kids? Nurturing maternal instinct is precious but NOT a given in all mothers.

Qualia Level 8 Nov 19, 2017

Great post.

I agree with the majority of what you are saying but, what if that child was going to have a life of pain and suffering? You'd have to be pretty fucked up to let that happen?

@bryanthetrumpet Not sure what there is to disagree on. I'm definitely a "quality of life" person vs merely being born to exist.
If you're alluding to really late term abortions I certainly don't support giving birth knowing there would be no quality of life.
There are a litany of reasons someone can find themselves in the position to be considering/forced into a super late term abortion. Look at some who never knew they were pregnant to begin with- it happens. Some women have wonky cycles, extremely overweight, spotting, the list of circumstances that would put someone in that position are endless.
Too damned many people on this spinning ball anyway. I'm almost to the point of opinion if one doesn't have all ducks in a row and set it's immoral to have a child to begin with. There are no guarantees in life but try to stack the deck in the child's favor.
Also there are women, and I know them, who thought they wanted kids but those very necessary hormones did not kick in and the child suffered as a result.

Apologies for the rant and maybe veering off topic there. I'm a "no questions asked, on demand" for this life choice.

"As it stands now even dead people have more right to body autonomy than women"

just because abortions arent free don't mean they are illegal. YOU DO HAVE THE RIGHT TO GET AN ABORTION. until it is made illegal i don't understand how women validate sayin they have no rights to their womb and such. im pro-choice so don't get me wrong but this topic is never discussed in an honest and respectful way to reach equality and that is what needs to change.

@jorj Perhaps you aren't aware not all parts of the country make the procedure easily accessible. Facilities that will perform late term are even fewer and farther in between, potentially endangering women's lives as a result.

Not sure why the caps are necessary.

Until women no longer have to be concerned about restrictions on the right to do what THEY CHOOSE concerning THEIR bodies there is indeed need for validation legally. People seem to forget that it's still to this day forever coming up in the courts.

THAT'S WHY WOMEN KEEP HAVING TO BRING UP RIGHT TO BODY AUTONOMY.

yea, im very aware of the access cuz i live in one the most backwoods bible belt hillbilly areas of the country. 3 hour drive minimum to get an abortion around this area but it still don't make it illegal. its one of those things where u got to say woman up, u chose to lay down and get pregnant so u need to handle your responsibility and do what u got to do. men are told all the time that life isnt fair and to man up and figure out the way. unless it is ILLEGAL then u do have total right to your own body. the caps are because women want to present this as they arent being oppressed and this is just completely dishonest.

@jorj @jorj When men with your mindset "nut up" and get off their donkeys to shoulder more of the contraceptive/reproductive burden physically and financially(beyond condoms!) then you may have a leg to stand on, until then your hobby horse is obvious, you or someone "scratched" yourself on someone and it ended up in a live birth someone hadn't bargained for. TFB, that does not negate the issue that women shoulder 99% of the physical and financial burden of whether to carry a child or not to term.

Corpses still have more rights over their body than women in too many places for "the greatest nation on earth".

"Corpses still have more rights over their body than women in too many places for "the greatest nation on earth".

and it is these kind of statements that make ppl laugh at womens issues. its the over top sensationalism and dishonesty is why we can't get a better future. ppl always wanna act like they have it so much worse than everyone else when in fact life sucks for everyone but the elites.

@jorj i thought it a legitiment arguement; and i'm not an 'emotional female' or even a particulary empathetic person but i smell bullshit from a safe distance ?

@SimonCyrene we all have opinions but the truth remains that abortion is legal and no one is stopping women from gettin them. sensationalize it all u want but it won't change the actual truth of what reality is and it certainly don't change minds when u present the issue in dishonest ways. women have tons more options than men do in all health related issues. they have 4 times the money spent on them over what is spent on men. so like men have keep being told over and over again...."man up" and take care of your responsibility. abortion is legal and if a woman wants one she can get one.

@bryanthetrumpet not necessarily the case. My grandson was diagnosed with neurofibromatosis but didn't know till he was 5 years old. But now that we know, he'll have a choice when he gets a little older.

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If you don't have a uterus, you don't get a say. Not up to you! NONE of your business. I am and always will be - Pro Choice!

ParkS Level 4 Nov 19, 2017

Any man that thinks a woman should protect his rights is not thinking straight. If a man does not want a child then it is (his) responsibility to have birth control. Men that want to distance themselves believing it is the woman's job to provide protection are not fair-minded men.

Betty - u want to put the full responsibility for birth control on the man? men have one option, a condom, and it that breaks he did all he could do to protect u and himself from the pregnancy. what makes u think women shouldnt be responsible for birth control? sounds like u think women can't be a responsible adult and that we should treat u all like our children by the logic u are using here. im pro-choice for men and women. if a woman chooses to sleep with a man knowing he don't want kids and gets pregnant then she needs to WOMAN UP and take care of HER responsibility. i always thought women wanted to be equal to men instead of being looked at as children but it appears that isnt what women want at all.

@jorj As I said above, if you want to be 100% sure you're not creating a baby, get a vasectomy. Then you can have your fun and shoot blanks.

women that arent ready for a child yet should get a hysterectomy then. we can do this all day but its equally sexist from each of us. addressing the the fact that women arent beign treated as responsible adults is what it boils down to. i respect u enough to treat u the same as i would a man but it appears u just want the pros of men's lives without the cons.

Have you ever tried to get a hysterectomy? (I have, and have heard a while range of reasons why I can't have one). Drs tell females, even single females that they won't perform this procedure all the time, for reasons like, "What if you meet a man in the future who wants children?" Thereby giving some future hypothetical boyfriend/husband more control over that woman's uterus than herself.

Trials for hormone based contraceptives for males get halted before they can be assessed as safe enough for the market because the subjects cannot tolerate the side effects of the hormones, similar side effects to those caused by the hormonal contraceptives women have been putting up with for decades. Perhaps males would try to tolerate the side effects more if they were the ones risking their lives and health by carrying and delivering babies?

And, on that note, it is statistically safer to abort than attempt to go full term and deliver, so isn't this -abortion on request- the most moral medical option for women, especially women who do not (for whatever reason) want to be pregnant and deliver a baby?

Western medicine is disappointingly male centric. You just have to look at things like treatments for erectile dysfunction being available before the size and shape of the clitoris was even discovered to see the imbalance. Also, even in countries with healthcare that is free at the point of access, women don't get decent and dignified post natal care. Just look at the rates of labour induced prolapses that don't get any treatment at all.

The above is just a snippet of the reason why I think abortions should be legal and available for women at any time. I doubt you'll change your mind because... But seriously, try being female and trying your 'solution' of getting a hysterectomy. (This is also an incredibly invasive procedure compared to most abortions, but you'll never have to worry about either issue so you can just suggest whatever wildly impractical thing you like and if women aren't doing that, feel superior and 'right' that they brought their 'situations' -pregnancies that take two but only one has all the responsibility- upon themselves.)

You get a tubal ligation. No hysterectomy unless worse is going on.

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I think it should be mandatory. (Kidding, kidding&hellipsmile009.gif

Women have bodily autonomy, and regardless of personhood the fetus has no claim to the woman's body without her consent. I also deny fetal personhood, and I don't believe abortion harms the would-be mother, the family unit, or society as a whole. I think anti-abortion laws are intended to punish women for being sexual, self-determined individuals.

resserts Level 8 Nov 19, 2017
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I have no meaningful position on abortion because I'm not a woman. It's her body, it should be her business.

DangerDave Level 8 Nov 19, 2017

Indeed...but some men want the child and go to court to prevent the woman from aborting. They think that delivering the kid and giving the baby to them is the solution...forgetting that the nine months of changes and risks is what the woman doesn't want.

That's a moral dilemma with a lot of psychological, social and sadly political ramifications. I'm just happy to have never been met with such a predicament.

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In a perfect world no abortions would ever happen. In a perfect world, every fetus would develop without problems, every woman would survive pregnancy and every pregnancy would be an intended one. But, this is not a perfect world and there are a myriad of reasons why a woman makes that decision; and, ultimately, it should be hers.

Joanne Level 6 Nov 19, 2017

perfectly said!!

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Coming from first hand experience, abortion is entirely up to the person with the fetus growing within them. I couldn't keep mine because my womb would have rejected it later on and caused me more pain than necessary with a miscarriage. That's what happened to my first and so I had to abort the second or wait it out and cause my self more physical and mental pain by having another miscarriage. Now in the case of fertile wombs, its still up to the one carrying for example if they can't afford it or its a rape baby, and yea putting it up for adoption is an option, but some people may experience more emotional hardship if they have to birth a baby they can't keep or don't want a reminder of what happened to them. Basically its up the individual.

alistair Level 4 Nov 19, 2017

Thanks for your post.

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Her body, her choice.

No man or woman should demand a woman carry a baby she can't or doesn't want.

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This shouldn't even be an issue. It's no one's business but each individual woman's.
No one else has any business even expressing an opinion. I don't care what you think of it.
If it isn't your body, and your life, you don't have a right to say anything.

KKGator Level 9 Dec 20, 2017

It's the patriarchal religions that have the men with authority taking over women's lives and bodies. As long as we have the patriarchy we'll have this desire to control women.

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The woman has the right to choose, it's her choice.

It's her body. Period.

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I personally am against abortion. That's why I've never had one.

It's not the government's or religion's place to dictate what a woman should do with their body. Also, unless the man is willing to carry (be pregnant which is impossible at the moment) and raise the child, they essentially have no right to the subject. It really pisses me off when men scream they should have a say, and in the same breath state they will have no part of raising/supporting the child.

kiramea Level 7 Nov 19, 2017

Because men don't (and shouldn't) have any say, they also should be allowed to relinquish all rights and responsibilities associated with the conception. Just my two cents.

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Woman's body, woman's decision. End of story.
I've heard it's awful and wreaks havoc on the body and mind, but that's better than not committing to raising a child because you didn't really want it to exist. I'll never experience that so i can't say, really.

JHeyoka Level 5 Nov 19, 2017

@TSaylors I have a problem with your statement. It takes two to make a child and both adults are responsible for birth control. If there is an arrangement for the man to walk away without responsibility then there is another problem. The child will grow and ask questions and that arrangement may not work out so well if the man now has a life that a previous child may complicate.

that is a very touchy and personal situation and i'm sure it varies wildly from case to case. not touching that with a 10 foot pole, hope i never have to go through it.

Yeah, that kind of shit is a huge problem and very difficult to legally address without a lie detector or something, the sort of thing king solomon was supposedly good at

@betpaq I now have a problem with your statement. There have been instances of men having their semen stolen in various ways. If a woman is pregnant by an unwilling man, and said man has no choice in terminating or carrying the pregnancy to term, why would he not at least have the option to divorce himself completely from the situation? Women should have complete autonomy, but men should have none?

@JeffMurray

Other than at a fertility facility, please give examples of semen stolen from men.

On the flip side of your statement, what responsibility does the man have when rape, incest, pedophilia, and sexual abuse are perpetrated on females. Don't say the law as we all know until recently the law has failed women miserably.

In consensual sex, it is the responsibility of "both" parties to provide birth control. If a man chooses to go natural then he chooses the consequences.

Historically men have been able to walk away from their responsibilities without consequences. Have you heard the term, "Deadbeat Dad" that turn of phrase didn't become well know because of a "one" of".

@betpaq There are a lot of examples and plenty of court cases to go along with them. One case involved a wife giving a used condom from her husband to a friend who used it to get pregnant. She then sued for child support AND WON. The court ruled that, regardless of how the semen ended up in the friend, once the man made the deposit he didn't have an expectation to reclaim it. There are cases of ejaculate from oral sex getting saved and used to impregnate. But that doesn't really even matter. We are discussing what should be, not what is, and there is the possibility of men being forced into genetic fatherhood.

Again, discussing instances where the law failed is not the focus of this discussion. Obviously, if there is a law on the books that a rapist should be financially responsible for offspring, and then wasn't forced to do so, that's not something we can solve by saying the law should be followed. We already agree on that.

As for both parties being responsible for birth control. That's a nice soundbite. But completely unrealistic and one of the vehicles by which women can get away with stealing semen. I have never been with a woman who didn't prefer to not use a condom during sex. I have only been in monogamous sexual relationships with women I loved and trusted. So if that woman told me she was on the pill and/or wouldn't carry a pregnancy to term and that she didn't want me to use a condom, what do you think would happen to the relationship if I essentially told her I didn't believe her or trust her and would only sleep with her with barrier protection? A step further, what if a man DID still use a condom that had a hole poked in it? The man is not "choosing" the consequences, they are inflicted on him because, as we all agree, he has ZERO say in whether or not the pregnancy is terminated.

Do you know what happens to "Deadbeat Dads"? It is definitely not consequence-free. There was a guy that played cards at a local shop that had to get a ride everywhere because the state revoked his license for owing back child support. Anyway, we are again discussing individual instances of someone circumventing existing laws which we both agree shouldn't happen and is not the focus of this discussion. The question is, since a man has no say in whether or not a pregnancy is terminated, why shouldn't he be afforded at least the ability to terminate his rights and responsibilities?

@JeffMurray

The courts may not always be right, some men are deadbeat dad's, some women are thieves, some men are abusive. Some men want the right to insist on an abortion. Some men want the rights to prevent an abortion. We can agree on that.

When it comes down to it, it is about the child's rights and well being once it is born. The parents played footies and the child had no say. You don't penalize the child for the irresponsible behavior of the parents. You penalize the parents.

@betpaq Who said anything about penalizing the child? Women can, and do, have children as single parents all the time (e.g. they want a child, but haven't found the right man, so they artificially inseminate or adopt if possible). So regardless of how the woman got pregnant, if she wants to have the child and the man does not, she can just have it on her own. Surely you're not suggesting women aren't able to raise children on their own?? Cause saying the man has to contribute (financially or otherwise) or it's punishing the child sure sounds like you're saying women are incapable.

Also, if the semen was stolen, how is that "the irresponsible behavior" of the father?

@JeffMurray

I've answered your question and you know where I stand and you have indicated where you stand on this issue. Let's agree to disagree and be done with it for we are at an impasse. No harm, no foul. Okay?

@Betty You did not answer the question, so I cannot agree to disagree at this point. You have painted yourself into a corner. Saying it's punishing the child if the father doesn't contribute is tantamount to saying women are incapable of effectively raising children without some kind of help from a man. You are free to retract that statement if you'd like, but then you no longer have an objection to my original claim. This is not an impasse, this is your failure to support your argument effectively.

@JeffMurray

At no time have I insinuated that women are incapable of raising children on their own.
A child has the right to knowledge of the family and medical history of both parents.
Birth control is the responsibility of both parties involved.
When an unplanned pregnancy occurs both parties should have a conversation about what they want. The choice to abort or not is between the woman and her doctor.
Once a child is born they share half of a parents DNA, you can't divorce that. A child "should" not be penalized for the actions of the parents.

In consensual sex and a child is "born" and the mother chooses to keep that child then arrangement must be agreed upon. There are different kinds of agreements. Financial, physical involvement, or information that the child will need as they grow up or a combination of two or all. A child will want to know if there are half-siblings, grandparents, aunts/uncles, and cousins and should not be denied that information.

This is where I stand on consensual sex that results in an unplanned pregnancy. Criminal actions are a completely different conversation.

@Betty So why exactly did you object to my proposition that men should be allowed to sign away all rights and responsibilities for a child they don't want because they have exactly ZERO PERCENT say in whether or not the fetus is aborted or not?

@JeffMurray

It is not just the man's choice to do so unless the mother agrees to it. The rights and needs of the child must be addressed. When a man walks away and wants nothing to do with the child personally he can't take half of that family history with him. The child has a right to it. His or her heritage, medical history, and family connections at the very least.
No man should have the right to force a woman to have a medical procedure.

Eventually, technology will advance to the point that when a woman refuses to have a child and the man wants the child then the fetus could be transferred to an artificial womb and the father can take custody of the child, then the mother must provide for the child under the conditions of an agreement they forge to provide for the rights of the child.

@Betty So you're saying that a man SHOULD be allowed to sign away rights and responsibilities IF he provides family history information?!? What if he was orphaned and grew up in foster care and doesn't know any of it? You realize that there are tons of humans in the world that have zero family history knowledge, right?

@JeffMurray

That is a different discussion. We weren't talking about orphans.

Yes, men can sign away their rights under certain conditions as I've listed.

@Betty I didn't say sign away rights. I said all rights and responsibilities, and the only condition should be that he doesn't get a say in whether to abort the pregnancy.
And if you really wanted a disclosure clause added in that made the man provide family history he was aware of or had access to, I'd be totally fine with that. I think we're closing the gap on this, and you wanted to agree to disagree.

The only time the father should be asked to help out is if the mother has no one. Not being married is always going to complicate sexual behavior and pregnancy. So, both be informed about contraception. It's also being unfair to the birthed child that is rejected.

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I see it as no ones business but the body it is in. PERIOD.

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100% pro-choice.

The person with the uterus gets to make that call, its theirs and theirs alone.

Sara72712 Level 6 July 18, 2018
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I'm pro-choice for sure. And pro-life would be more properly called anti-woman. If they were so pro-life then why are they against paid maternal leave, food stamps, housing, education, healthcare for the poor, government paid daycare, raising the minimum wage, etc...? It is just their tool to make life harder for women, especially poor women, most especially poor women of color.

Don't you think education would solve a lot?

Totally right. Ask those people to take on all of that or shut up.

@DUCHESSA "Education?" Are you talking about the fact that "contraceptives can/do fail? "How about "men can/do fail us?" How about "we sometimes get carried away and fail ourselves?" Aside from that....what ''education" are you talking about?

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I am absolutely pro-choice. Speaking from experience, I don't recommend it as a form of birth control. It is painful both physically and emotionally.

Deb57 Level 7 Mar 17, 2018

I understand abortion is physically painful because is a surgery....but no emotionally. No in my opinion. See, I feel is a relief for the woman.

@DUCHESSA I think it depends on the reason and circumstance as to whether it takes an emotional toll on the woman - I know several women who have had abortions. All are older now. One is simply glad - others were unable to conceive and had to adopt or use alternative methods of conception, but were emotionally affected, and one has had problems with depression for years. All had different reasons for their choice. We are all different.

@ThinkKate JMHO...But those women "emotionally affected" are / were so because a matter of brain washing.
See, the moment a woman decides to abort -regardless of the reason- she only wants the moment to be over and start to feel -physically- well again.

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I am a firm believer that abortion should be a private decision between the woman and her doctor. No one should have the right to impose their religious beliefs onto another's medical decisions.

Why "and the doctor"? If a woman wishes to abort the opinion of the doctor is ONLY a medical one.

@DUCHESSA Here in Alabama women still have to go through a doctor to have an abortion. We haven't progressed to a point where the meds are available OTC.
I didn't mean to imply that a doctor should have the right to prevent a woman from accessing abortion care.

Needless to say the abortion must be performed by a doctor.

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I think its awful to need one or to have to contemplate one, though I honestly do not see it as "murder" if the embryo cannot survive on it's own. What I do NOT understand is also blocking access to birthcontrol. It's as if folks WANT to beat ladies up over abortion when pregnancy is preventable. Also... if men want to exercise their opinion, why don't THEY do some prevention and not contribute to so much baby making?

Zster Level 8 Nov 19, 2017

To clarify, if a woman were to have an abortion at 23 weeks, you believe she should be charged with murder?

If the fetus is of a maturity to live on it's own and anyone actively kills/has it killed, that could be murder. The abortion places I've known of go to twelve weeks. As I said, why not prevent, rather than terminate?

Patriarchy.

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Yes. Women are adults & entitled to make their own reproductive decisions. Period.

Carin Level 8 Nov 3, 2018
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Pro-choice.

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I feel that as a man, it's none of my damned business what a woman does with her body

heathen77 Level 6 Feb 22, 2018
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I think this is a first amendment issue since most objections to abortion are related to religion. No woman should be forced to carry an unwanted pregnancy to term.

JanGarber Level 7 Feb 12, 2018
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Pro choice. Always have been, always will be.

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Neither my position nor yours, nor that of anyone else in the entire world matters - except for that of the individual woman considering an abortion.

Jnei Level 8 Feb 13, 2019
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She has to grow the damn thing. 100% her choice.

SuziQ Level 4 July 13, 2018
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I believe in the rights of the person to do whatever that person decides to do regarding their body.

paul1967 Level 8 Mar 25, 2018
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