Yes. 100% yes. Phylis was a family friend who made carrot cake for the holidays every year and would give them to her family and included us. When she died of cancer, there were a few years without carrot cake. Now I make about 30 carrot cakes and 150 cupcakes and deliver them to friends and family between Thanksgiving and Christmas. When I do it, I think of how much work Phylis put into this and how she included us. I remember how she used to yell at my father and put him in his place when he needed it. I remember the first time my father apologized. I was 24 and being deployed and he screamed at me when I told him. Phylis yelled at him and changed my relationship with my father forever. When ever a friend loses someone, I bring them "Fuck Cancer" cupcakes and tell them about Phylis and what a difference she made in my life and how my memory of her changes me and changes the world.
I don't want to be remembered for anything but to know that I lived a life worth remembering. I want to make a difference that outlives me, by even 5 minutes, because then I will have changed the world. I won't care once I'm dead as I'll be gone, but I care now.
I'd settle for being remembered while I'm still alive.
Keeping it real... This is good !!!!
Not really. I sometimes fantasise about the possibility of contributing some novel software invention to humanity, but it's pretty unlikely. My creations are pretty mundane in the overall scheme of things. I am forced to accept that even if by chance I was remembered for something, it wouldn't be for very long.
I tend to derive more solace from the idea of being a link in the chain, doing my part etc. While we may not individually make a great impact on the course of history, in a sense every single one of us really does influence many things. Every action we take, every conversation, every person we interact with, all has flow on effects that multiply in so many complex ways. We are all embedded in the human story and the story of the universe, and cannot be removed from it. Even if no one remembers our names, we all make a difference to those around us, and those differences all add up over time.
Of course eventually the universe will suffer heat death and then nothing will matter anyway. But we can all enjoy our brief time and be thankful of those we share it with and some who have gone before.
I guess it would depend on how I am remembered and I guess that's dependent on how I live
By my family would be nice. I’m not going to be around so it doesn’t really matter.
No, I don’t. I have asked my family to cremate me when I die. So the funeral service will be held only with the family members at home or restaurant.
No. As a former teacher, college instructor, and staff developer for public schools, as well as simple contacts as a person, I know that I have influenced hundreds, if not thousands of people. From feedback I know that for many that influence was highly positive. I don't care if those influenced don't remember where he influence came from. But, I do take pride in the fact that the influence occurred.
Not really, i'll be remembered by those whose lives i touched for a short time, then they too will be gone ?
Nobody is remembered after they die. To prove it, tell me all about your great-great-great- grandmother.
A person dies twice. Once as they go in the ground and again the last time their name is uttered.
I would like to be remembered, but only if it inspires or brings a smile.
That's quite depressing and true.
Not really. Just my having lived and interacted with people has changed the world (I think for the better). I don't feel a need to be remembered, because I know the world is better place for my having been in it whether or nothing anyone remembers me. That is enough for me.