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When you've fallen for someone who isn't right for you

"Everything in our life is a reflection of the choices we have made, and once we’ve exhausted all possibilities, we need to start making new decisions."


UrsiMajor 8 Dec 20
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What a well written article....

Lavergne Level 8 Dec 23, 2018

I think you can exhaust just a few possibilities. Maybe one.


@proudmary she requested a tag in my message box

UrsiMajor Level 8 Dec 20, 2018

One of my problems is after awhile I start to see the "possibilities " again ?

hippydog Level 8 Dec 20, 2018

We can do thid. 12 step program if necessary.

@UrsiMajor I did AA when I was much younger.. in this case the damage is not near as bad as alcohol lol.. I will survive..

I'm currently in a weird on/off relationship myself.. right now we are more "good friends with benefits " then gf/bf ..
I have reread the article many times as it hits so close to home.. but then I think about it and then maybe it doesnt. ie: I WOULD like something more serious (we have tried that too) but it always seems to cause it's own problems.. and if i am being honest , i have also enjoyed the freedoms it gives me.
Augh.. lol i hate not being normal at times.


Good advice, but not so easy to follow when the hormones kick in. I have been there a couple of times. The last time, though, showed me what I should strive for.

JackPedigo Level 9 Dec 20, 2018

Wow.. I totally get that.. (the link)..

hippydog Level 8 Dec 20, 2018

In my life, two passions, neither "right"...


I've been there and done that. They meant more to me than I meant to them. Thankfully that is done with. It doesn't even bother me when I ruin into him anymore.

Cabsmom Level 8 Dec 20, 2018

I had to break up with a person because of religion. Nice girl but I can't deal with that again. EVER!

MrChange Level 7 Dec 20, 2018

Yeah, sometimes it's hard to listen to people when they tell you who they are. When someone tells you all they want is sex, it just might be a deal-breaker as well.

@MissKathleen Obviously, I need a life-coach or 6. My ex-husband told me he needed constant sex at the end of our relationship. Like all of the time. This was one of maybe 12 red flags on top of the iceberg. So nowm when attractive guys tell me they want mainly sex in the relationship, I think this is normal. Our office player had to have a heart-to-heart talk to me and say, "If you get confused. just ask yourself:What would your father say?"

@UrsiMajor constant sex is subjective. After 12 years I still wanted it every day. Some people think twice a week is a lot. It really depends on the person and how high the sex drive is.


Oh my! This is a good article thanks for sharing!

SukiSue Level 8 Dec 20, 2018

Love your new profile pic. You look great.

@UrsiMajor hahaha! I don't look shocked or appalled? I was going for shocked and appalled! Lol ...but thanks.

@SukiSue You look like a female warrior or a superhero . Or an opera singer. Maybe an opera-singing superhero. Fabulous.


I can't even meet anyone to fall for, sigh.

@MissKathleen Not looking so much as hoping it finds me.. I tried looking and got nothing.

@Hippiechick58 Me too ! I can't seem to connect with men. I guess it's just going to be me ,my imagination and jason Momoa.

@MissKathleen not yet! but when I find one I'm going to post it on my ceiling above my bed.

@MissKathleen I'll keep that in mind, but I'm not optimistic.

@MissKathleen That is my method now, I'm doing what I want to do, getting out as I need and want to. If I find someone, great. If not I'm still living my life doing what I want to do.

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