This sheds some light - but our adult experiences can also affect our willingness and ability to allow vulnerability and intimacy. After all, I’ve been a supposed adult far longer than i was a child.

For me the hole intimacy feeling dangerous framework has collapsed in on itself leaving unchallenged points as in I want to try this or I want to try that but only a few options on how I can go about working towards the same result the problem is that polyamory becomes the issue I want to be monogamous but I do not have that option and it is not under my control nor can it be

I just can't give up intimacy while leaving you vulnerable is how life works without it life isn't worth living

Some of this rings true. Being highly sensitive also had something to do with it for me, because my sisters didn't have the same issues with relationships and intimacy. I was always afraid of rocking the boat, but I also knew that when I got hurt, it devastated me to no end and no one really knew how to deal with this. My sisters would find their way through their hurt and disappointment, while I just withdrew... Thank goodness that's changed for me.

You know, after reading this article, I have to say that it may be true for some, but not me personally. I will not air on a public forum how it was different for me personally, but let's just say my reaction was the complete opposite of what this article was suggesting.

I had a fairly Dysfunctional Family but filled with love and Trust so that evidently means I can have real intimacy. It's definitely worth working for