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Is there such a person as a soulmate?

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Yes, there is. It also also rare and few will experience it.

Mitch07102 Level 8 July 16, 2019

True like maybe you live in America and they live hundreds of miles out in the bush in Australia


I don’t believe in the concept that we each have one person who is our perfect match. I have come close, and it was delightful. I would like to find at least that amount of connection with someone else someday.

UUNJ Level 8 July 16, 2019

I’m not sure. I thought my first husband, father of my kids, was. We couldn’t have been closer, more open, more passionate. Yet it fell apart within five years.
I don’t ever want to love that hard again, it hurts too much. If that means I have no soulmate, so be it.
I don’t know if humans are meant to always have just one love in a lifetime, or just one that’s ‘perfect’. Just my opinion, of course.


I wouldn't have thought so myself until I met (and later lost) one of my own. Even if she wasn't a literal soulmate, it certainly felt like it. Still does.


I had two relationships in my life that I easily could call soulmate... but since they fell apart, I believe ANY relationship has that same possibility. Even if another soulmate exists that doesn’t automatically mean the relationship will last. Never take a good one for granted!!


Alvin Toffler (In his book, Future Shock) pointed out that the growing population has a reverse affect on our finding and staying with a "soulmate"; the more crowded it gets, the harder it becomes to find, and stay with, that "ideal" partner.

"When neighbors are not physically "close by" you seek them out, you make friends. As our neighborhood has grown, your desire to "know your neighbor" diminishes...."

"We live longer, go through more changes faster than ever. Thus it's harder to stay and continue on a parallel development path with the "soulmate" today than it was decades, and centuries ago".


John B. Calhoun did the science on this, in his landmark study "Population Density and Social pathology" '62.

Basically he said, the more crowded it gets, the crazier we get, the more sexually deviant/asexual we become, the more child neglect/abuse evolves, the more we hoard, the greedier we become.


Robecology Level 9 July 17, 2019

They both are spot on. Population density definitely makes it more likely that everyone is exposed to different patterns of behavior and therefore more open to all kinds of experiences that they wouldn't have never considered before.


Interesting question. Please define the term. Then please explain if and why it is important.

The definitions provided here are so vague and general as to be useless. I agree with you. Define the term.


I can't help but think the harder you look for something like this the more disappointment with ensue. Perhaps that's too cynical of an answer, and I think the concept is romantic but not necessarily realistic without knowing that person for a while.


That's like asking me if I can find someone in god. I don't believe in a soul, nor a soul mate. However, it appears that your supplied Webster's definition is a good description of a harmonious relationship. I can get behind that. But i don't like the "soul mate" term as it implies other fallacies.

RSB made this post.


Came close once very close

bobwjr Level 9 July 16, 2019

It depends on what you mean.

I think some couples are so well connected...."in love"... and everything, that I see no problem with the term soul mate.

What I do have a problem with is the idea that there is only one possible match for everyone that would meet this criteria.

Cabsmom Level 8 July 20, 2019

There are potentially dozens for all of us. Hundreds maybe.

I sure hope so. I connected with one man quickly...although we weren't soul mates because his feelings were not near that strong.

I'm hoping to NOT settle for a "meh" relationship...while not being so picky that I miss out on a potential GREAT relationship.


If soul mate equals perfect match, I'd say yes...


Delusional bullshit got the most votes.

St-Sinner Level 9 July 17, 2019

The actual definition asks for a belief in the supernatural, karma or god..

hippydog Level 8 July 17, 2019

True ...although I'm ok with people using that phrase if they choose. Heck, if I ever find that type of relationship with a man, I might use that


There are bunch of them out there . Stop looking for One person only, For Fucks sakes give the World a chance .

GEGR Level 7 July 17, 2019

I just want the world to give -me- a chance.


While it's not a scientific study , seems to me , as we've become less dependent , we've become less willing to force ourselves , to stay with someone whom we've learned , is not someone we would choose to stay with . The more we're around someone , the more we learn about who they truly are , and not the face they put on to , "win," our acceptance . But yes , I do believe that there are truly those who , always make us feel great when we are in their presence . And if it works for both of them , then I would consider them soul mates .

Cast1es Level 9 July 19, 2019

Those who meet that one and can hang on are indeed special thru ourt life

RoyMillar Level 9 July 18, 2019

Yeah......., no.

MsHoliday Level 8 July 17, 2019

I had one for 38 years. I'm hoping there's another one somewhere.

Lorajay Level 8 July 16, 2019

I don't think so. I think there are handfuls of people one may be perfectly compatible with and their values perfectly alligned, but that does not mean they are "the one". That just means you have a very good compatibility with this person, in all respects intellectually, emotionally, sexually, physically, psychologically (ie temperaments, conflict resolution styles), etc.


Stop believing in fantasies .

GEGR Level 7 July 17, 2019

My sister has been married 36 years this week. He's perfect for her, he'd drive me mad within days. I thought I had met one once, but he reneged and broke promises; so that wasn't to be. I'd like to meet someone strong enough to be my soulmate, but I'm not sure he exists.


i'm looking

TheDoubter Level 9 July 16, 2019

One may think he has found it but I think it is delusional.

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