After some reflection, I can't remember having had this experience.

I had a similar thing happen with someone I dated two weeks. It never would have worked and she was the one to call it, but I still think about her every day. It actually would have probably been a toxic relationship, but for some reason, the chemistry was off the charts. The loss feels more poignant than the ending of a 3.5 year relationship that happened about a month before I met her. I can't really explain it. I mean, I could probably come up with some intellectual explanation, but from an emotional standpoint, it makes no sense.

There is always more than one person out there for us , the dilemma is will we come across their path ? You had a moment, unfortunately you weren’t able to explore it to your liking. Be careful not to get attached to the experience/ memory , it’s gone . Perhaps your paths will cross again but definitely do your best not to compare any incoming opportunities with that experience; if you are or do ,you will miss out on a possible connection with someone else.

I think sometimes when we go out on dates it is either that we are attracted to ,or have that feeling,,but if both are just attracted to,but do not have internal emotions on the first date to want to take if further,,then nothing ,There has to be a will on both sides plus an connection feeling,,sometimes a date is just a date to get together with someone for a night on the toen show or dinner and thats about it,,both have an enjoyable evening but it is more like friends on a date without benefits and nothing wrong with that now and again and who knows what doors that may open for the future

As always. With all of you guys. Glad to see we are not alone in our quest. I have met men that seem to be everything I want, but if I cannot feel that spark I know it is useless. I often give any relationship time to develop, but I have lived with a man when the spark wasn’t there, and I was miserable. (I cannot understand how anybody can marry for money and not feel hollow inside. I couldn’t.)

I am with you there sister, you feel that spark of chemistry right away and I have been on a few dates these last couple of months and the guys were nice enough but no spark, nothing to make me want a second date and it had nothing to do with anything they said or did.

When that happens, it's usually chemistry first, then personalities kick in. At least that's been my experience.

Do you... Don't worry about what others think... It's your life...

Sometimes, it's the not having that makes it special.

It happens to the best of us. Often you can't really explain what makes that person special. You just know what you feel

So stop trying to understand and enjoy the feeling.

Been to that place twice, with no regrets. Shows me I have the capacity for such feelings...I calling it loving with passion.

I’ve felt that attraction and it intensifies when it’s mutual. I think it has to do with our need to be wanted and accepted and complimented and loved. When someone shows that to us it sorta opens us up, make ourselves vulnerable, able to let ourselves go in a mutually trusting situation. I don’t know, maybe I’m just a dreamer, a romantic who craves acceptance and caves when it happens.

I always say 'if it happened once, it can happen again!'

Yeah had that it hurts