I think I read you - sexual openness makes for better intimacy, right ? I'm not sure that's always true, but it's what I read you as saying. Good post. It makes me think.

Hmmmm.
Getting back to the subject of intimacy, I think it involves unrestricted openness.

...when she says "don't make me climax" ?

Sex is easy. Intimacy is not.

Who even said here that restricted sex is not real intimacy? You are confused. People are allowed to have boundaries/limits on what they will or will not do, and shaming them by saying they are not being truly intimate is wrong. But do you I guess.

"Restricted sex" needs to be better defined before I begin to break apart your argument.

What do you mean by " restricted sex", my first thought is you want to be able to do what ever you want with whom you want or with your partner and that they should be willing to go along because you want it. You need to define what you are talking about here, because we all are not understanding you. For me to be intimate, there has to be mutual respect of each others wants, needs and boundaries.

what's restricted mean -- Monday, Wednesday, Friday?

Real intimacy is different to different people. Real intimacy to me is having two toilets in one bathroom so we are never separated.

This doesn't make sense. There are so many intimate relationships that don't have unrestricted sex.

And who gets to decide what is restricted and unrestricted? Is there pain involved in 'unrestricted' sex? Sorry, this sounds like a load of BS to me. Intimacy involves caring for one another and that usually includes limits.

I did google ‘restricted sex’ and guess what? It’s not a thing. What did you mean??

Restricted ?

Real Intimacy is in the minds joining ,everything else is a prelude to make it happen ,

I am not sure what you mean by “restricted sex”. Everyone has their limits, some much more than others. Please explain.