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Whats your best garage sale find?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 14, 2018:

Quite a few things over the years but the one that sprang to mind first was a poster sized charcoal drawing of a native american woman. She is off center and vaguely looked like me. People assumed it was me when I was younger LOL No matter how much downsizing I had to do, that damn thing has moved with me. When we have hurricane scares, it is wrapped in plastic and put between the mattress and box spring. Ive had it for at least 35 years and paid 5 bucks for it

Syrian conflict sparked a thought, would we the human race still fight and kill each other if no ...

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 14, 2018:

Probably

Anyone else in my age bracket having this issue?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 13, 2018:

I get what you are saying. A number of years ago I started seeing this guy and he was awkward. Both physically and socially yet the sex was surprisingly mind blowing. I will say that he did not speak of sex when we first started hanging out together. I have never had a strong sex drive so I was surprised at how much of it we had but outside of sex there was nothing there. I think we lasted 3 months before his non sexual behavior overcame the sexual gratification So yeah, sex is icing.

Is an affair always wrong????

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 13, 2018:

Yup. If the spouse is ok with a side piece then it is not an affair.

Does anybody else here think that your atheism/agnosticism is actually a pretty uninteresting part ...

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 13, 2018:

Yup. But. When my kids were young, I didnt actually pretend to be a believer but made a big deal about how the bible was bunk and disliked organized religion which made people think that I was a believer but just disliked church. When I was finally able to be open about it, I was a bit of an asshole about it and felt compelled to be in your face about it. Which made it a big part of my identity for a while. Now it rarely comes up in most interactions with people and only becomes known after someone has known me for a while and is part of some other subject being discussed

It's never too late for ________ (fill in the blank).

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 13, 2018:

To use birth control?

My mother died last evening of cancer. Though we were estranged to some degree I am terribly sad ?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 13, 2018:

I am so sorry. My father and I did not know each other well and had just started having a relationship when he died when I was 31. I understand the kind of the sadness that comes from that.

What’s your experience with family after rejecting the religion that was forced on you as a child?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 13, 2018:

Except for a 7 year period when my mother was married to an abusive cult leader wannabe, I rarely went to a church and even then it was when sleeping over at a friends houses. They all believe/d but didnt/dont attend church. I come from a family that had the "as long as you don't screw up my life, I don't care what you do or are." The down side to this is that they also wanted to turn a blind eye to abuse because "none of my business" I adore my moms third husband which she married nearly 40 years ago but even he and my mom are always on me for giving a shit about others misfortunes. They think I need to mind my own business or tend to my own problems

So I am cleaning up my FB account, and finding a lot of gems.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 13, 2018:

I remember the days when I participated in conversations consisting of mostly memes. I probably have a couple thousand still on my hard drive. Then Trump came along and I spend all my time worrying about Trumpageddon

I think that most people have a "go to" comfort food that connects us to others in our families or a...

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 12, 2018:

My grandmother made pot roast for birthdays or special occasions. Of course it was delicious because she was the 13th kid born on a southern Indiana farm and she cooked from scratch but even though I know better, I would have sworn I could taste the love. Damn. I love pot roast

Anyone ever had anything bad happen on Friday the 13th?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 12, 2018:

I had my daughter barely at 17 and was almost immediately pregnant again. I miscarried unknowingly because I was still quite ignorate about life and damage was done. When I was older, I tried for years to carry a child but couldn't stay pregnant beyond the 5th month. So I gave up and bought a mustang. A year later I am pregnant, carry to nearly 7 months and he was born on Friday the 13th I also bought a house with a credit score of 666. I actually have that letter somewhere

What's something good happening in your life right now/soon? Something you're excited about?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 12, 2018:

Im creating a cactus garden in a corner of the yard where little will grow. Ordered 200 glow in the dark pebbles for it even though I havent even gotten the regular rocks yet.

Who does this? I'm usually a good guest no matter how long I've known you.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 12, 2018:

My best friend from childhood and I had this type of friendship where we were went into the fridge or pantry but we also knew where everything was kept LOL I have no other person outside of relatives that I would do that with now.

Should we have intelligence thresholds for voting?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 12, 2018:

Who or what determines that threshold? No

Total Eclipse of the Heart Literal Video Version - YouTube

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 11, 2018:

LMFAO

Anyone listen to Zuckerberg today?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 11, 2018:

I did not listen but I am of the opinion that people should be aware that nothing is truly free. I knew when I joined it that anything they found out about me would be used for their benefit. People want free shit but are too lazy or greedy to take the necessary steps to protect themselves and now want the government to punish Zuckerberg for their own failures. Sure it was worse than most people thought but there were people out there that knew and told others. Hell, I downloaded TOR because of that but never took the time to install it and learn how to use it. That's on me

I am 56 years old.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 11, 2018:

Im in a similar situation because my lifelong friend and I had to part ways. I have to be in bed well before dark so I cant socialize to make new friends and have learned the hard way that being friends with co workers is a bad idea. Have decided to volounteer. It may not make me any real friends but at least I will be doing something rewarding

What do you know about Crypto currency?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 11, 2018:

Over the course of a few months, I put about $300 into it spread among the top 3 and have let it ride. It was saved money from something that cost less than expected so figured wtf. Gonna go check my balance now

Have you ever felt guilty about how you treated someone.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 11, 2018:

Yes. I couldnt make it right with the people I hurt for various reasons but the guilt keeps from doing it again.

Is it only on iPhones that this app doesn't spellcheck?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 11, 2018:

Doesnt spell check on my laptop either

Single Life

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 10, 2018:

Roughly 7 years

What are you thoughts on paying bills in a relationship. Should the man pay all the bills?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 10, 2018:

IMO three accounts are best with the household account determined by income.

Do you find yourself spending more time on Agnostic.com and less time on facebook and other sites?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 10, 2018:

Yes

Not getting everything we want is part of living.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 10, 2018:

I settled on living in my current town with a bad rep rather than the one I work in. Even bad towns have good neighborhoods My house payment is half of my coworkers. Sure my property is worth less than theirs but my taxes are lower, I don't have code enforcement up my ass and i have spending money. I didn't buy it as an investment, I bought it to live in. I live in area where rents are insanely high and my payment is about half of what renting it would be

Estranged Children

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 10, 2018:

My youngest fell in with a group of gun nut, conspiracy theorist, Alex Jones fans and became quite the racist fuckwit. Since his niece and nephew are half black, I chose my grandchildren

Opinions about Myers-Briggs Type Indicator?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 10, 2018:

Taken the online version several times and can't recall the last letter

Hi.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 10, 2018:

Lol

I enjoy walking through old cemeteries, do YOU?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 10, 2018:

I love them. I've geocached them often

Dating: what's your ideal age range? How important is age?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 10, 2018:

I was young when I had my daughter and although I have dated both older and younger, I have felt that a few years plus or minus would be best for me. But I appear at least 10 years younger and when coupled with my daughter's propensity for dating a bit older, I find myself in an uncomfortable position.

How original is your site name? I swiped mine from pop-culture.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 8, 2018:

Pretty original since it's my actual name lol

Is there intelligent life out there in the universe?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 3, 2018:

I think there must be

What's the best bit of advice you've ever been given?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 3, 2018:

If you want your children to come to you, don't freak out when they do. My children came to me with a pregnancy scare and questions about drugs or other mischief because I never assumed a question about something meant they were doing it.

Does someone have to be college educated to be intelligent?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 3, 2018:

I think intelligence is innate; education is pursued.

Kind of weird how there levels on here but whatever

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 3, 2018:

I thought so at first but it does keep out spammers. You can get to level 5 or 6 rather quickly but gotta be a power user to get any higher LOL

A big thank-you to the site! I just recieved my free "Agnostic.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 3, 2018:

I can't get to 7.1 much less 8 LOL

Anybody participating in a community garden?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 3, 2018:

I WISH my neighborhood would do this

Favorite JEWISH foods?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 3, 2018:

A couple of women in my local Humanist group refer to themselves as food jews

Does anyone here also enjoy a dark sense of humor?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 3, 2018:

When I had cancer, I joked about death all the time. I very much have a dark sense of humor. Even macabre. Everyone says I'm funny but people in past relationships got tired of it.

How do Believers become Non-Believers

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 3, 2018:

I was raised by people who believed in a higher power but did not actually attend services when I was really young. By the time I was exposed to church, I was at a questioning age. My questions were met with anger and punishment and instead of putting the fear of god in me, I felt resentment and had more questions. Then I was forced to read the bible by people who had never read it themselves LOL

Sorry, I don't know all the protocols for this site.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 3, 2018:

You will figure it out quickly enough.

I think we need to start a new holiday for us non-believers.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 1, 2018:

Ive always called them half price candy day

Anyone else have a chronic illness that changed your perspective on life?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 1, 2018:

I used to be a miserable unhappy person. Also extremely conservative. Held a grudge like a champ. My brother was murdered and I wasn't speaking to him at the time. My father and I had never really known each other but spent some time talking after my brother died which was good since he was dead a year later. Then my daughter took an interest in dating black boys. I became woke as they say. Didnt take long for me to see the error of my ways. Then 12 years ago I was diagnosed with cancer. I was initially told I was end stage but that was a mistake and I didnt even have to have chemo. During that first two weeks that I thought I was going to die before my youngest child reached adulthood, I did a lot of changing. I ended up losing everything I owned excepting my truck and dog and even had to be a roommate for years but the changes stuck. Most of the changes stuck

What does compatible mean to you?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 1, 2018:

I think at this point in my life that we need to be politically similar.. Athough not necessarily a dealbreaker, I think that people that come from vastly different backgrounds will struggle more. It has been my experience that the one with the most money will try to exert more power even if unknowingly. Same with people who have a superior education. I have been on both sides economically and usully the better educated. Looking back, I think I was guilty of that a bit.

How do you feel about the person you're dating talking about their ex?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 1, 2018:

Depends largely on the type of talking. If he has nothing nice to say about her, I figure that someday it will be me he is trashing. Conversely if he can't stop talking about great she was, I figure he is going to be going back to her someday

What's the most ridiculous thing you've bought?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 1, 2018:

I spent $500 bucks on one pre-owned Barbie doll. If I had to guess, I spent a total of 5k on Barbies back in the day.

What's the funniest joke you've heard?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 1, 2018:

What do you call a boomerang that doesnt return? a stick

I am looking to possibly move in the next 18 months or so.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 1, 2018:

I live in Fort Pierce which some call southern central Florida. We refer to ourselves as south Florida. I lived in central Florida for 10 years. The public transportation down here is rudimentary but growing. Rent is becoming obscenely high whereas house payments are pretty low. Fewer jobs that pay well but cost of living is low compared to central Fl

Facebook has labeled you as either Liberal, Moderate or Conservative. Want to find out which it is?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Mar 31, 2018:

The only thing they have wrong is that facebook thinks I live away from my hometown when I do live in my hometown. I was not in my hometown when I first joined facebook however. Edit: I dug in a little deeper and it also shows me to be living in a house with non relatives. Again, when I joined Facebook, I was in a roommate situation. Dayum.

What was your best experience with drugs or alcohol? Your worst experience?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Mar 31, 2018:

Drank some mushroom tea back in 82 and have never vomited as much as I did that night. For years I wouldn't eat anything that a mushroom touched. Nowadays i can pick them out my food but if I let myself think about it, I get ill

Just googled something in relation to a post someone has made here.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Mar 29, 2018:

We were too poor to have a set in the house and I envied my chums that had them. So when my children were young, I bought a set. They were rarely used but they were there.

Eating out alone?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Mar 28, 2018:

It is one of the few things that I find disconcerting or boring to do alone

Would you date a person with a speach impediment?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Mar 28, 2018:

It wouldnt be a dealbreaker for me. My granddaughter has an impediment and although she has to repeat or rephrase, she seems ok so far but is only 11 I worry that it will be used as weapon when she is older since she is mixed race in a redneck area.

Gratitude?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Mar 28, 2018:

In 1978 when I was 16, I had to leave home for self preservation and ended up in West Virginia. I was sleeping in a hospital when a nurse took me home with her. She had a newborn and even though I was grateful, it was years before I fully understood the risk she took. I wish I could find her but I do not even remember the name of the town; just that the name snake river had something to do with the location.

Is it getting harder for the level 7 and level 8 users on here to come up with topics that aren't ...

Lucy_Fehr comments on Mar 27, 2018:

yup

Have you ever had a prank backfire?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Mar 27, 2018:

My granddaughter went through a phase where she thought she could be a ninja and kept trying to sneak into my room and scare me. I waited til she was next to my bed and screamed at her, she screamed and farted. Thought I would die laughing I posted on another thread about the two pranks I pulled that backfired.

Since my mid forties, I have found myself becoming progressively more of an introvert.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Mar 27, 2018:

Im becoming more solitary but when Im around people, Im still as talkative as I ever was

Picture of my tomato plants and me yesterday.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Mar 27, 2018:

Nice.

The governor signed the paperwork for certain staff and teachers to carry guns in school.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Mar 26, 2018:

My first thought when I heard this proposed was that we see cell videos of teachers abusing kids regularly and that a teacher will shoot a child, will claim self defense and will get away with it.

Anyone wanting a travel/camping buddy in the near future?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Mar 26, 2018:

But you're so far away

I am curious what some of you think.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Mar 26, 2018:

Most of the people I know with an employer provided phone also has a personal one with the exception of one person who does not have any social media accounts or even a computer. The others that do not carry a personal cell have no problem giving the number to non business related people so he does not need to hide you from his employer.

50 & Up

Lucy_Fehr comments on Mar 25, 2018:

Yes, but. I got hurt at work when I was in my late 40s and became much less active. I am also a boredom snacker. So I do blame my weight gain on lifestyle. I did notice however that where the fat is has changed.

How do you deal with Backstabbers in the workplace?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Mar 25, 2018:

Depends on the situation. Can they do me any harm? If not, I tend to ignore it since I rarely care about any of them on a personal level. If they are in a position to cause me harm or annoy me significantly then I pretend I didn't find out until I figure out the best way to neutralize the harm. It would make me sound really really bad if I explained any further ;}

I need to take a break from this lovely place.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Mar 25, 2018:

Sorry to hear that. We will be here when you come back

I was just wondering, are there any cancer survivors here?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Mar 25, 2018:

I think Im at 12 years now but I only recall one significant discussion about how god should have the credit for curing me. I responded with god gets the blame for giving me cancer then. I also said that I credited well trained doctors and modern medicine for my cure

How old were you when you got married for the first time?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Mar 25, 2018:

17

Have you ever had a frenemy?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Mar 25, 2018:

Nope. I do have friends that I like to be faux enemies with. We call each other names and say really harsh shit to each other but help each other happily as well.

Are you pulling any April Fool's Day pranks on Easter?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Mar 25, 2018:

My pranks backfire. Once I gave my son condoms as a gag gift; his excitement and declaration that he really needed them definately made the joke on me. My daughter at one time had my only grandkids so she enjoyed an elevated status. My son, daughter in law and myself cooked up a plan to convince my daughter they were having a baby. We all expected her to be unhappy about it. Nope she was so damn happy and excited that her baby brother was gonna have a baby that she cried. So we felt like assholes. The only "prank" that ever succeeded was when I heard someone was gonna egg me from their car so I hid in my boat and threw spoiled eggs in their car when they pulled up

Good morning everyone.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Mar 25, 2018:

Telling someone that their grandparent is gonna pass soon is not a psychic ability. It's a fact of life that old people die. I went to cassadaga once for shits and giggles and was told that something was going on in my stomach area. I was of menopausal age so yeah, no shit. But that is such a vague comment that could be about anything from constipation to cancer. There is a reason that they must take your hand; many health or behavioural clues can be gleaned from your nails and skin but the main reason is be able to tell when their vague comments strike a nerve.

Facebook has been collecting call history and SMS data from Android devices - The Verge

Lucy_Fehr comments on Mar 25, 2018:

I wasn't all that upset about them collecting the data we put on facebook since the use of a free site means you gotta give up something. This however does disturb me because now they have data that should have nothing to do with facebook.

What are the stereotypes of the place you live that false/true?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Mar 25, 2018:

In addition to my fellow Floridians comments I add that we are not all palm trees, surf and sand. Florida has many quite primitive looking areas.

Have you dated someone YEARS younger or older?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Mar 25, 2018:

Many many years ago I dated someone 19 years older. My family pressured me to end it but I wouldn't for quite a while. I think the differences in our socio-economic backgrounds were the biggest problem. In my early 30s I dated someone 15 years younger. Much bigger mistake and had nothing to do with socio-economic status; he was simply too young for me. Being a few years older than my child was too messy.

My spouse is a gambeling addict.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Mar 23, 2018:

In my experience you can't. If even if they are recovered, there is always the threat of relapse. If there is a relapse, you will be blamed for it by not only them but most everyone around you.

In honor of Women's History Month in the US: [theguardian.com] Has anyone seen this?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Mar 23, 2018:

I think she had a lot to do with why atheists are perceived as angry.

Who Is ready for summer?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Mar 23, 2018:

I live in Florida- it's summer 10 months out of the year LOL

Great Pacific Garbage Patch Has Quadrupled, Maybe Even 16-upled in Size... [livescience.com]

Lucy_Fehr comments on Mar 23, 2018:

Not that I wanted to "like" the post.

Does online dating actually result in long term happy relationships?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Mar 23, 2018:

I come from a generation that still finds it distasteful to use online dating. A general sense of being desperate or pathetic. I'm betting the percentage of my age group that is digitally savvy is much lower than it is for the under 40 crowd

Do you have a best friend that you talk to often or see frequently to have fun?