Has anyone here ever felt good about online dating apps etc.?

Cutiebeauty comments on Nov 2, 2019:

I've not used dating apps.. It doesn't seem right or safe...

demifeministgal replies on Nov 4, 2019:

@Cutiebeauty ahh I see... to be fair there are just many predators in life/society in general... I don't know if they congregate on dating sites or if they are more likely to be found at clubs, bars or singles meetups/events. :s

I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?

demifeministgal comments on Oct 31, 2019:

It seems the seniors here are vehemently opposed to anyone taking a nude and think that a ruined reputation and ruined career are just punishments for making the foolish mistake of taking a nude... for me, the punishment is way too excessive and should not fit the stupidity... then there's the funny...

demifeministgal replies on Nov 4, 2019:

@AnneWimsey And you are amazingly outdated and archaic... clearly this is a discussion to be had amongst younger women as all old women can offer is judgement, condemnation and condescension... go to bed grandma... we are done here. As I said elsewhere, older does not always mean wiser.

I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?

Beowulfsfriend comments on Oct 30, 2019:

In this day and age - best strategy in my book is no nudes. In either direction. I won't send or receive, not that many would want my current nude ass, maybe in my 20's lol.

demifeministgal replies on Nov 4, 2019:

@K9Kohle789 really? If it was a general you ya wouldn't have asked if I was raised in an orphanage... you would have asked if PEOPLE (including trans women) were raised in orphanages without a parental unit to advise them not to do this... at least have some damn integrity to ADMIT that you were trying to shit talk me and it has backfired on you immensely... I cannot respect a cowardly liar. tsk tsk shame older but not wiser :/

Poll: Can we not have questions directed at one group or another without the other non-requested ...

KKGator comments on Nov 3, 2019:

I saw the poll in question. I didn't respond because I'm not here for dating, but I didn't see anything wrong with the member's questions. It related to female reactions. I don't understand what the big hairy deal was.

demifeministgal replies on Nov 4, 2019:

damn what poll is this?? Now I am so damn curious :(

Has anyone here ever felt good about online dating apps etc.?

Cutiebeauty comments on Nov 2, 2019:

I've not used dating apps.. It doesn't seem right or safe...

demifeministgal replies on Nov 4, 2019:

why not right? :s Like immoral? Or it doesn't feel organic? Or what

I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?

Beowulfsfriend comments on Oct 30, 2019:

In this day and age - best strategy in my book is no nudes. In either direction. I won't send or receive, not that many would want my current nude ass, maybe in my 20's lol.

demifeministgal replies on Nov 4, 2019:

@K9Kohle789 I will say I have used my brain WAAY more in this exchange than you have... so of the two of us who was raised in the system exactly? Because I can not be a victim of a crime and still empathize with victims of said crimes.... you however seem to struggle in that regard. tsk tsk

I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?

Beowulfsfriend comments on Oct 30, 2019:

In this day and age - best strategy in my book is no nudes. In either direction. I won't send or receive, not that many would want my current nude ass, maybe in my 20's lol.

demifeministgal replies on Nov 4, 2019:

@K9Kohle789 LOL You reeeally need to specify if you are using general you or specific you because none of your accusations apply to me. Though that hasn't stopped you from feeling intellectually superior by creating a false caricature of me. You silly lady XD

I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?

JacarC comments on Oct 31, 2019:

Second thought: To paraphrase warren buffet, "never do anything you would not want to see on the front page of the new york times." This means, don't do stupid shit. You will regret it.

demifeministgal replies on Nov 4, 2019:

@Cutiebeauty, @Jacar NO IMAGES for you mister! haha >: D

I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?

JacarC comments on Oct 31, 2019:

Second thought: To paraphrase warren buffet, "never do anything you would not want to see on the front page of the new york times." This means, don't do stupid shit. You will regret it.

demifeministgal replies on Nov 4, 2019:

@Cutiebeauty what who me?? Or jacar? I never refer to the trump handbook nor will I ever... I am THANKFULLY a Canadian and trump can go fck himself with a cactus.

I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?

demifeministgal comments on Oct 31, 2019:

It seems the seniors here are vehemently opposed to anyone taking a nude and think that a ruined reputation and ruined career are just punishments for making the foolish mistake of taking a nude... for me, the punishment is way too excessive and should not fit the stupidity... then there's the funny...

demifeministgal replies on Nov 4, 2019:

I also think another poster made a good suggestion even though we disagreed, one can take a nude without one's face or any personal identifiable info/imagery.... that way even if they do get shared, nobody can prove who it is. I also think we teach young women that it may be illegal what is happening to them and they can seek legal recourse.

I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?

demifeministgal comments on Oct 31, 2019:

It seems the seniors here are vehemently opposed to anyone taking a nude and think that a ruined reputation and ruined career are just punishments for making the foolish mistake of taking a nude... for me, the punishment is way too excessive and should not fit the stupidity... then there's the funny...

demifeministgal replies on Nov 4, 2019:

@AnneWimsey Yes I acknowledged that the model in question would be hurt but I think you stopped reading my reply? So it hurts the person but not OTHER PEOPLE ALSO, as drunk drivers and thieves do.

I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?

JacarC comments on Oct 31, 2019:

Second thought: To paraphrase warren buffet, "never do anything you would not want to see on the front page of the new york times." This means, don't do stupid shit. You will regret it.

demifeministgal replies on Nov 2, 2019:

@Jacar nope... if anything I would be doing the recording or picture taking... some of us are just more on the serious side rather than the goofy silly side. :D

I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?

JacarC comments on Oct 31, 2019:

Second thought: To paraphrase warren buffet, "never do anything you would not want to see on the front page of the new york times." This means, don't do stupid shit. You will regret it.

demifeministgal replies on Nov 1, 2019:

@Jacar I have no recorded remorses :D I would like to be invisible not the center of attention :)

Back due to popular demand, but please stick to subject of dating photos.

lerlo comments on Nov 1, 2019:

Based on the numbers so far, as expected, hot guys can get away with anything they want. Someone posted recently, would you rather be rich or good-looking and I picked good-looking because you get whatever you want, you have a chance at anything you want and if all else fails you can be a model ...

demifeministgal replies on Nov 1, 2019:

I would pick rich... then if I am deemed ugly i can pay for plastic surgery to make me prettier heh :p

Back due to popular demand, but please stick to subject of dating photos.

LiterateHiker comments on Nov 1, 2019:

1. Wide-angle nostril shots are disgusting. 2. Making us play "Where's Wal-bro?" 3. Dog photos. I don't want to date your dog! 4. Forgot to clean your room. *Slob.* 5. If you're doing something stupid or looking goofy, we conclude you're hopelessly immature. And of course... 6. ...

demifeministgal replies on Nov 1, 2019:

I would personally love a doggy photo... it's a cat or bug/insect photo (ie if someone owns a tarantula) that would skeeve me out... blegh

This is a good post and needs to be said.

TheGreatShadow comments on Nov 1, 2019:

The fuck is CPTSD?

demifeministgal replies on Nov 1, 2019:

It is a type of PTSD that people that have experienced childhood abuse or trauma over prolonged period experience.

I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?

demifeministgal comments on Oct 31, 2019:

It seems the seniors here are vehemently opposed to anyone taking a nude and think that a ruined reputation and ruined career are just punishments for making the foolish mistake of taking a nude... for me, the punishment is way too excessive and should not fit the stupidity... then there's the funny...

demifeministgal replies on Nov 1, 2019:

@AnneWimsey nudes are typically not shared on the internet, they are shared via these things called smartphones... y'all may have heard of them? They then get transferred onto the internet by the depraved perp. The more you know ;) Also, false equivalency aka TERRIBLE analogy... drunk drivers and thieves HURT or can hurt other people. Nude pics hurts nobody unless disseminated without consent, and then just hurt the one taking the pics. You see the difference yea?

I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?

demifeministgal comments on Oct 31, 2019:

It seems the seniors here are vehemently opposed to anyone taking a nude and think that a ruined reputation and ruined career are just punishments for making the foolish mistake of taking a nude... for me, the punishment is way too excessive and should not fit the stupidity... then there's the funny...

demifeministgal replies on Nov 1, 2019:

@K9Kohle789 you really need to stop taking this so personally I will forever defend victims of revenge porn even though I have no nude pics out there.... die mad about it!

This is a good post and needs to be said.

Infoguy211 comments on Oct 31, 2019:

My abusive, alcoholic father has been dead for over 20 years, and I still hate him. I have forgiven my abusive schoolmates, but I also don't associate with them.

demifeministgal replies on Nov 1, 2019:

@SKH78 IT is not normal... it is cruel and malicious and vindictive and those idiots are wrong... sorry not sorry anyone that excuses abuse is an idiot at best.

I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?

Mb_Man comments on Nov 1, 2019:

I can tell you one thing . . . the guy is an asshole. And if you who the person being shared is, I wouldn't hesitate to give a heads up. While it will be humiliating, it beats stumbling into it by accident (or worse, your family or aqaintences stumbling into it). This makes me think that there ...

demifeministgal replies on Nov 1, 2019:

It is not of me... he's some weirdo that instead of sharing the millions of allowed nude images out there decided to share selfies women/escorts were sharing with him in a group here. And as the community has confirmed to me what he did was problematic, maybe even illegal, and those posts should have been reported or removed.

I've just found out about 2 great grandchildren we didn't know about.

NoPlanetB comments on Oct 26, 2019:

Congrats! Hopefully it will work out and a new chapter in grandparenting will open up for you. Good luck.

demifeministgal replies on Oct 31, 2019:

@Lilac-Jade could have been way worse then... they could have had 16 or more kids >.>

I've just found out about 2 great grandchildren we didn't know about.

NoPlanetB comments on Oct 26, 2019:

Congrats! Hopefully it will work out and a new chapter in grandparenting will open up for you. Good luck.

demifeministgal replies on Oct 31, 2019:

@Lilac-Jade ooh okay. Understood.... such a big family :) I have a small family XD

I've just found out about 2 great grandchildren we didn't know about.

NoPlanetB comments on Oct 26, 2019:

Congrats! Hopefully it will work out and a new chapter in grandparenting will open up for you. Good luck.

demifeministgal replies on Oct 31, 2019:

@Lilac-Jade ooh okay so total 4 Gr grandkids but from 2 different granddaughters?

I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?

demifeministgal comments on Oct 30, 2019:

I came across this post online and it seems something to ponder... there may just be a generational divide and this is an issue millenials and post-millenials will have to navigate that Boomers and Gen X'ers never did. >.>

demifeministgal replies on Oct 31, 2019:

@K9Kohle789 Guys ask for em and some guys will pressure women to send em... not everyone has the best boundaries especially when young(er). I never sent any but I know guys got aggressive with me and name called or stated there is something wrong with me for not sending any... the entitlement was disgusting and a huge red flag.... glad I never ended up meeting those fckers for a date (I talk for some weeks or longer before meeting a stranger for a date).

I've just found out about 2 great grandchildren we didn't know about.

NoPlanetB comments on Oct 26, 2019:

Congrats! Hopefully it will work out and a new chapter in grandparenting will open up for you. Good luck.

demifeministgal replies on Oct 31, 2019:

@NoPlanetB ahh okay... still very young for 4 kids already... but maybe those that want kids start early idk...

I've just found out about 2 great grandchildren we didn't know about.

NoPlanetB comments on Oct 26, 2019:

Congrats! Hopefully it will work out and a new chapter in grandparenting will open up for you. Good luck.

demifeministgal replies on Oct 31, 2019:

@Lilac-Jade She has or will have 4 kids at 19 years of age?! :o

Would you ever date somebody who is religious, if they respected your beliefs and did not try to ...

demifeministgal comments on Oct 29, 2019:

No... I would not trust their religious beliefs not to impact their attitudes or their behaviours in life... for example the abrahamic religions and hinduism have sexist scriptures/texts that put women on a lesser plane than men and encourage women to be submissive to men as "heads of the ...

demifeministgal replies on Oct 31, 2019:

@JesseThompson ohh okay good... cuz I thought for a second you were trying to persuade me against my choice hehe

I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?

JacarC comments on Oct 31, 2019:

Second thought: To paraphrase warren buffet, "never do anything you would not want to see on the front page of the new york times." This means, don't do stupid shit. You will regret it.

demifeministgal replies on Oct 31, 2019:

@Jacar There are nowadays for my generation and the younger ones... since too many people want to be youtube famous or social media famous even at the expense of posting their stupidity online XD

I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?

Shawno1972 comments on Oct 31, 2019:

Revenge porn is by nature malicious. Revenge is not done "unintentionally." Revenge is a pre-meditated action. And posting anyone's personal information publicly (nudes would certainly count) is terrible form and likely to get someone banned in this case. This topic is ridiculous. Sometimes the ...

demifeministgal replies on Oct 31, 2019:

@Shawno1972 I have seen way more dense posts both here and on social media.... I got the clarification I needed and an interesting discussion started which has demonstrated interesting demographic trends soo it was not a waste TO ME.

Would you ever date somebody who is religious, if they respected your beliefs and did not try to ...

demifeministgal comments on Oct 29, 2019:

No... I would not trust their religious beliefs not to impact their attitudes or their behaviours in life... for example the abrahamic religions and hinduism have sexist scriptures/texts that put women on a lesser plane than men and encourage women to be submissive to men as "heads of the ...

demifeministgal replies on Oct 31, 2019:

@JesseThompson But I am not gonna waste my time going through all the bad to get to the good ya know? Cuz the original question was asking me personally if I'd ever date a religious person?

Would you ever date somebody who is religious, if they respected your beliefs and did not try to ...

demifeministgal comments on Oct 29, 2019:

No... I would not trust their religious beliefs not to impact their attitudes or their behaviours in life... for example the abrahamic religions and hinduism have sexist scriptures/texts that put women on a lesser plane than men and encourage women to be submissive to men as "heads of the ...

demifeministgal replies on Oct 31, 2019:

@JesseThompson Yes but that only works if they are with egalitarian minded men... you think controlling and dominating men would allow their partners to do that? And that is the problem religion enables such men to treat women as 2nd class citizens and I will not tolerate that.

I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?

MakeItGood comments on Oct 31, 2019:

This is a dumbass question....let's rephrase it: "my action may cause harm, is it revenge if I do it because I'm okay with doing it cuz fun and because it does me no harm and I'm okay with breaking someone's trust?" Four letter expletive beginning with the letter 'F' that guy! Gimme a break ...

demifeministgal replies on Oct 31, 2019:

@Cutiebeauty I didn't think either of ya found it problematic so I didn't bother PM'ing anyone

I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?

JeremyTaylor comments on Oct 31, 2019:

"Revenge Porn" generally has a malicious component to it, a deliberate intent to cause harm and duress to the victim. That said, just because you do not intend harm in your actions, does not mean you do not cause harm with them. Nor does it exempt you from the consequences of hurting someone. It...

demifeministgal replies on Oct 31, 2019:

@JeremyTaylor I'd rather not say as it is not the group's fault that that happened... the blame lies with the member.

I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?

MakeItGood comments on Oct 31, 2019:

This is a dumbass question....let's rephrase it: "my action may cause harm, is it revenge if I do it because I'm okay with doing it cuz fun and because it does me no harm and I'm okay with breaking someone's trust?" Four letter expletive beginning with the letter 'F' that guy! Gimme a break ...

demifeministgal replies on Oct 31, 2019:

@Cutiebeauty okay sorry I did not talk about it in the senate I reported the post and assumed that report got to senate members or the admin.... My mistake XD

I miss the days where the chat room was super active, even if it was only open for a set amount of ...

1of5 comments on Oct 31, 2019:

They could remove chat rooms and I'd never notice, except for the posts about needing chat rooms of course.

demifeministgal replies on Oct 31, 2019:

Same... I joined one once and it was just one other person... not much of a room tbh XD

I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?

demifeministgal comments on Oct 30, 2019:

I came across this post online and it seems something to ponder... there may just be a generational divide and this is an issue millenials and post-millenials will have to navigate that Boomers and Gen X'ers never did. >.>

demifeministgal replies on Oct 31, 2019:

@K9Kohle789 The ones I have seen posted on the site, the women were doing seductive or erotic posts and so I guess the face added to the effect or something... I really don't know.... I've never taken a nude but in the distant past have done online video chat with a bf and went topless in the video... you couldn't see my face though.... but if someone were to ever get a hold of that video and try to ruin my career prospects for an intimate moment with a partner it would seem cruel and vindictive.

I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?

Deiter comments on Oct 31, 2019:

I’ve nothing to add to the discussion other than to marvel at the enthusiastic number of responses. I don’t think I’ve ever seen anything like that here before.

demifeministgal replies on Oct 31, 2019:

You really think so? Is that a good thing? Wow thanks

This is a good post and needs to be said.

Infoguy211 comments on Oct 31, 2019:

My abusive, alcoholic father has been dead for over 20 years, and I still hate him. I have forgiven my abusive schoolmates, but I also don't associate with them.

demifeministgal replies on Oct 31, 2019:

One of my abusers has been dead for just over 2 years and I also hate her and will not visit her grave in case I spit on it. XD

I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?

Shawno1972 comments on Oct 31, 2019:

Revenge porn is by nature malicious. Revenge is not done "unintentionally." Revenge is a pre-meditated action. And posting anyone's personal information publicly (nudes would certainly count) is terrible form and likely to get someone banned in this case. This topic is ridiculous. Sometimes the ...

demifeministgal replies on Oct 31, 2019:

well the user did not get banned sooo there's that.

I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?

JacarC comments on Oct 31, 2019:

Second thought: To paraphrase warren buffet, "never do anything you would not want to see on the front page of the new york times." This means, don't do stupid shit. You will regret it.

demifeministgal replies on Oct 31, 2019:

Except everyone does stupid shit, including you... perhaps you have gotten blackout or too drunk and done stupid shit... but did your reputation and career deserve to be ruined for your stupidity? no

I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?

Jolanta comments on Oct 31, 2019:

Women or men really have to grow up and stop taking nude photo's of themselves, unless they are porn stars. Leave it to the professionals or you will be sorry one day.

demifeministgal replies on Oct 31, 2019:

Well this image comes to mind as well as this quote I read, a bit hyperbolic, but it makes the point: "Could you imagine if dick pics ruined someone’s career? There would be no male politicians!"

I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?

JeremyTaylor comments on Oct 31, 2019:

"Revenge Porn" generally has a malicious component to it, a deliberate intent to cause harm and duress to the victim. That said, just because you do not intend harm in your actions, does not mean you do not cause harm with them. Nor does it exempt you from the consequences of hurting someone. It...

demifeministgal replies on Oct 31, 2019:

That sounds like a very good thing.... yet people in this forum seemed to not realize that when a guy was sharing nude selfies women sent him... I do wonder if they all explicitly said yeaa sure! share our pic in your porn swap group on agnostic.com.

I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?

MakeItGood comments on Oct 31, 2019:

This is a dumbass question....let's rephrase it: "my action may cause harm, is it revenge if I do it because I'm okay with doing it cuz fun and because it does me no harm and I'm okay with breaking someone's trust?" Four letter expletive beginning with the letter 'F' that guy! Gimme a break ...

demifeministgal replies on Oct 31, 2019:

It is not a dumb question I posted it for the group precisely because a group member here was sharing nude selfies he was receiving and it struck me as problematic... but nobody said anything and reports to the senate did nothing so then it got me wondering is it okay then? Isn't it similar to revenge porn? Why did nobody say anything to him about it? :S

I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?

JimG comments on Oct 30, 2019:

I'm not sure how you could unintentionally post nudes.

demifeministgal replies on Oct 31, 2019:

@JimG okay thanks for clarifying :)

I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?

demifeministgal comments on Oct 30, 2019:

Well I think people that get drunk to the point they blackout or do not remember what they are doing is stupid.... but I guarantee if I told people that nobody should get that drunk and not expect to be raped people would say I was victim-blaming, and they would be right! Why is this any different?...

demifeministgal replies on Oct 31, 2019:

@KKGator I've never considered it a strength :o

I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?

JimG comments on Oct 30, 2019:

I'm not sure how you could unintentionally post nudes.

demifeministgal replies on Oct 30, 2019:

@JimG The guy that posted or the nude pic taker?

I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?

demifeministgal comments on Oct 30, 2019:

Well I think people that get drunk to the point they blackout or do not remember what they are doing is stupid.... but I guarantee if I told people that nobody should get that drunk and not expect to be raped people would say I was victim-blaming, and they would be right! Why is this any different?...

demifeministgal replies on Oct 30, 2019:

@KKGator well it has been good for you... others are sick of theirs... we are all different it seems. :)

I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?

FearlessFly comments on Oct 30, 2019:

How can it be **revenge** if it is unintentional ?

demifeministgal replies on Oct 30, 2019:

@FearlessFly And yes I do understand the misunderstanding hence me copy pasting my reply to everyone that was confused by my wording

I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?

FearlessFly comments on Oct 30, 2019:

How can it be **revenge** if it is unintentional ?

demifeministgal replies on Oct 30, 2019:

@FearlessFly I did not know how to classify unconsensual sharing of nudes that was not revenge porn so called it that.

I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?

JimG comments on Oct 30, 2019:

I'm not sure how you could unintentionally post nudes.

demifeministgal replies on Oct 30, 2019:

What I meant was As in the guy had no desire to ruin the career or reputation of the woman/en in question, he just wanted to share nudes with others that appreciate nudes.

I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?

FearlessFly comments on Oct 30, 2019:

How can it be **revenge** if it is unintentional ?

demifeministgal replies on Oct 30, 2019:

@Cassiopeia As in the guy had no desire to ruin the career or reputation of the woman/en in question, he just wanted to share nudes with others that appreciate nudes.

I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?

demifeministgal comments on Oct 30, 2019:

Well I think people that get drunk to the point they blackout or do not remember what they are doing is stupid.... but I guarantee if I told people that nobody should get that drunk and not expect to be raped people would say I was victim-blaming, and they would be right! Why is this any different?...

demifeministgal replies on Oct 30, 2019:

@KKGator I just think if people doing stupid stuff that leads to criminal consequences like that baby falling out the window, get to have excuses made for them certainly people that take nude pics and share them with a trusted one get to have excuses made for them too. Don't you ever get tired of your hyper-vigilance and consider it a hindrance? I know I do. :(

I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?

demifeministgal comments on Oct 30, 2019:

Well I think people that get drunk to the point they blackout or do not remember what they are doing is stupid.... but I guarantee if I told people that nobody should get that drunk and not expect to be raped people would say I was victim-blaming, and they would be right! Why is this any different?...

demifeministgal replies on Oct 30, 2019:

@KKGator My comparison was of the stupid actions namely blackout drinking is just as foolish, if not more so, due to way more potential consequences ie drunk driving, as taking nude pics.

I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?

demifeministgal comments on Oct 30, 2019:

Well I think people that get drunk to the point they blackout or do not remember what they are doing is stupid.... but I guarantee if I told people that nobody should get that drunk and not expect to be raped people would say I was victim-blaming, and they would be right! Why is this any different?...

demifeministgal replies on Oct 30, 2019:

@KKGator Do you mean general you or specific you... because I can empathize with people for doing stupid things and then being victimized and abused for it... I guess you still need to learn that lesson? Because I have never taken a nude pic but what I saw in the sexy pics group here and what happened to that US congresswoman were wrong and fckd up.

I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?

Cutiebeauty comments on Oct 30, 2019:

I wouldn't say it's revenge porn... If they aren't in a relationship, and the woman is sending out nude photos of herself to him, most likely she's sending it to others as well.. Is it right to post the photos online for others to see? I'm not sure... I'd have to think on that for awhile.. ...

demifeministgal replies on Oct 30, 2019:

I disagree... what if that woman only has had the one partner or husband her entire life and that one guy was the only one she sent it to.... is it someone less okay to share her nudes because she sent it to one guy vs many guys?

I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?

AnneWimsey comments on Oct 30, 2019:

Sending nudes is as dumb as it gets....someday you could be in line for a nice promotion, teaching, running for office, spokesperson for a cause, etc etc etc, even 20 years from now, Aaaannndd up they pop! And good luck tracing the "gulity" party....that would be You!

demifeministgal replies on Oct 30, 2019:

This is victim blaming I agree... it reminds me of those people that would say if you just drank less or dressed differently you would not get raped.... the point is MEN send nudes out all the time, otherwise dck pics wouldn't be so widely discussed and reviled... yet their careers are not ruined.... so how come the advice given to women is not the same given to impulsive men??

I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?

RiverRick comments on Oct 30, 2019:

I am not sure of the criminality of what you describe but everyone MUST start thinking... When a picture leaves your phone or PC... The world owns it and you no longer have control. That's just a fact!

demifeministgal replies on Oct 30, 2019:

@AnneWimsey I don't know how it is done... I just know that when a bunch of celebrities got their clouds hacked there was some investigation done so there are ways

The agnostic crowd is much more intelligent than the rest!! Sorry, but it is the truth.

JeffMesser comments on Oct 29, 2019:

said the person who double-posted,

demifeministgal replies on Oct 30, 2019:

@Geoffrey51 And yet, they would still lack evidence for their yahweh sooo it would just be fanciful fallacious arguments or them deconstructing arguments without providing any substance for their own arguments... they would never fulfill their burden of proof.

I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?

RiverRick comments on Oct 30, 2019:

I am not sure of the criminality of what you describe but everyone MUST start thinking... When a picture leaves your phone or PC... The world owns it and you no longer have control. That's just a fact!

demifeministgal replies on Oct 30, 2019:

Some of the pictures or videos are stolen or hacked and distributed that way.... and I don't think the solution to a crime is telling people not to engage in given behaviours, but rather, punishing the offendors. I used to think like you, especially since I have never taken a nude pic, but that does not mean those that have deserve to have their lives ruined for some fun.

The agnostic crowd is much more intelligent than the rest!! Sorry, but it is the truth.

JeffMesser comments on Oct 29, 2019:

said the person who double-posted,

demifeministgal replies on Oct 30, 2019:

@JeffMesser So basically you have no data/evidence.... Since you like sayings @Geoffrey51 what can be asserted without evidence can be dismissed without evidence. well then you are dismissed and your delusions can go along with you.

I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?

Mofo1953 comments on Oct 30, 2019:

How would these posts be unintentional????

demifeministgal replies on Oct 30, 2019:

As in the guy had no desire to ruin the career or reputation of the woman/en in question, he just wanted to share nudes with others that appreciate nudes.

(I apologize for the horribly typo-ridden first draft.

Happy_Killbot comments on Oct 29, 2019:

Here is my controversial opinion on why he is acting like a megalomaniacal douche. For some background: https://search.proquest.com/openview/32407d4e8e6954427b75ac5d7e303d85/1?pq-origsite=gscholar=25922 He is probably lashing out at her because of his and societies ingrained belief that men are ...

demifeministgal replies on Oct 30, 2019:

@Happy_Killbot No I actually agree with you that nurture has more of an impact than nature, barring not having a personality disorder like sociopathy/psychopathy/narcissism that makes one more likely to hurt others. But, I think that that is an important thing to recognize that even if he were the breadwinner if he had that fckd up conditioning, his breadwinner status would not make him not an abuser.... it would just cause his abuse to manifest in different ways... perhaps using his money as a way to exert power over the partner in addition to the verbal abuse.

I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?

Beowulfsfriend comments on Oct 30, 2019:

In this day and age - best strategy in my book is no nudes. In either direction. I won't send or receive, not that many would want my current nude ass, maybe in my 20's lol.

demifeministgal replies on Oct 30, 2019:

@bingst I guess in relation to revenge porn in which a pissed off ex or wannabe ex shares images/videos to a porn site to ruin a woman's career and reputation vs sharing just to share nice boob pics

I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?

FearlessFly comments on Oct 30, 2019:

How can it be **revenge** if it is unintentional ?

demifeministgal replies on Oct 30, 2019:

@FearlessFly I think it may be a crime as well.... just because one is ignorant of a crime doesn't mean they get to do it and just say oops.

The agnostic crowd is much more intelligent than the rest!! Sorry, but it is the truth.

JeffMesser comments on Oct 29, 2019:

said the person who double-posted,

demifeministgal replies on Oct 30, 2019:

@JeffMesser LOL Hawking and Sagan and Einstein spoke of reincarnation? Oh really? Care to cite the research papers or any articles where they actually do that?

I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?

FearlessFly comments on Oct 30, 2019:

How can it be **revenge** if it is unintentional ?

demifeministgal replies on Oct 30, 2019:

okay so what would this type of situation be classified as then?

I was wondering about revenge porn... does it have to be malicious?

Beowulfsfriend comments on Oct 30, 2019:

In this day and age - best strategy in my book is no nudes. In either direction. I won't send or receive, not that many would want my current nude ass, maybe in my 20's lol.

demifeministgal replies on Oct 30, 2019:

Okay... but that is not relevant anymore once the image has been taken and already shared... my question was not about how to try to prevent this but if such an action done in a benign way counts as revenge porn or something similar?

The agnostic crowd is much more intelligent than the rest!! Sorry, but it is the truth.

JeffMesser comments on Oct 29, 2019:

said the person who double-posted,

demifeministgal replies on Oct 30, 2019:

@Geoffrey51 By that logic, we might as well believe in big foot and the lochness monster and other folkore and myths and gods like zeus and such because just because we lack evidence doesn't mean they don't exist! That is literally the favourite line used by religious people, especially the abrahamic religious people, to defend their sky daddy.

(I apologize for the horribly typo-ridden first draft.

Happy_Killbot comments on Oct 29, 2019:

Here is my controversial opinion on why he is acting like a megalomaniacal douche. For some background: https://search.proquest.com/openview/32407d4e8e6954427b75ac5d7e303d85/1?pq-origsite=gscholar=25922 He is probably lashing out at her because of his and societies ingrained belief that men are ...

demifeministgal replies on Oct 30, 2019:

@Happy_Killbot What I meant was he was going to be abusive regardless and that bad circumstances made his abuse worse or more pronounced... it is not double think AT ALL this is literally documented in abuse research whereby abusers will become more abusive when things are going poorly in their own lives or they are feeling lousy about themselves. Think of it in normal or regular people as being more grouchy or short-tempered/impatient when they have had a long and bad day.

UPDATE: I called the SOAR program that he’s in and reported him.

bobwjr comments on Oct 27, 2019:

Poor honey , you are very attractive woman i in the bible belt,that is a tough place to be . The guys are very Christian and too ignorant to think that someone wouldn't want t them. And it would be sticky to say no god or atheist, or have a sense of humor and say Satanist . Can say I'm seeing ...

demifeministgal replies on Oct 30, 2019:

@1EarthLovingGal You seriously need to learn to lie to stranger men, heck even men you know, if they do not respect your boundaries... him not accepting your No was a red flag and you need to be aware of these red flags in the future.... if not at work, then outside of work.... last thing you'd want is to end up dating a narcissist just because you cannot handle a little lie.

(I apologize for the horribly typo-ridden first draft.

Happy_Killbot comments on Oct 29, 2019:

Here is my controversial opinion on why he is acting like a megalomaniacal douche. For some background: https://search.proquest.com/openview/32407d4e8e6954427b75ac5d7e303d85/1?pq-origsite=gscholar=25922 He is probably lashing out at her because of his and societies ingrained belief that men are ...

demifeministgal replies on Oct 30, 2019:

Do you think if he was working, or the breadwinner, his verbally abusive ways would stop or lessen? I do not think so. I think his work situation exacerbates or worsens his abuse, but regardless of his situation, he was always going to abuse her or someone else.

The agnostic crowd is much more intelligent than the rest!! Sorry, but it is the truth.

JackPedigo comments on Oct 29, 2019:

The agnostic tribe is still a tribe. They may have more reason on their side but still use cognitive dissonance to escape ideas in which they feel uncomfortable. Atheists are more reasoned based than agnostics but still all of us have our own prejudices and often feel more comfortable feeling within...

demifeministgal replies on Oct 29, 2019:

@JackPedigo I had something like this in mind and hence agnostics are not fence sitters per se.

"How do you feel about uncertainty?

BitFlipper comments on Oct 29, 2019:

As an agnostic, uncertainty is the core of my philosophy. Whereas religious people put energy into believing something they're told to believe, I put energy into accepting uncertainty. It appears to be a better investment. As a non-drinker I understand the minor conflict when a normal woman and a...

demifeministgal replies on Oct 29, 2019:

@BitFlipper yea I did explain it because I know I gotta spell shit out for people XD now I am gonna have to write I do not drink :(

The agnostic crowd is much more intelligent than the rest!! Sorry, but it is the truth.

JackPedigo comments on Oct 29, 2019:

The agnostic tribe is still a tribe. They may have more reason on their side but still use cognitive dissonance to escape ideas in which they feel uncomfortable. Atheists are more reasoned based than agnostics but still all of us have our own prejudices and often feel more comfortable feeling within...

demifeministgal replies on Oct 29, 2019:

@JackPedigo Are you aware that atheists can be agnostics? And agnosticism has to do with knowledge and atheism with (lack of) beliefs? So would you classify yourself as a gnostic atheist?

It's not okay to criticize someone's body. My middle finger is twitching.

demifeministgal comments on Oct 29, 2019:

I wonder if he was negging you to try and undermine your confidence... I do not know him, so maybe he is incapable of negging.... but it's a dck thing for him to say... definitely not a way to get back into a woman's bed by insulting her! This strikes me as the verbal equivalent of a little boy ...

demifeministgal replies on Oct 29, 2019:

For those that do not know: https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/negging

What do you like to do naked? What haven't you done naked that you would like to try?

FlippantLlama comments on Oct 29, 2019:

I love to swim naked.

demifeministgal replies on Oct 29, 2019:

@Cutiebeauty be careful for skin cancer with sunbathing :O

The agnostic crowd is much more intelligent than the rest!! Sorry, but it is the truth.

JeffMesser comments on Oct 29, 2019:

said the person who double-posted,

demifeministgal replies on Oct 29, 2019:

@JeffMesser I know there is no evidence in it so why would I believe in it if I don't other religious or woo BS? But I see you believe as he does, so my comment is not for you. XD

Would you ever date somebody who is religious, if they respected your beliefs and did not try to ...

CommonHuman comments on Oct 28, 2019:

Absolutely not. The ramifications for a woman to date a man of faith is too much to deal with. Men who have religion simply have too many underlying assumptions and expectations that I refuse to deal with.

demifeministgal replies on Oct 29, 2019:

Yes exactly.... abrahamic faiths position women as the lesser to men, especially fundamentalist variations.... not worth it to be in a relationship where you are viewed as less than by your partner due to gender :/

The agnostic crowd is much more intelligent than the rest!! Sorry, but it is the truth.

JeffMesser comments on Oct 29, 2019:

said the person who double-posted,

demifeministgal replies on Oct 29, 2019:

And the person that believes in reincarnation (him)... talk about less intelligent! XD

I admit. It can be awkward when the guy is tall. You work around your differences, right?

demifeministgal comments on Oct 29, 2019:

I don't know how it is awkward... a guy's height tends to be in his legs so when both parties are lying or sitting down, there is no awkwardness.... but if one INSISTS on sex in only standing positions with a giant of a man, you had it coming and have nobody to blame but yourself! ;)

demifeministgal replies on Oct 29, 2019:

@Cabsmom Yes it has also never been a problem for me as my exes/FWBs were/are tall guys over 6 feet. :) although I am a bit taller than you at 5'6 :)

"How do you feel about uncertainty?

BitFlipper comments on Oct 29, 2019:

As an agnostic, uncertainty is the core of my philosophy. Whereas religious people put energy into believing something they're told to believe, I put energy into accepting uncertainty. It appears to be a better investment. As a non-drinker I understand the minor conflict when a normal woman and a...

demifeministgal replies on Oct 29, 2019:

@BitFlipper Yes I agree... which is why those dudes never got to a 2nd date. :D And I guess I can include it since in the past I had a line about being a social drinker only put in. >.>

The agnostic crowd is much more intelligent than the rest!! Sorry, but it is the truth.

JackPedigo comments on Oct 29, 2019:

The agnostic tribe is still a tribe. They may have more reason on their side but still use cognitive dissonance to escape ideas in which they feel uncomfortable. Atheists are more reasoned based than agnostics but still all of us have our own prejudices and often feel more comfortable feeling within...

demifeministgal replies on Oct 29, 2019:

I don't think you understand what cognitive dissonance means... in no way is saying I don't know and I am not 100% certain about X a sign of cognitive dissonance. :S Can you walk us through how having an agnostic outlook leads to: "...the mental discomfort experienced by a person who holds two or more contradictory beliefs, ideas, or values. This discomfort is triggered by a situation in which a person's belief clashes with new evidence perceived by the person."

The agnostic crowd is much more intelligent than the rest!! Sorry, but it is the truth.

Marcie1974 comments on Oct 29, 2019:

You sound fanatical yourself

demifeministgal replies on Oct 29, 2019:

don't even get him started about life after death/reincarnation, consciousness and his near death experiences.... yeeesh talk about fanatical! Ignorance of science is a helluva thing

How do you deal with unwanted advances?

Marionville comments on Oct 28, 2019:

I don’t know if it’s because I live in the UK, but I can honestly say that I have never experienced any behaviour like this harassment you describe. Yes...I got unwanted advances, yes I got wolf whistles, yes I got lewd comments about my anatomy, even the odd persistent hand on the knee, but I...

demifeministgal replies on Oct 29, 2019:

@Marionville yes many old(er) ladies tell me this and it is why physically ageing does not scare me because I welcome this supposed invisibility I will gain... not that I am even street harassed that often to begin with (due to clothing choices) but the seldom times it does happen is enough for my anxiety to go off. :( I wonder if neurotypical people handle street harassment and intimidating men better than neurodiverse people >.>

"How do you feel about uncertainty?

BitFlipper comments on Oct 29, 2019:

As an agnostic, uncertainty is the core of my philosophy. Whereas religious people put energy into believing something they're told to believe, I put energy into accepting uncertainty. It appears to be a better investment. As a non-drinker I understand the minor conflict when a normal woman and a...

demifeministgal replies on Oct 29, 2019:

I used to be a social drinker, but not on dates (this is a stranger I do not trust yet) and some guys would not fckng drop it and throughout the course of the date would keep trying to get me to have a drink or two! red flag right there... what was their end goal? To get me drunk so I would be more willing to sleep with them?! Plus, lack of respect for my no and boundaries... I cannot drink now and I will have to navigate that topic in a new way now (meds discussion) so maybe if I literally can not drink now my refusal will be taken more seriously? Perhaps I should put it on a dating profile that I do not drink? My point being, even us "non-normal women" may experience minor conflicts with a male drinker. xD

Is hope realistic?

ToolGuy comments on Oct 28, 2019:

Some of us are genetically wired towards optimism and thus hopefulness and some of us are wired towards pessimism and thus hopelessness. Most of us travel between the two depending on events and biochemistry.

demifeministgal replies on Oct 28, 2019:

@ToolGuy do you think it is also possible to be "wired" for optimism but have that destroyed or conditioned/abused out of a person? So a person starts out as a happy baby and child and the more trauma or horrors or toxicity they endure, the more pessimistic they become?

Is hope realistic?

KKGator comments on Oct 28, 2019:

I do not suffer from existential angst, and I generally am a very hopeful individual. I'm always hoping for the best and preparing for the worst.

demifeministgal replies on Oct 28, 2019:

that seems like a good way to be.... I think I am just preparing for and expecting the worst personally XD

What was your worst Halloween costume fail?

demifeministgal comments on Oct 28, 2019:

sometimes I wonder if the modesty is a symptom of the upbringing be it via modest "times" or being raised by religious parents that instill modesty in women/girls, or if it is just a personality trait of ours. But also, I like being invisible and disappearing into crowds and dressing sexy makes a ...

demifeministgal replies on Oct 28, 2019:

@LiterateHiker ahh okay then by your standards I do not dress modestly XD :$ but by my generation's standards of tight mini dresses and looking like a kardashian, I do ;D But also I looove jeans and to find jeans in stores that are affordable and not skinny jeans is nearly impossible! Even boot cut or skinnier fit jeans will be tight around the thighs/butt region. blah

How do you deal with unwanted advances?

BestWithoutGods comments on Oct 28, 2019:

You may want to wear an engagement ring....

demifeministgal replies on Oct 28, 2019:

@BestWithoutGods If only it were so easy to spot said evil men. "where evil men can take advantage of you". If they had a tattoo stamped on to their heads it would help. So we just need to be vigilant with all strange men until they show us they can be trusted. :/

How do you deal with unwanted advances?

Marionville comments on Oct 28, 2019:

I don’t know if it’s because I live in the UK, but I can honestly say that I have never experienced any behaviour like this harassment you describe. Yes...I got unwanted advances, yes I got wolf whistles, yes I got lewd comments about my anatomy, even the odd persistent hand on the knee, but I...

demifeministgal replies on Oct 28, 2019:

@LiterateHiker There is actually psychological cases of former victims intentionally gaining weight to try and prevent further/future victimization in hopes of making themselves unattractive to men. :/

How do you deal with unwanted advances?

Marionville comments on Oct 28, 2019:

I don’t know if it’s because I live in the UK, but I can honestly say that I have never experienced any behaviour like this harassment you describe. Yes...I got unwanted advances, yes I got wolf whistles, yes I got lewd comments about my anatomy, even the odd persistent hand on the knee, but I...

demifeministgal replies on Oct 28, 2019:

The problem is these perps will often target minors or young women (or those they deem young women or underage) and at those ages, especially the teen years, not many of us have reached the confident and self-assured stage.... and when you are victimized by a guy at a young age, it stays with you for years and years and takes even longer to develop that self-assurance and confidence. :/

How do you deal with unwanted advances?

Mofo1953 comments on Oct 28, 2019:

At the wokplace, with HR. In the streets, kick the dude in the nuts.

demifeministgal replies on Oct 28, 2019:

Sometimes just rejecting a guy street harassing us or trying to date us can get us stalked, assaulted and/or killed... and you never know which guy is capable of any of the above so we err on the side of caution until we are acting in self-defense.

How do you deal with unwanted advances?

Bobbyzen comments on Oct 28, 2019:

Men have toxic masculinity for sure. Less talked about is sexual harassment by women. I was a victim in my early career, working for female bosses who, in a position of authority, holding my employment in their grasp, sexually harassed me in humiliating ways. One would call me into her office to ...

demifeministgal replies on Oct 28, 2019:

Do you and other men bring up these topics of your own harassment? I mean if it is not talked about often enough, is it not up to men to start creating spaces and platforms to talk about it?

Speaking of dying I just read a post about it.

RobinGray comments on Oct 25, 2019:

That’s BS. People don’t use hospice correctly by waiting until the very end to start hospice care. They make your dying person the most comfortable as they’re going. They (and no other doctors) take a hypocratic oath to murder people. This post pisses me off big time!

demifeministgal replies on Oct 28, 2019:

@FlyingEagle1952 LSD also leads to hallucinations... the more one becomes educated about neurology and the way chemicals impact our brains, the less spiritual people become. And yes, the earth will keep spinning around the sun once we both die... that we can agree on.

I gotz my tee! :D

demifeministgal comments on Oct 26, 2019:

I know this is random but your eyebrows are so dramatic :o

demifeministgal replies on Oct 28, 2019:

oh wow soo lucky... I wish I had a natural arch... my friend also has naturally arched and shaped eyebrows though he is a guy.

Speaking of dying I just read a post about it.

RobinGray comments on Oct 25, 2019:

That’s BS. People don’t use hospice correctly by waiting until the very end to start hospice care. They make your dying person the most comfortable as they’re going. They (and no other doctors) take a hypocratic oath to murder people. This post pisses me off big time!

demifeministgal replies on Oct 26, 2019:

@FlyingEagle1952 " two types of near-death experiences. Type one, which is associated with the brain's left hemisphere, features an altered sense of time and impressions of flying. Type two, involving the right hemisphere, is characterised by seeing or communicating with spirits, and hearing voices, sounds and music. the most widespread explanation for near-death experiences is the dying brain hypothesis. This theory proposes that near-death experiences are hallucinations caused by activity in the brain as cells begin to die. As these occur during times of crisis, this would explain the stories survivors recount. The problem with this theory, though plausible, is that it fails to explain the full range of features that may occur during near-death experiences, such as why people have out-of-body experiences. While it's unclear why there are different types of near-death experiences, the different interactions between brain regions produce these distinct experiences. The temporal lobes also play an important role in near-death experiences. This area of the brain is involved with processing sensory information and memory, so abnormal activity in these lobes can produce strange sensations and perceptions."

Speaking of dying I just read a post about it.

RobinGray comments on Oct 25, 2019:

That’s BS. People don’t use hospice correctly by waiting until the very end to start hospice care. They make your dying person the most comfortable as they’re going. They (and no other doctors) take a hypocratic oath to murder people. This post pisses me off big time!

demifeministgal replies on Oct 26, 2019:

@FlyingEagle1952 aah so you are ignorant about what causes the hallucinations in NDE's then? Okay let me spell it out for you with science: "A near-death experience is a profound psychological event with mystical elements. It typically occurs in people close to death, or during situations of intense physical or emotional pain, but may also happen after heart attacks or traumatic brain injuries, or even during meditation and syncope (loss of consciousness due to a fall in blood pressure)...Culture and age may also influence the kind of near-death experience people have. For example, many Indians report meeting the Hindu king of the dead, Yamraj, while Americans often claim to have met Jesus. Children typically describe encountering friends and teachers "in the light". Most reported near-death experiences are positive, and have even helped in reducing death anxiety, affirming life, and increasing well-being. However, some near-death experiences are negative and include feelings such as lack of control, awareness of nonexistence, hellish imagery, or perceived judgement from a higher being.

Tom Ellis from Lucifer... Whaddaya think?

demifeministgal comments on Oct 25, 2019:

Is it just me, or does that pic make him look like he has elf ears?1 X'D

demifeministgal replies on Oct 25, 2019:

@Marionville I am not a fan of elf ears... I'm a stickler for symmetry XD

Tom Ellis from Lucifer... Whaddaya think?

demifeministgal comments on Oct 25, 2019:

Is it just me, or does that pic make him look like he has elf ears?1 X'D

demifeministgal replies on Oct 25, 2019:

@Cutiebeauty ooh okay

Speaking of dying I just read a post about it.

RobinGray comments on Oct 25, 2019:

That’s BS. People don’t use hospice correctly by waiting until the very end to start hospice care. They make your dying person the most comfortable as they’re going. They (and no other doctors) take a hypocratic oath to murder people. This post pisses me off big time!

demifeministgal replies on Oct 25, 2019:

@FlyingEagle1952 there is no evidence for a soul or next dimension... enough of your mumbo jumbo... take it to the woo spiritual group.