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Do you "dress your age"? Exactly what does that actually mean anyway? What does that mean to you? Do people tell you you should be dressing more your age? (This topic probably has been discussed here before; if so, my apologies)

At 47, I dress mostly in jeans or leggings (or yoga pants), t-shirts or tank tops, hoodies, and sneakers. Sometimes I might wear short dresses, short shorts, or short skirts. Heck, I've been known to wear a tutu. I don't own blouses (anything with buttons) or slacks or power suits or blazers. Dog forbid, I should wear pantyhose or nylons (ugh). Sometimes, I might wear my hair in pig tails or braids.

Do we actually need to dress our age? I get that you have to respect dress codes and such and not be inappropriately dressed in certain situations (weddings, funerals, etc.). But what does age have to do with your clothing choices?

graceylou 8 Aug 23
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I'm 71, nearly 72 actually. I wear leggings with tunics. I prefer vee neck, so my tattoos show. I wear sweats and Tee shirts when I am setting around at night. I wear breeches when I ride. I usually wear paddock boots with socks, short black boots with crazy socks over my legging and a short dress when I dress up, or, if it is hot, flip flops. I have a lot of ethnic clothing, scarves, and flowy jackets that I like. I never dress up in a neat dressy dress with heels. My hair is nearly all grey, down to my waist, in a pony tail, various types of braids or down. Think old, pagan hippie, and that's what I look like.

...I truly admire that***now & next yr.
I am learning about "smart technology"
for weather conditions, but I don't
witness a clothing revolution,thanxWise

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I wear clothes I couldn't say if they are my age.

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I dress the same as I have for most of my life. jeans or cargo pants, hoodie or tshirt. im 37, so.. probably not any more.

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At 55 I pretty much dress as I did when I was 5. Jeans and T-shirts.

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An interesting question. I think it's fine to have one's own style, which may or may not fit other's perception of age-appropriate. Be reasonable: If you don't like suits but it's a formal affair, go with the flow.

Where I see this being charged revolves around the objectification of women when they've internalized it. I cringe. Examples include say a 60-something woman trying to look like a 25-year-old, or a 12-year-old girl tarted up like a little prostitute. It's not OK.

Yes, dressing the way you want is usually fine except in the cases that you mentioned. I can easily pull off a Hello Kitty top and short frilly skirt because I don't look like I'm in my 40s. On the other hand, I can hardly pull off a blouse and a blazer without someone asking me if I'm going to a special event.

@Liberty I agree. I am talking about more-extreme cases. Yes, mature sexuality is....hot.

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I dress on the casual side, even for work, but I don't push the boundaries too far. I want to keep my job.

...I agree.i work in manufacturing and me and some
co workers wear shorts (cargo type) , we often get
the" look" going to & from work-especially if it's not
80degrees...Tempted just to wear the suit jacket
just to tease the shallow folks that judge a book ...?

...also hold a "style" oject of clothes
10 yrs-then it's ok to wear because it comes
back in style.I see other countries
citizenry wear what's user friendly all the time.?

@BBJong It's amazing how stuff is stylish again after 10 years!

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I still wear cargo shorts.

Nothing wrong with that!

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Dress the way that makes you feel good, don't worry about what others think. Of course I am going to deviate on one fashion trend "Thongs". YIKES!!!, some people definitely should not wear them. Actually I am just going to say that most people shouldn't wear them, but hey that's just my opinion...... what do I know?

There is a time and place for thongs. They are super uncomfortable. I might wear thong undies when I wear tight body-fitting dresses and don't want panty lines showing through. Or if I wear a skirt for dance with slits way up my thighs.

@graceylou while I was partially joking, what I had in mind was the thongs people wear to the beach with nothing else. Perfectly happy to find a pair of thongs on my girlfriend, if she's cool with it. Please please just don't ask me to wear one........ha ha

@marksam8484 I don't know. I think you would look hot parading in nothing but a hot pink thong.

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Unless one is a fashionista (more power to 'em), it seems most folks gravitate to what is comfortable - fashion trends be damned !

I know here in super casual, and often very warm Florida, I dress for comfort . On the rare occasions I need to dress up a bit , I manage - but really don't care , or think about age appropriateness...

I've been fortunate at various jobs, where it was either casual, scrubs, or a uniform !

I would be completely out of place around a fashionista, although I used to be one. I used to work around the university and with students, and those people aren't exactly examples of trendy fashion. And now, I work with dogs. They don't care what I wear, and on occasion, I've had my clothing torn up by overly enthusiastic pooches. I like casual and comfortable but I also love unique one of a kind clothing. I feel as comfortable in shorts and tank top as I am in a ball gown in heels.

@graceylou hm-m-m. that could be one of the many reasons I prefer being around animals ... <grin> But I'll leave the ball gowns to you - I'd definitely be out of my element !

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I don't think that should even be a thing. I say dress how you feel like dressing, to express yourself, a d to be comfortable. No other reason matters (although if you do corporate work you might need a couple of suites, which I personally utterly despise and forever happy that I don't have to.)

Nada Level 3 Aug 24, 2018

I am technically the CEO of my corporation (on paper anyway). LOL. My corporate work includes playing with dogs and getting grubby. Jeans and t-shirt are standard office wear.

@graceylou your corporation sounds lovely!

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I dress kinda twenties style.

Coldo Level 8 Aug 24, 2018

That is cool. I have a flapper dress.

@graceylou Excellent. I attend a Twenties dance regularly The Gatsby,strict dress code.Great night.

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I was raised with the saying "dressing well is a sign of good manners". And when I go out in public I'm not fancy but decently attired. As an artist and seamstress, I wear styles and colors I feel benefit me, regardless of any "age appropriate" issue. What is that anyway? A well cut article of clothing can do wonders for your form, as will picking the correct weight of fabric. Too thin of fabric results in every bump and bulge showing. A bit heavier fabric will magically camouflage them! Age be damned! But it seems the older I get, the more I wear skirts and dresses. They're pretty and fun.

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I wear skinny jeans at 51 so I would say No I do not dress my age, hell, I'm not sure I'm dressing for my sex

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My best friend says her favorite quality she likes in me is no fucks given. I wear what I want, believe what I want and am not shy about saying what I want. I believe you should stop caring about what everyone else thinks of you and only worry about looking in the mirror and being proud of yourself. Do what makes you happy.

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Just to clarify. I don't give the slightest fuck about what other people think or say about how I dress. I don't ever give a rat's ass about what other people think about anything that I do or don't do. If they think I don't dress appropriately, they can shove their opinion up where it don't shine. If I'm not in my casual practical attire, I tend to wear rather bizarre clothing anyhow just because that's what I like. I am a non-conformist. One thing I don't do, however, is dress sloppy when I go out (I may wear comfy grubby clothes at home as I please).

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I work with kids so t shirts and shorts are almost my year round uniform. I have a handful of dress shirts, jackets, ties, etc. that I wear for the right occasions but at this point in my life dressing my age is mostly about dressing for the job.

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perhaps it is more important to dress one's size rather than age ...

Sometimes I can’t find my size and have to go with bigger.

@graceylou my poor daughter (28) still has to buy kids clothes ... she blames me for having transmitted the dwarf gene ... age 28.not 2 8)

@PontifexMarximus I’m not tiny. I wear a regular size small or around size 5/6. But people have complained that stores don’t stock realistic sizes so now they rarely stock my size because apparently I’m not a realistic size because I’m not size 14 or larger.

@graceylou my daughter has the same problem ... often people tell her that she is too slim as if she was anorexic ... she's just small but well proportioned, but is clasdified as "abnormal"

@PontifexMarximus So she knows exactly how I feel. My friend who is larger says that size 14-16 is the average size and therefore normal. I’m not a normal size. They don’t need to stock a lot for us not normal humans.

@graceylou yes ... she does ... there is always some passive aggression ... one of her colkeagues, age 22, weighing in at more than 2.5 times her wieght, frequently mocks her

@PontifexMarximus Where I used to work they worry I might not be able to lift a heavier dog into the tub to get cleaned, because I’m much smaller than my coworkers. They really had no idea how much I can lift. I’m small but I’m strong.

@graceylou they don't realise that you have lug much less body mass

@PontifexMarximus Still I’m not considered within current average range by far so I must not be served the same as average women when it comes to clothing. I tend to be seen as having something wrong with me. And I’m not tiny. I’m over 5’3 and 115 lbs. A friend of mine is 4’11 and 88 lbs. she’s more of an outlier than I am for sure.

@graceylou Try Talbots....things fit in the shoulder & crotch for smaller people, so you don't look like you borrowed your dad's clothes...they are not cheap but have Unbelievable sales! My tiny girlfriend, and others of her stature, swear by Talbots!

@AnneWimsey I would probably not find anything to wear there. Cardigans, blazers, blouses, slacks, dress jeans. I don't wear any of those.

This is more my style and like in the picture (This is my favourite brand):

[rebelspiritclothingstore.com]

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I've worn Levis 501s and a Tommy Bahama raw silk shirt for the last 20 years, this was my standard work attire when I was building hotels in the Caribbean. The raw silk wears like iron and the blue jeans plus Blundstones or similar with a green patch are mandatory. I've been retired for 9 years now but I still wear the same outfit most days, it's a lot easier than wearing tailor made suits like I did in my 20's and 30's.

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Boots, jeans, shirt. 2 suits l never wear, but l have them if the need arises.

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I don't think I dress my age. I dress rather conservatively and covered up. So very rarely can you see skin or even curves if I am wearing loose jeans or dress pants. So because I do not dress like a scantily clad sex worker and do not "flaunt it" people assume I dress older or younger than I actually am. But why the fck must I dress like a sex kitten and flaunt it? Maybe I do not want to flaunt anything because that garners more attention from perverts and creepers. Let the others flaunt it and deal with the unwanted attention! NO THANK YOU!

You dress however you like, but just because others want to show skin doesn't mean they are dressing like sex workers and want attention from perverts and creepers. The word "conservative" isn't even in my vocabulary.

@graceylou There are some that do dress like sex workers. And you misunderstand me. My criticism is mainly geared at the socialization and the marketing that teaches women, particularily young women, that their worth lies in their looks and they must dress a given way for the male gaze. And then with all the women/girl that internalize that BS narrative/message and try to encourage others to follow suit.

I dress, frankly, sexy, and find No "unwanted attention" because my behavior is pretty conservative....i worked in a shipyard with about 6 women and over 20,000 men for 13 years, I know how to project my intentions, or lack of them, with no problem

@AnneWimsey well yeaa but older women apparently become "invisible" or so I have heard/read. So it's way easier at your age. Unwanted attention has nothing to do with mannerisms btw (I am pretty shy myself) and has everything to do with if you are read as being female. Guys that engage in street harassment are not doing it with any dating intentions but to show off to their neanderthal buddies or to assert their masculinity/dominance.

@demifeministgal not invisible at all, in fact loud & proud and just rejected a 52-year old (I am 70 ).
And street whistles are aimed at anything remotely female, why would you take a knee-jerk reaction personally?

@AnneWimsey Alright then, perhaps less visible than one was in their youth? Perhaps you are the outlier to the data and the anecdotes? IDK... though I was looking forward to becoming invisible and now you have burst my bubble! 😟 :/

Because it is disrespectful and anxiety inducing, personally. I just wish I could be left alone 100% of the time by men. And even if I were to don a burqa or niqab the fckers still would not leave me alone. :/

@demifeministgal i enjoy the company of men, after 13 years in a shipyard am much more at ease with them than with women, generally speaking. Most are pretty harmless, altho maybe an alligator mouth un-backed-up by a hummingbird ass, lol! Don't take it so personally, i assure you they aren't......

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Funny you should ask that -- funny to me, anyway -- because just the other day i was thinking about my decade in japan, and something one of my students said about my habitual attire. since i was a teacher, i was expected not to wear jeans, which would've been comfy, so i dressed in highly color-coordinated land's end cotton knits. a typical outfit for me was a matching skirt and blazer in some bright color (often red or yellow), with a contrasting colored shirt, knee socks of one of those two bright colors and a matching beret, along with chinese cotton maryjanes. the student i was just thinking of commented that i was, by dressing that way, trying to look young. now, first of all, i was in my 30s when he said that (but continued to dress the same way into my 40s), so i wasn't feeling particularly old, and he was about 20, give or take, so i wasn't even that much older than he! second of all, i didn't know anyone, of any age, who dressed the way i did. i was just trying to satisfy the dress code in a minimal way while remaining comfortable and avoiding drabness. if i was trying to look young, i was certainly not trying to look like any actual young person. i think i was just trying to look like myself. but in japan, once you hit 40 you dress in gray, because you're officially old or something. i'm 66 now and i have one gray dress which i like because it has pockets, but most of my clothing is still pretty colorful (and a lot less formal than my above-described outfits, which you surely realize were not formal at all). i like a low neckline, not because i am trying to flash some flesh but because i don't like being choked by high necklines. is that bad because i am in my 60s? too bad; i don't think i should have to choke because of how many years i've been alive. i also don't wear underwear. am i trying to dress younger than my age? no -- i am trying to dress in a way that doesn't make me want to scream. i wear skirts and dresses because i find them comfortable. do i now eschew jeans? no -- but i'm fat so they don't fit, and i also have a high personal thermostat, so i would rather have a nice breeze going most of the time instead of being all covered up. does this have to do with age in some way? maybe... in that i am old enough not to care whether other people think i am dressing my age!

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Definitely, dress in a way that is comfortable to you and in a style that you like that fits your personality, but still respecting a dress code if it's required. Age shouldn't matter. Most people who don't know me well would guess my age to be in the late 20s or early 30s though I'm much closer to 50. I'm also quite fit, not model type, but pretty good. My sis-in-law is just a year older. To my parents' fiftieth anniversary party, she dressed like a granny. I wore a little black dress with silver sparklies. But I could pull it off without looking like I tried to dress young. I did look like I was half her age. I would look odd in the very conservative pants she wore and her knit cardigan.

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I have no idea what that phrase means. If we attend to "dress our age", we are allowing others to dictate our behavior.

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I am a big people watcher. Some do not need to dress their age but dress according to their figure. I am not 18 and dress comfortable for me.

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I'm 59. I like wearing cute clothes, shoes make up. Almost always. I rock a cute haircut. I think that's appropriate for me. I like nice things, and think I look great and in shape for my age. ♥ I'm tallish, so my everyday outfit consists of skinny jeans, a nice feminine top or blouse, and super cute usually animal print flats or other great flats. Bright pink lips, blush, and lots of mascara. I'll wear a flannel and/or and men's style plaid shirts to work and converse, or cute sneakers. When I work. I do work in construction with almost entirely all men, so it it is a little challenging to pull off cute all the time, but I think I have nailed it.

I would agree.

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I wear jeans and t-shirts they're ageless

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