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I am 48. I give myself a 5% chance to fall in love again and that's probably a very optimistic number. I think the older you are the more picky you get so the chance of falling on love diminish every day. What do you guys think?

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I am 64 and i fall in love, on average, 3 times a day. the only drama is . by the evening i don't remember who with

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Oh, silly, I turned 70 in July, am now in the Most Wonderful relationship of my entire life!

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Nah! I'm 39 and the guy I'm seeing is 50. It is the best and healthiest relationship I've had. It's about connecting with the right person not age. Be you, be respectful and honest and the right person will respond to that.

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I'm not a guy, but I'm going to respond. I give myself a . 0005% chance of falling in love again and that's probably a very optimistic number. I think the older you get the more you are aware of the lies we've been sold and told in our youth. For instance...#1 I am very capable of taking care of myself and my needs. To be a man in my life, you need to understand...1. I am not your property, 2. I'm not here to serve your every need, including your every fantasy, 3. i'm not here to fulfill some role that you were raised with believing that women fill, 4. I can probably do as much if not more around the house than you, and if I can't, I can find someone (and pay them) who can, 5. If you don't respect me, I'm gone. I've pretty much accepted that I'll be alone for the rest of my life, but you know, that's okay. I'm a pretty decent person to be around...life is good.

linxminx Level 7 Sep 14, 2018
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I am 52 and recently met a most lovely woman. We corresponded for over three months and recently met face to face.

I am very much in love and looking forward to more.

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I fall in love every day. People talk like "romantic" love is the only thing valid. Or is some sort of Pinnacle of love. It's not. Sometimes I think it is the lowest form. My friends, my children, my grandchildren, myself, the beautiful smile of the lady in the apartment upstairs when she hears my babies laugh. The homeless lady who gave her last dollar to her friend because he is worse off then her. The guy I know who spent the day with a guy that he can't stand because he was having a rough day and no one else cared.

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I'm not looking to fall in love. Right now just a second source of retirement income. smile007.gif

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Perhaps being more picky makes you not waste time with unsuitable people and makes it more likely that you will find someone.

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I think you sound depressed and your chances of falling in love again are far greater than 5%. That does depend on being open to relationships and don't look for love, look for friendships. If a friendship is strong enough it might turn into love but friendships are good too. Stay positive.

OCJoe Level 6 Sep 15, 2018

I am not depressed, more like resigned...

6

As a liberal agnostic in The South I've had a hard time meeting people of "like minds". I'm also less likely to put up with a whole lot of crap anymore.

strgazr63 Level 5 Sep 15, 2018

Yep, that's my other problem. I live in Florida, so i am not even interested in 98% of women around here.

@EggMcMuffin Yeah, Florida is way too full of the ones I won't date.

Yeah, this state is a dumpster fire. I haven't dated since I moved here.

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I'll be 47 Wednesday and I give myself a 99.9% chance of finding love again. You always find what you look for.

@TheNoob

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I'm days away from 48 and although I've never put a number to it, I can see how 5% might seem about right. However, I'm not sure it's the "falling in love" part that would be the problem, more the "putting up with someone else's quirks and them putting up with mine" that would be the issue.
I find happiness, joy, friendship, companionship all the time, but not in a "significant other" sort of way.
I'm okay with it; I'm pretty set in my ways, but I wouldn't say no to the concept.

scurry Level 7 Sep 14, 2018

You put it better and more succinctly than I did.

5

I think it's an entirely different ballgame at this age. I have great capacity for both loving & being loved, but falling down the rabbit hole over someone just isn't an option, nor even the ideal anymore. I can share my time, space, passions, brain & body when I please, then circle the wagons for a bit when I'm not feeling it. Nothing wrong or even lesser about that, just different & more reflective of where my heart & head are at this phase of life.

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As you get older you are less willing to put up with “bullshittery”. At 63, I’m not willing to tolerate someone who is looking for a live in cook and housekeeper. Unfortunately in my age group that is what you find. I’m not saying that applies to every man. Maybe I’ll find someone and maybe I won’t. Life has no guarantees. After my divorce I met my now late husband when I was 46 and we were together until he passed in early 2016. I don’t give up hope but I know I would rather be by myself than settle. While I’m alone, I’m not lonely and that’s the difference. We all have deal breakers and things that are not. Sometimes people need to be realistic.

I'm right there with you but it's not much different for me at age 55. When I was in California it was easier for me to meet and enjoy the company of men but here in The South men are looking for a more "traditional" wife (someone who will cook, clean, shop, and bring home a paycheck).
I simply don't have the time, patience or energy to be all things to one man when I'm managing quite comfortably on my own.
I will, however, keep my options open. I like men and I'm not dead yet.

5

Get married; you'll meet the perfect person within the first 6 months after the wedding. It's a Murphy's Law kind of thing.

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5% ? So there's a chance? Lol ?

That's a good point, Trumps was polling at what, 20% on the day of election? Ok, depressing example, but still.

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I just went through a divorce. I am not looking for it to happen. At 50, my chances of finding someone are fair. If it happens, it happens. In the meantime, I will work on myself.

Erick67 Level 6 Sep 14, 2018
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Never say never. I'm 46 and fell head over heels in love with a guy I met on this website. I was also extremely picky and doubtful I would meet anyone up to my standards again. So good luck, remain hopeful... it can happen.

Hazydays Level 6 Sep 14, 2018

She is right on that one... Love you to my dear <3 <3 <3

Wait you said you were 36.... Just kidding! smile001.gif

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If you're expecting to be swept off your feet with adolescent wonder, and capture the excitement of the first time. It isn't going to happen. But if you approach the prospect of relationship with a more mature expectation, then fireworks are very much still on the agenda. Enjoying another's company is the key factor, you can never feel you're too old for that!

rcandlish Level 7 Sep 27, 2018
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I fall in love almost every week. It's just that at my age I cannot afford to take a gamble and I think a lot of women feel the same way. Also at my age this "love" business can mostly be in your head. A man needs to think with the right head.

DenoPenno Level 8 Sep 15, 2018
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I'm an eternal optimist at 55.

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I think you're selling yourself short. You can meet someone and fall in love at any age.

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Well, as a woman, I feel as if I'm in the same boat. For one thing, I don't make myself available to anyone. My work takes a lot of my energy and time. My cats take the rest. I'm an introvert and I value my time alone. Falling in love, truly in love, is something I don't think I have ever experienced in my life, and I wonder if I ever will.

BlackDove Level 7 Sep 14, 2018

BlackDove, you have an honest and great answer. Another person should find you desirable for this alone.

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I am 48 and I am more emotionally healthy than I have ever been. I love my life and myself. I enjoy my alone time and after living alone for 12 years I don't worry about falling in love, I worry that I won't be able to tolerate living with anyone again. I am an only child and an introvert. I need LOTS of time alone to be happy.

Sorcha Level 6 Sep 14, 2018
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I think that is your mindset. I was 59 when I met a woman who I was physically attracted to, we are still together, I'm 64 now.

freddam Level 3 Sep 14, 2018
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