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Do you ever miss the religious life?

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I don't miss the life, but I sometimes miss the interactions. WHich is why I joined this group.

TMCBird Level 2 Sep 30, 2017
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No way. There is absolutely nothing I miss about hanging out with the brainwashed dogmatic hypocrites that form most of the church. Church music sucks and I can get a good enough coffee and donuts at Starbucks! I definitely don't miss sitting through pointless sermons and wasting all that precious time praying for nothing. Honestly, I'm still pissed that in this finite life I had to waste so much of it on religion. I think I probably spend as much time now rallying against religion as I did participating in it due to the anger I feel at being indoctrinated and lied to in the most foundational years of my life. I don't want others to have deal with this rubbish if I can possibly help them avoid it in any way. I dream of a secular society.

Hugene2002 Level 7 Oct 28, 2017
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While I sympathise with your sense of frustration - at being so mislead - please don't beat yourself up with such anger. Acknowledge it and just let it go...... aaaahhhhh. Just being alive is too amazing an experience to waste it in regrets or recriminations. Remember the song - 'Don't worry. Be happy'. Great advice. Cheers.

To prevent feeling angry and frustrated all the time, I learned to see the humor in it all. If you have some time ask one to clarify something from the bible you found contradictory or just wrong. Don't hound them too hard or you will get the classic "it's in the Bible. God said it so it's true " .Pointing out that the bible is not god's personal assistant's notes ,straight from the horses mouth is counterproductive . If you can keep them talking they are a wellspring of ignorant comedy gold.

Irony for you? I grew up with very little adult supervision. Heathen, Bohemian from the start. Growing up in rural Alabama I heard the shit all my life .The bible thumpers feigned concern and sympathy. I saw right through them, they had no genuine concern for me. They considered themselves above me and didn't want me influencing their daughters and sons I suppose in a different way. I laughed my ass off at the parents and felt bad for the brainwashed kids. I wonder if they will ever have a clue how sad and pitiful I have always thought them to be.

I definitely wish I had all those hours back, too, however; when I was a child, my fertile imagination saved me from the indoctrination.

I share your take on religion, but you will eventually watch the anger dissipate. I still have remnants of it myself, and I got out more than two decades ago.

Believers will see your raw emotion, and just say that you're angry at god; their way of defusing any otherwise good arguments you may have presented.

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its not easy to be atheist in my counrty . sometimes I wish I was as stupid as religious ppl and that my life would be easier but then I look at my way of thinking and just smile bkz I know I will always choose being like this

Haneen Level 4 Nov 21, 2017
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Hang in there and hopefully find a way out. America is not perfect but we still have freedom of religion and from religion. I think of you sometimes. I hate that you are being held back from reaching your potential f peace of mind and all the opportunities available to women that are not there yet.

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About as much as I would miss a malignant, twenty pound tumor!

RobLawrence Level 2 Oct 27, 2017
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I see you are from Seaford DE. Do you know of any support groups that meet on Delmarva?

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My love of music, I guess, probably originated in church when I was very young. I greatly enjoy music, but I have come to abhor most religious music.... particularly the "modern" Christian rock and can't help but think that a lot of the Christian rockstars are singing all the way to the bank because God has been so good to them.

RedRiverRogue Level 4 Oct 28, 2017
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How about on the other end of time and quality, for instance Johann Sebastian Bach? Much of his music has religious themes. I find some of it just wonderful.

It's funny because when I was a kid my religious Grandma and her friends used to say in the 1960's that rock music of any kind is devil music or the kids are possessed by satan.

When religion loses followers, they will change so they can be more modern lol.

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I don't miss religion at all.


What I do miss is hte sense o community and sense of belonging, which in my opinion is the real motivation for most people belonging to a religion.


Most people stay in religion, not because of strong beliefs, but because they fear losing their sense of community and belonging, and they also fer how others will view them if they leave.

snytiger6 Level 7 Oct 21, 2017
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You are probably right, which blows my mind. I have always had trouble understanding and relating to "normal" people. The concept of a need to belong and be part of a group is completely foreign to me. I have friends. I am not totally anti- social but the idea of wanting to fit in, inviting people over for dinner or any other reason, creating situations/ events for the sole purpose of socializing is utterly foreign to me. I would get so tired of explaining my jokes. All the humor is gone when the tutorial begins.

Yeah. For some people socializing is more of a chore than a pleasure. I have reclusive tendencies myself. Still, having studied Sociology in college and through observation, I think most peopel need to feel a sense of belonging.

From an evolutionary standpoint, there is some advantages for sporadic mavericks who don't go along with the crowd and are curious instead of just accepting. They can be innovators, or if the village gets wiped out while they are away, then they are a survivor. Not fitting the norm is not a bad thing, it is just different and helps make humans more diverse to better survive.

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I think this is one of the most provocative questions here.


I miss the simplicity of the religious reasoning ("God is all forgiving" etc. etc.) but realise that coming to terms with our own existence is a struggle and rightly so. I shall die happy knowing that I delved into every aspect of life (philosophy, religion, science etc.) in order to develop an informed and personal opinion. It's been hard, without a doubt, but it's a better result than BLIND faith.

zanyfish Level 6 Oct 17, 2017
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What a perfect response.

And then there's our extensive and suppressing social conditioning to attend to - much of which we re totally unaware of. Until we REALLY start asking questions of ourselves and the 'reasons' we do what we do.

I like the way you thinksmile001.gif

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not at all. I have found my post belief life to be so much more fulfilling and enjoyable. I can now be open to learning about science without some type of mental restrictions. Evolution, astronomy - all things I can enjoy learning about without the lens of mythology.

wesmanlv Level 2 Sep 28, 2017
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The only thing I miss is the sense of community.
I enjoyed camping trips with the youth group when I was growing up, some of my best memories.

CalebHubbell Level 2 Sep 27, 2017
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The only thing I missed was community.

VictoriaNotes Level 7 Sep 26, 2017
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I want the sense of community that comes with church membership.

JaimeZ Level 2 Sep 25, 2017
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Yes, actually, it was so much easier when I thought there was someone there to help me, I live alone been seperated and then divorced for 4 years, it gets hard sometimes

bobbymagee41 Level 3 Sep 16, 2017
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I can relate. I tell myself, it offers a new and different opportunity for growth and socialization; just beyond my comfort zone. Definitely hard, but possible smile001.gif

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I never had a religious life so nothing to miss. I will admit that I envy the sense of community and connection that people get from going to church.

witchymom Level 7 Dec 18, 2017
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Well I envy that you didn't waste so many years and moneysmile001.gif

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I was never religious; I grew up in a non-religious household, but had brief periods of time occassionally attending church/church camp growing up so I could be with school friends (such as Sunday morning after sleepovers). I was not down for the religious aspects of it, ever, but I was, and still am, kind of envious of the built-in community aspect. It seems much easier to find an established community based on religion than any other shared interest/activity.

xie_exi Level 2 Dec 8, 2017
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That's like asking a woman if she misses her abusive husband. smile002.gif Totally don't miss having to lie about how god is blessing me, nor do I miss constantly being told I am worth nothing and only god gives me value.

SeptemberSara Level 5 Nov 30, 2017
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IKR that is just mental and emotional abuse. I’ve actually had people tell me that we are all just sinful, wicked humans that don’t deserve God’s grace.

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yes.sometimes but When you taste the cup of truth you can not be convinced of the illusions of religions

yosifRhman Level 3 Nov 20, 2017
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I miss the social part, but that's it.

egt1977 Level 2 Nov 19, 2017
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Nope! As a child, was forced to attend baptist church. That'll really turn any sane person against religion. I'm quite happy with science, common sense and knowledge. The more educated one becomes, the more likely they'll reject religion.

TommyMcBroom Level 2 Nov 18, 2017
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I still attend funerals and weddings many of which are held in churches so I don't miss much of the community aspect of a religious life because I still participate. When I get up on Sunday morning and realize I am facing a full day of freedom I feel very content.

fstevens Level 2 Oct 27, 2017
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Not for a moment... grew up in it. No need to believe in a mythological creature to be happy... unless it's a unicorn..

JimReynolds Level 1 Oct 18, 2017
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Nope. I have never been religious or believed in a god, so nothing to miss.

Uncorrugated Level 5 Dec 16, 2017
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I miss that good old gospel music sung by those who have talent beyond anything commercially produced out here. That is what I miss. The music.

TanyaThompson Level 2 Nov 24, 2017
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that's like asking a prisoner if he/she misses prison.

Wyldon Level 2 Nov 24, 2017
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Some probably have things about it they miss, like friends they've made lol I guess they get used to being in there. But I see what you're saying lol most of it you don't miss. I don't miss most of the things from being a christian.

Stockholm syndrome

I don't miss anything.

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Hellllll no. I hated church!

WaterjunkyTX Level 3 Nov 21, 2017
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I don't miss the religion, but the community was nice most of the time. It was comforting knowing that you could always count on someone if anything came up. Events (other than church and bible study) tended to be fun. Basically, if I had to say the one thing that was hard about leaving religion, is losing all the people who locked me out of their life because they couldn't accept my lack of belief. Discovering that most of me friendships were based on such weak bonds was difficult accept.

Malhavok Level 4 Oct 24, 2017
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... but liberating in it's own way?

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