Dating is always difficult, at any age, specially if you put the bar too high. The older we are, the more we are used to our ways and become more demanding, less prone to change to adapt to other person's ways. What one think is sweet and funny can be annoying to the other and vice versa.We need to start again from scratch, zero, and that is very difficult. For the time being, the new vibrator is a good idea!

They are both out there.

Men my age are always looking for younger women---though they'll insist they aren't. Then others will announce they want to meet women their own age so they can get attention. I gave up on dating sites after making these observations consistently.

Sorry , i don't mean to poke fun; but you mention religion as being important twice in your choice of a man . Isn't this an agnostic site sorry again it kinda tickled me . In regards to what you've said i totally agree, its a mine field trying to find a compatible person, once you've breached 50 :-/ . I got happy on my own , and i saw that anyone my age , would have gone through the same mill i have ; Be as messed up as i could be and have a ton of emotional baggage, i am not aware of . So for me it is to risky to want to do the dance of getting to know anyone again , as my heart is too old for breaking again << they mend better when your young . Good luck on your quest .

Hon, try swinging!

I feel your pain. while I would love to find a long term dating partner, i find it difficult because either they want too much time from me (I am a bit of a loner) or there is just too much drama. guess that is why I live with a cat and a dog.

Okay, as a guy that is

Okay, as a guy that is close to your age. This is my take on what you have said. Yes, as a guy I find a younger woman attractive, physically. But, they don't have the substance to make a relationship work with me. I've dated woman as much as 20 years older than me and 20 years younger than me. I'll take the older ones any day of the week. At our age, it's more about what do we have in common; do we like to do the same things? Then the relationship will naturally happen.

If you think dating over 50 is impossible, try over 60!
I'm told i don't "look or act like a typical 65 year old", but clearly that doesnt matter... I guess I'm destined to be "the cool old lady with the cats". ?

P.S. I wrote something similar about 4 months ago and it appears nothing has changed! I decided to start doing some things I enjoy alone. I saw a play on Broadway; went to BAM (in NY) to see Andy Borowitz; have a few other events in the hopper. Going alone is better than not going out alone but...life's better with company.

I can relate! Dating after 50 sucks. I am in a far right area (Northwest Florida) and I'm having a harf time meeting non-Christian women. I don't think I can be involved with a Christian woman again after having been dumped by my wife of 11-years because I didn't fully agree with her Christian beliefs. So, now what? There are few single women in my age group, and the single ones are looking for a good, Christian man. But, you never know what the tide will bring in. I try to remain optimistic.

Aw you young people. Wait, (or don't wait), another 20 years or so. There are fewer people with more limitations and all the other stuff you mentioned too.

My wife's friend is over 50. She's recently divorced, attractive, articulate and well educated. She has a good job with benefits and is not looking for a "sugar daddy". She would agree with your comments! I get the gist of the complaints from my wife. So glad I'm not dating!

Sad but true than you make it seem so funny,,lOL I guess i will just go and play with myself.

it sucks at 48 too.. 9 of 10 are religious and then there's those that are looking for a younger guy. i'm about to take a vacation alone. i read summer is a good time to go on an alaskan cruise if you want to see some whales

You are so right about that! What a clear statement of the problem! I have been looking for 15+ years off and on between a few little relationship, and moving coast to coast and North/South about 10 times, ok....maybe 7-8. Please post or send your picture....On paper you fit for me and I might fit for you. Read my profile ask me anything. If WE don't fit, maybe you have a friend and i would try to think of someone for you....but send those pictures!
)) Dave

I got divorced two years ago, and decided to enter the dating pool at the age of 64. I thought men around my age would know what they want, and be more together than they were in our 20s. Boy, was I wrong! Guys, I'm sure this is true for some ladies as well. People carry baggage all their lives, and their entrenched habits are worse. I dated a man (briefly) until I discovered he was married. Then I had a LDR with a guy I developed some strong feelings for. We had great sex for months, then he suddenly went back to his ex. I discovered I was only a rebound. I have rebooted myself, and carry no baggage. Why can't people stay out of dating sites unless they are emotionally available?