Dating after 50 is an adventure. Like all adventures - there are unexpected turns in the road. You just have to keep on going

Younger men can keep up with you both mentally & physically if you give them a chance. I am now dating a guy older than i...he is 73, I will be 70 in July) and while he makes me laugh a lot, he can be a bit stuck in the mud...for example, I want to try fake bull riding, there is a place only about 3 hours away, and it appears I will be going in the RV with just the dogs. Like there isn't a few other things we could do while in Boston.......

The biggest problem is that all the best guys, like me, have been snapped up! (What do you mean, "big head"? It's quite average.)
Perhaps you'll have to find one to "borrow", then give back befire he has shirts to iron, etc. lol

That is not so far off. On other Dating Websites I have been on I would get nasty comment when they see on my profile that I’m an atheist. Why they feel the need to even make a comment is beyond me but it’s all good I wouldn’t care to date that kind of person anyway. I can only speak for myself; I’m not looking for a “much younger woman”. I will let the lady decide but I would not go below 45 years. I find that the real problem is finding ladies in my area that I can date.

Yup..that sounds about right.

Unlike you, though, I don't care.
As a demisexual I have zero sexual attraction for any gender or person and I can take sex or leave it.
If I start to feel a bit of desire at night, in a nonspecific way, I have a vibrator. As an androgyne, I can imagine I'm any gender I wish to achieve orgasm, and can imagine I'm doing it with any gender or combination thereof.

When I think of myself as male, I have a quick, explosive orgasm, and when I think of myself as female, I have the long, slow build-up and extended orgasms. But I can also pretend I'm both at the same time and have such a tsunami orgasm that it almost knocks me out.

Yet, like I said, I can take or leave it, and seldom do anything beyond getting the quickest results possible so I can get to sleep.

Nevertheless, I'm usually inundated by interested men, perhaps because my disinterest in them romantically challenges their egos.

I've learned to use disclaimers if men start hitting on me, casually informing them that I'm androgyne (mixed gender), a partial transmale, and a demisexual..including the definitions.

You'd think that would make them take to their heels, but what usually happens is that men often seem happy to adopt me as a side-kick pal, perhaps because my behavior is very male, despite my appearance.

And I thought it was all about NM!!! Hah! It’s the same everywhere!

Never say die!

Good Luck ?

I have much better experience in Asia. Hoping to marry and move over next year...

Sorry its a bit difficult for you. I'm beating women off with a shitty stick.

...OK that last bit was a lie

Yup, sucks harder when you move from Los Angeles to some small ass city in the corner of Michigan. I am thankful I do not need a woman to complete me, but a friend sure would be nice. After 17 years of marriage, (the second one, the first was 10, so I haven't had to 'date' in 27 years more than half my life), I try to stay positive, full of love, joy, gratitude and just pluggin' along.

I was always kind of a loser with girls as a teenager, but after my wife left in my late 50s, I've met at least half-a-dozen women whom I'd love to partner with, and I have so enjoyed dating and meeting them and enjoying their company. I'm now 65, still healthy and fit and have an actual job, and my competition is mostly apparently dead or debilitated in some way. I'm having the best sex of my life with a lovely 69 year-old teenager in a seemingly stable relationship (with help from generic Viagra and Merlin the Hitachi Magic Wand).
But of all the hard questions I'm going to ask the Big Guy on Judgment Day -- of all the horrible sadistic things things this Creator must answer for from those of us who know what "theodicy" means -- He's gonna have to explain why I had to wait so long to meet this dear woman, and I know He doesn't have a good answer, and if I was as mean and vindictive as He is supposed to be, I'd send Him to Hell were it not for the fact that He assigned me a guardian angel incompetent enough to occasionally relax his vigilance over my virtue while he was off molesting some hapless cherub so I could get laid while he wasn't looking.

The nuns in school did teach us that sex was the dirtiest, evilest, mostest nastiest thing in the world, and we had to save it for the person we love most -- this alone made it sound absolutely irresistible -- but if they'd told me I'd have to wait until I was practically too old to do it, it might have been just a little discouraging.
But when Joy shows up on your doorstep, make it welcome.

Sudden inspiration:
If looking for sex, check out repressed believers in fundamentalist anti-sex religions, because they often seem quite ready to abandon their scruples when given the opportunity. And if they're scam preachers, they have money.

I find that the men are either addicted to something, or looking for a barbie doll. even though they have a beer gut and wear socks with sandals!

I guess it depends on what you would like in a relationship after 50

Yeah, it is a challenge. Wish I had a great answer, but I don't. The world is full of theists, which is a shame. I don't trust a lot of religion believer's decision making processes. You never know what foolishness was the basis for their decision. There isn't much pragmatism that comes from an idealogue. If the pragmatic answer lies outside their limited beliefs, nothing gets solved. Just look at politics in the USA.

As we age the old adage that was true in our youth:" A good man is hard to find" becomes:
"a hard man is good to find";

In my experience, dating has always been a nightmare. It’s awkward and unnatural. The few people I’ve had relationships with were all people I met while just going about my daily life. I met my former husband at a music store where he worked. I met my last boyfriend at the office where we were both working. I met another past partner at the library, another at an art opening. And then we just started chatting and hanging out and the rest was history. The problem with being older is that I don’t really go out much, and the people I work with are all a lot younger than me so the opportunity doesn’t present itself. Which leaves online dating... and, sadly, that has been a complete fail (although not surprising, considering my history - see above).

You nailed it! Its zombie land. And good luck even finding someone in good enough shape to take a walk in a park - despite the zillion sports they supposedly participate in. The topics of conversation always seem to devolve to 3 things - their health, their food fetishes, and their ex. Rinse and repeat. I mean, you've been on the earth 50 plus years and that's all you have to talk about? How boring.

You have a lot of filters. You eliminated a lot of people. I am married and 61 and not looking to date... but its not dissimilar from making friends. If i eliminated all religious, or republican or friends with health issues, i don't believe i would have any friends. My wife broke her shoulder 6 months ago, she is in therapy.

I think you answered your question with your filters.

I only know that my divorced and widowed friends have been paired up again with amazing speed. Gives me hope that if I became single again it wouldn't necessarily mean being all alone forever. Some folks of the opposite gender are in the same situation as you are. In my twenties I was a late bloomer, so I experienced dating pretty much the same way you describe dating at 50 plus. Meeting someone that you find attractive and compatible isn't guaranteed. Then I think they'd need a probationary period just in case there was more than met the eye. The odds may not be in your favor, but I hope you can enjoy staying curious and interesting in the meantime.

Go with the vibrator. Give it a name and live happily ever ! After

oh i sooooooo agree with you. the ones that annoy me most are the ones looking for a nurse with a purse.

I'm 54 and going through a divorce. I certainly don't want a 'nurse with a purse' or anyone churchy, and I want nothing to do with Republicans. One day, I think l'll be ok enough to jump back into the dating world. I'll probably be attracted to a woman who wants nothing to do with me or vice versa.

Dating is a nightmare! It really makes me wonder how the hell are were living on such an overpopulated planet?

Be positive, don't give up. I'm not. But I do agree that you have hit a nerve.

I feel the same. I'm 53, but I still look like I'm in my 30's, and I get a lot from people, "you should find a nice woman and settle down", and such like that. They just don't seem to understand that I have no intention of settling down, I love life, and I don't need a romantic partner to enjoy life. I enjoy my self, and my friends. All that dating stuff was stuff I did back in the day. I simply have no use for it any more.