You need a B.o.b. Lol

It’s not just you. It is a nightmare! I was actually excited after my divorce thinking about dating again. That excitement when you like a new person. Can't stop smiling. It didn't take very many dates to realize how wrong I was. So now it's me, my girlfriends, and when needed my "other friend".

I agree with you dating after 50 is a nightmare for men also Myself I would rather be with someone closer to my age younger women out there like to play to many games .They do not know how to handle a gentelman .someone that opens doors for them most men are looking for younger women to make them feel younger Age is a state of mind I look for someone that have lived and learned

I can't imagine being in the dating pool these days...at any age.

Hmm... I'm not looking for someone much younger in order to recapture my youth. I want a kid though.

Lol.
Sorry...
No I'm not...
LOL.
But yeah... my experience with dating apps... no bueno...
Bumble, pof, match, okc... use them all now for months... nada. Better results outside the apps and that in itself isn't much better as you've mentioned... shrug

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your right im glad my right-hand works

That made me laugh!!!!

I am newly single again so I'm not even up for actually dating yet. However, I did put a profile up on a very popular site just out of curiosity.

Where I live - Louisiana - 95% are some variation of Christian/Catholic/Protestant.

I wouldn't date with a man my age who would go out with somebody 20-30 years younger than he (if he was open about that).

And, like you, I've narrowed my own pool by eliminating conservatives.

Then no smokers. Then they have to have a job and make a decent income. Oy is right!!!

So, that leaves me with about .05% of the population. And, from that, it's like you said -- either they don't see anything interesting in me or vice versa.

Or, some moron sends me a private message and barely gets "hello" typed before he's asking if I want to have sex and fun. WTF is wrong with people? I truly wonder how many women reply with "Yeah, glad you asked! Let's do it -- phone, cyber, your place or mine?"

I would not be surprised if I am completely single until retirement and I move back to what I consider civilization -- a more liberal area. I'm okay with that.

Friends with benefits is always an option. That’s is if you can find someone that isn’t too annoying

I have a 50 y.o. friend in Seattle who does online dating -- she says that when she meets them online or by phone, she addresses in her first conversation, explaining the desire to not waste his time or her own time:

1. Do you smoke?

2. Did you vote for djt?

3. How religious are you? (She is agnostic and won't go to church, but so far is okay with others keeping some religion.)

She inspired me when I wrote my profile on another site. It could not be more clear on there that I am atheist, not interested in dating a believer, and that I am very liberal. I even say "If you voted for djt, let's just pass and wave."

Well. I do not mind saying that I would like to be one of those people willing to change that, got to start somewhere and I am not afraid to help the cause.....call me Ladies ?

I've made I think one really good friend on here that I cherish already and had an instant soul crush on another- based off photos! The humor is real! haha. I'm not expecting anything though. But I feel ya.
I'm happy with just good new friends too tbh, and finding out at my age and circumstance that moving slowly is best.

Quick movers spook me, btdt in my youth. You are beautiful & intelligent Witchymom, the ball should be in your court.

try after 60! With every decade after say the 20's when most people connect it changes for a different reason. THe options are narrowed and the stage of life makes such a difference. Maybe that is what makes some more religious!

From my experience of going through a divorce in mid 50's, it was interesting. Had been married for 25 years, and silly me, thought things were going well. Have 6 kids, and the last one was living at home but going to college. Was pretty down on women for a couple of years afterward. Then started looking again. Dated several women, and figured out quickly that didn't want a religious one. I do go to a Unitarian church, and it is a comfortable place for me, and lots of the members are atheist, or humanist. So only dated UU's. I did find a good atheist woman, and get married again. Some of the things that I was looking for the first time, just weren't that important. Am far from being perfect, and didn't look for the perfect wife. We have lots that we do together, and also have things we do apart. When I retired, set up an office upstairs, and didn't bother my wife when she was working from home. Do some volunteer things away, and she also does that. We do make music together as are both in a Celtic band. We have lots of common interests, but also bring new things in. Guess I would say, "Don't give up hope if still have some interest". But being in a state where in 2013, 45% of people polled claimed "none" for religion, the pool is bigger.

I feel your pain. No seriously. Widowed at 48, after 15+ years of marriage. About as lost in that game as could be. Lovers are wonderful, but friends save the day. If we are very lucky we may have both.

You have 10 people in your region, wow, try dating when you live rural and the nearest woman you find on this site is either in another country or more than 800 kilometres away or both. I don't need either a nurse or a purse although I do find RN's sexy mostly because they are generally intelligent and don't put up with shit. I don't want someone that is young enough to be my daughter.
Hope still springs eternal though, somewhere there is someone out there.

Well, I'm 52 and my marriage is ending and I've been on a regular dating web site which is kind of scary with all of the Christians on it. That basically is what led me here. Luckily I feel that the Twin Cities, hopefully, has enough progressive, single 50 year old women who won't all run away upon meeting me!

You'd be relatively young for me... LOL!

I wouldn't know. I couldn't get a man if I was the only man on earth. Of course the fact that I only date men makes the problem that much worse.

I haven't been able to get as far as "dating" yet. I've been trying to think of something humorous to say about it but I'm dumfounded. Maybe there are invisible horns growing out of my head that only women can see.

I find it hard because I am kind of set in my ways. I do like your comment "looking for someone MUCH younger to recapture their youth". I know men that do just that. Me, I realize my youth has left me and it ain't coming back. Looking for a much younger woman, would only give me a heart attack.

I am soon to exit my 50s, and yes, they are much harder than in my 40s. Fewer compatible people, but then I have let myself go as well. And I am really set in my ways now, people have to take me as I am. I have many female acquaintances of all ages, no shortage of people to have a meal, coffee, movie, bush walk with. But nothing more,

I live just North of Seattle. There are lots of non-religious women around. The biggest issue is finding mutual attraction with someone in a similar

a wing person is key !