Try dating over 70.

I think it's pretty sad that we've reached a point where so many people are so closed minded that they would let politics be a prohibiting factor in an otherwise perfectly viable partnership.
In a relationship where both people think the same way, one of you is unnecessary.

I agree with you. I am 64, financially solvent, still attractive. But I have a hard time finding someone to date. The men my age seem old, and most of them have sexual problems, or are just too fat to attract me. The young men are immature, and most pass me over, anyway. The few women I've reached out to are suspicious, because I've been in a long marriage to a man. Plus, I am somewhat shy, don't like the bar scene, and travel a lot. How's that for complicating factors?

dang.

Since I am a 70 year old man. Dose that mean with all the cougars on this site I will have to settle for an 80 year old lady looking for a boy toy?

It's tough but I still try????

Being new on the list, I sort of enjoyed the many comments. And being older, with many women on here preferring younger "men" - I'm wondering whether I should join all those both male and female that I should just give up and fade off with all the skeptics into the sunset. However, I've usually, in the last 35 years of so, had younger girlfriends. Yes, the last one was 18 years my junior. However, instead of joining "the" crowd, I'm probably going to hold the line and allow myself to be open to possibly good things that may come along. Oh, and yes, sometimes disappointments become very painful. However, I suppose I should learn to enjoy any pain that may come along. After all, when one can experience pain, one can also confirm that one is still alive. To be alive means more to experience, to enjoy, to have joy, to fly! I'll just take my chances. That's been my life - and so far - it's been AWESOME!.

Sounds perfect to me!

Gay best friends are the best! Not only are they fun, fierce, and dress better than most men, they give it to you straight (no pun intended)! I'm 52, and while I'm open to perhaps meeting someone, I have given up on finding anyone special, but will make the most of my life spending it with the person I do love best..........me!!

It's a nightmare. My classification of men at this point is that they all belong in one or more of 7 groups:
1.live too far away
2. too young
3. too old
4. married
5. gay
6. jerks

That's when you get to the 10 who are left, and...yes.

Throw in a small town in a rural area. The nearest city of any size is 3.5 hours, one way.

You're 50 ? Wow you look great !!

The ball is in court you decide what you want ,I think is not bad to do so even after 50 but have to be careful

Seems like a lot of fingers pointed outward and makes me wonder what you're are really looking for or expecting out of a relationship. At 50 most people have plenty of baggage of all kinds. What about finding people with similar interests or professionals in the same field (not the same office or even company) . Or just let the activities or interests happen first and perhaps the "dating" will follow. Good luck.

I feel for you. I will be 57 in May and I gave up on dating. I seemed to attract the mentals and by that I mean folks in serious need of a shrink and meds because they were not all right in the head. Two wanted to marry to get their hands on my farm, land is over $4K an acre where I live. I live in a super religious rural Republican area and all the really decent guys are take, are religious, Republican, drunk, wife abusers and users , I could go on. For now I just want to get my committments to farm and family leveled out and then if I meat someone great, if not, oh well...

I've decided to primarily date younger men. Old guys whine too much.

I have had the same problem. I live in a smaller city, so the dating pool isn't that large to begin with. Plus, it's also a very conservative, mostly Christian community. Like you, I have noticed that the rest want a care giver, someone to support them cuz they're broke, interested in someone MUCH younger, or, you guessed it, Republican. After a decade of searching, I have essentially given up. I'm not willing to suffer through a church service or sit in a dive bar just to find a date.

I'd ask you out if I were in your area. Unfortunately my arms aren't 500 miles long. That might make holding hands kind of trickey

It took a while but finally I figured out that the problem is me not them. I really do not want someone underfoot, worried about this, that, or the cat. I do not want the drama, the heartache, nor the lack of freedom to fart as I please.

No, it's not just you. I've been through almost all of the same things!!

I'm laughing through the tears here. You really said it all. May I add the many candidates who post pictures of all their toys, motorcycle, speedboat, ad nauseum? WTF?! Just my luck that I'm the monogamous marrying kind. It's really the pits.

I have spent many years alone, and content. now though, in the past couple of years ,I have been seriously thinking I don't want to spend the rest of my life single. I have no clue really how to get from point a to point b. I think for myself I can only try to make myself a better prospective partner. I read something once that suggested that the downfall of most relationships has to do with getting into said relationships for all the wrong reasons. the book went on to suggest that people would be more likely to succeed if they approached relationships as the vehicle for personal growth that they were meant to be. aaaaaaannnnndddd then went on to explain that relationships were also more likely to succeed if the people involved saw the potential for growth in their relationship with god. (facepalm).

There are good people out there. I found some secular groups around town, and went to some meet ups, met some cool people, but I like for my wife to accompany me in social settings and she being Catholic doesn't always enjoy going to atheist meetings and such.
All that to say, I wish I had found some of those groups when I was single. It would have helped me to meet like minded people.

I tried to do that dating thing at first. But the ones who I have things in common with are my age and they are so set in their ways that we can't match schedules to do anything. The younger ones just annoy me. And I really just value my free time and lack of attachments. All the ones who talked to me about going out and I am good friends with them all now but I am just too set in my ways. And they all seem to be churchies. namaste.

To compound the situation, I find that it so prevalent that so many have built up walls in place, or are so opinionated and/or set in certain issues - that they are no where in situation to be an equitable candidate for a possibly healthy relationship.