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Are you an open or closet agnostic/atheist, and why?

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I am an open atheist because it is important for people to know that atheists can be good people, and I try to be an example of that. If we are more open about our views, more people will feel like they can come out as well without being judged.

TaliaElizabeth92 Level 5 Oct 18, 2017
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This reverse psychology that right wing media is trying to play that proposes that it's Christianity that's in the closet is complete buffoonery and snake oil. However, I do think that more people are feeling comfortable with questioning religious conventions and are freeing themselves with the undeniable truth: religion is a device to control the masses. The opiate.

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I was an agnostic for a while until I actually sat down and read the bible...it was after that I became a die-hard atheist.

zelliott Level 2 Sep 29, 2017
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Would you call it an empiphany? "Until I actually sat down and read the Bible"....

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Open if asked. Frankly telling people seems as invasive as being religious and having to preach. If someone is interested I'll gladly tell them.

RavenCT Level 5 Oct 27, 2017
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Do you withhold posting about it on social media because you see it as preaching?

I agree with Raven. I think one's personal beliefs, or non-beliefs, are a private matter. I certainly don't like being preached at, and I try not to do it to others.

No I don't hold back on Social Media - it's whether it's appropriate to the conversation or not.

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Open, in the sense that if it comes up then I'll happily talk about being atheist. But if it's not relevant to the conversation, then I won't be the one to bring it up. Not a big fan of preachy, aggressive people whether their atheist or theist!

BabyHippo Level 2 Oct 23, 2017
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I am a closet atheist at the moment because I would lose a lot of friendships/relationships. Working up the courage to "come out" is harder than it looks!

april22353 Level 2 Nov 2, 2017
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thats kewl, don't feel pressured to come out , ever. or in a time frame. religious people can be very pig headed and cause more problems for you. gather friends and like minds , to build up your support system first. it can help. talking with like minds that have already gone through this.

Living in the bible belt, and coming from a large ultra-religious family, I don't advertise my religious beliefs to the general public. That said, I don't pretend to be religious, either. I open up about my religious beliefs privately when I feel that I can trust someone.

I'll be open one day.

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Militant Open atheist. I want change to a secular society where decisions are based on science and reason, not dogma and rhetoric. Religion is poison, we have no use for it, apart from if you are a psychopath who needs money and power.

Hugene2002 Level 7 Oct 17, 2017
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Here Here...

exactly right

Good for you! I also understand the risks of 'coming out' in certain communities. Even in some countries, atheists are still being killed.

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Open
I don’t get in people’s faces but:
I would join a march.
I would be in a debate if asked.
I have a bumper sticker that announces to all that “I am going to hell in every religion”
I try not to inflame reactions while not backing down from argument.
I try to keep a sense of humor.

gearl Level 7 Oct 23, 2017
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I want one of those stickers.

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Open atheist. Why? Integrity and intellectual honesty.

Galactica Level 4 Oct 17, 2017
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Living in the bible belt where it's hard to throw a rock without hitting a church, I'm still in the closet to about 80% of the folks around here. My parents weren't religious and didn't go to church except for funerals and the odd wedding. My maternal grandparents, however, were Fire Baptized Holiness and church services my Granny took me to as a child scared the crap out of me. Kids around me were being scared into belief. I was lucky and got scared skeptical. Most people I knew were fairly smart and logical on everyday things but when it came to religion and their god, those same people were dumb as a sack of rocks it seemed. Logic was out the window. I learned that if you ask too many questions in church, you don't have to go to church anymore.

DaleNash Level 3 Sep 29, 2017
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I bet you have lots of interesting stories you could share. When time permits, if you feel inclined, please educate me/us on some of the "scared into belief" stories. You can share it as a post, as part of this thread, or my inbox. Just a request ????????

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I'm an open atheist.

I remember as a small child sitting in Sunday school and thinking, "They're making all this stuff up just to trick us small kids." However after hearing that my parents and grandparents believed it, I spent years trying to believe and was convinced I might go to hell because I had doubts. This sort of brainwashing is an awful thing to do to any child.

DaveRIndy Level 1 Oct 10, 2017
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Indeed it is awful smile001.gif

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open and proud. it actually helps prevent religious conversations around me. there are even a couple others at work like me smile001.gif

basskiller252 Level 3 Oct 27, 2017
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Grats on finding the coworkers!

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Open. Glad to be counted with those who don't have an imaginary friend.

Or-Humanist Level 6 Oct 22, 2017
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I'm open with everyone, all the time. It got exhausting to hide, and when I grew up and had my own life going, I didn't really have a reason to. I've lost friends and my relationship with certain family members has suffered somewhat, but I reached the point where I was willing to take that risk in order to be my authentic self. That sounds really douchey (I can't believe I just said "authentic self"...wow) but that's my story and I'm sticking to it.

soongtype Level 3 Sep 30, 2017
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Having the character and courage to be your "authentic self" is commendable! Welcome to agnostic.com

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I am open about my beliefs. I believe in the scientific method and evidence based reasoning. Being confrontational with believers is not my style, unless I am being confronted or someone tries to dictate how things should go based on their religious dogma.

StanTheMan Level 1 Sep 26, 2017
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Loud and proud. I get nasty looks from people when I walk around with my I DON"T BELIEVE IN GOD! T-shirt. I get stopped from time to time and asked, why do you advertise my Atheism, it's obnoxious. You got to love how hypocritical they are, and it's a little sad they can't see it. I had one person ask me why I wear an Atheist shirt at the same time she wore a shirt that said "Believe" in cursive at an angle across her chest. I had to point out the hypocrisy.

paul1967 Level 7 Sep 26, 2017
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Cool, and I agree the delusion is sad.

the believers, are very sure without any prove. So sad smart people religion turns them to be stupid. No facts, no logic no prove Their strong believe ,it is worthless to me

I can not wear something like that, I think it is dangerous, someone might kill me. As happened not long ago in a university in Pakistan. It is not right to be afraid with a t shirt like that, on the other hand , they are too many sick people around. bravo to you, I admire you.

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I am open to those closest to me. The community I live in would probably burn my quirky ass at the stake if I was completely open.

jeran0312 Level 4 Dec 10, 2017
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I know that feeling!

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I'm open about it, even though black people do not seem to respect it or there are many of it. That kept me from coming about earlier. But being 59 now, I don't really care what my family thinks anymore.

Buckknows Level 2 Nov 19, 2017
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Black people show how strong religious brainwashing really is. In Africa, the christian religion wasn't even known when the slaves were being taken. Only a few generations afterwards and Jesus is on the name of nearly every black person in the United States as if it were an ancient tradition. It's unbelievable how quickly and deeply the brainwashing can get when it comes to religion, but it's good to see you've woken up from it. It couldn't have been easy.

Black only has Jesus to clung to during slavery, since this life was so awful, they could look to death for happiness. We still cling to that belief. And no it was not easy being black and atheist, I have Mexicanatheist friends who have the same problems.

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Open. I wore my Antitheist t-shirt to work one day. Didn't go over too well. LOL
I was asked not to wear it again.

BWatkins37921 Level 3 Oct 5, 2017
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I’m guessing you’re also outspoken. smile038.gif

Pretty much. I certainly don't pretend to be religious.

love it, I have a sterling silver "A" pendant (the atheist A) I wear every day, no one has ever asked me about it LOL

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I own a business in the Bible Belt. sigh. Closet it is for me.

TishLuvs2Quilt Level 2 Oct 3, 2017
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Foot out of Closet. My family is unaware, my friends aren't. My parents are both religious and I don't want to ruin my relationship with them.

DragonDust Level 5 Dec 14, 2017
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Sad

Don't feel bad for you are not alone. I know people who are stuck in that same predicament, and religious folks can be difficult when confronted. Your friends know so that may be enough for nowsmile001.gif

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Openly humanist/agnostic. Seems rare in my area and representation is important. Also nips religious-based event invitations in the bud.

MixtapeChick Level 3 Dec 8, 2017
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I am very open with my atheism. Why, is because I'm not living in a theocracy.

ECheGuevara Level 3 Oct 29, 2017
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I'm not totally open in the sense that I don't generally announce it. When asked I'm not hesitant to state my views.


I get to "cheat" a little bit I suppose. When around fundamentalist Christians I can honestly say that I'm "Jewish/agnostic like my father before me and his father before him.


The "Jewish" bit give me a little leeway as most fundamentalists tend to respect Jews.


That last bit may well be changing what with Trump's friends giving the Nazi salute while chanting anti-Jewish slogans.

JonJacobs Level 4 Oct 20, 2017
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Open. But for business reasons, I try to keep it quiet. I live in the bible belt.

ptmontgomery Level 2 Oct 17, 2017
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It is the same for me. I only told a coworker because I was asked directly.

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I am very open about my way of non believing. I don't flaunt it around at work or try to start a debate with anyone unless someone brings up religion, then I will let them know.

mistymoon77 Level 6 Oct 9, 2017
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This is my same approach smile001.gif

me too smile001.gif

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