Lying to yourself is worse than lying to others.
There are times I would never attempt to debunk it, such as the time my very Catholic aunt lost the baby she was carrying and desperately needed to think the baby was in heaven.
Good on you. I wish more people cared as much about being happy as they do about being "right". You are today's hero in my book, and I mean that sincerely.
You can't debunk it and why do you want to? It is 100% true that for some people religion is an important psychological support. In the US we have this freedom thing that you're free to believe what ever you want to, and if it makes them happy or give psychological support I'm very happy for them. Now if they wanted me to share the delusion there would be some strong disagreement.
I also have an issue when a person's religious beliefs endangers others, or seeks to infringe upon the natural rights of others. If religion is simply a means to happiness, and nothing else, I say live and let live. Use it to start hurting or hating other people, and that is where I will part company.
I've never felt the need to debunk another person's happiness or comfort, so long as it does not directly involve hurting anyone else. Live and let live: a lesson learned in life, known from the dawn of time.
@Deiter Which is why I speak only for myself.
Here:
"The fact that a believer is happier than a skeptic is no more to the point than the fact that a drunken man is happier than a sober one. The happiness of credulity is a cheap and dangerous quality." -George Bernard Shaw
I would say it is childish thinking, but even when I was a child my flavor of "believing" tended far more toward metaphorical and symbolic than literal and real.
yep,we all pick our battles...
Thanks
Why debunk it?
Why question his motives? He asked for help. I simply gave him a relative quote to use.
@GuyKeith It was an honest question. I don’t have any quotes or advice on the matter.
I don’t; it does. Doesn’t mean it’s advisable, prudent, intelligent, or wise to rely on, but it’s certainly an important placebo to those who are stuck on it, otherwise they wouldn’t be stuck on it. I make no judgement calls or attempts to talk anyone out of anything. It’s pointless. Lead a horse to water n whatnot. Whatever gets you through the night is fine as long as you don’t try to legislate it or shove it on me. I can only argue why I don’t need, nor would I be capable of accepting the placebo since I know what horseshit it’s made of already. And even that is usually a waste of time to try to explain to someone who thinks you need Jesus or whatever. You have to regard the makers of mentally ill claims as they are: mentally ill. You can explain to the schizophrenic why their paranoid delusions aren’t true all you like, but until their chemical embalances are treated you’re not gonna get anywhere.
As with addiction; -they state you cannot intervene until until the person is ready to change(however small that change;its a start
& shows open minded willingness).Its also
preferable to have objective;factual;reasoned;
and reasonable paths to facilitate the exceptance that a view(belief)or,or in case of addiction the relationship to substance or activity is causing very real harm.
I do not say it's impossible to get a "religious" person to change-just that ,until they themselves are open & looking critically
at thier beliefs it's like pouring gas on a fire.
They are obligated to defend+in some cases
promote the tenants of thier beliefs. Alot of harm can occur(especially deep seated SOCIAL religiosity/life long belief) if a patient,
-Do No Harm -approach is used/like with family;co-workers;spouses is not used
Thank you for the ques.!
Only people with a weakness need crutches.
We all have weaknesses.
@HippieChick58 My kryptonite is craft beer. It may turn my liver into a cinder block, but I won't be going to Hell for it.
@Hippiechick And here I was thinking I was god . . .
I wouldn't know what to say because everyone console themselves in their best way. I'm none to say what to use as a placebo.
And you know life isn't easy, it's all about getting your head right.
you want to be around people that make you happy, you don't want your happiness to depend on other people.
if you look deeply into your own heart you will know the way, as you become more special to yourself other people will find you special.
We could ask them if the positive benefits are derived from the veracity of the religious claims, or other factors (social support, etc.) that are not predicated upon holding beliefs that are inconsistent with our understanding of how reality operates.
If we are willing to live in a world where we don’t value objective truth, then yes, let’s validate gods, unicorns, fairies, and leprechauns. Unfortunately, we would have to admit that we don’t care about reality, and are content living in epistemological anarchy.
I gave that up decades ago. Too much time and energy, to me it was wasted time. When it comes up I try very hard
A. To not smirk.
B. Not wrinkle up my nose in disgust.
C. Try very hard to not make them appear less intelligent.
While I see both sides of this, to answer your question, simply point out that
just because a medicine works doesn't necessarily mean that it's worth the side effects.
You also have the placebo effect. But that probably won't fly with them. Plus, I like your answer better.
You agree with them and then point out that that just means those people have a mind that is easily tricked.
first they need to give examples, since people making the claim have the burden of proof. of course people making such claims often deny that the burden of proof is on them, since common knowledge is an exception to that rule, and they share common knowledge -- of something that is patently false. you could ask for medical sources that back up their claim. they won't have them. then you can say that anything could serve as the psychological support or placebo, without burdening them with rules of behavior that might be harmful to them, or to others. you might also find a rental copy of "dumbo" and point out that in the end dumbo flies WITHOUT the feather.
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