Sound familiar? ... I’m Dating Someone I’ve Never Met — & I’m Falling In Love
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.Face to face, or long distance media only... both are a crapshoot. But the "falling in love" feeling can certainly happen either way. Problem is that the "falling in love" feeling is not necessarily a good predictor of success. I've fallen in love a few times I guess and can really offer no wisdom.
Robeh
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July 5, 2020
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It can happen and it did for me (I too was skeptical). Important item to to see any such relationship as one of being friends. Take notes, be judgemental but open minded and look for commonalities. Most important thing is don't let chemistry take over even after meeting. Talking on the phone is much better than writing and with Skype you can get an even better idea of what you are dealing with.
JackPedigo
Level 9
May 30, 2020
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Okay-enjoy the ride and hope for the best. At least she's getting to know him before the first real date.
RonWilliam53
Level 7
May 14, 2020
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Seems like it's a shared fantasy, and it might work out with all the excitement they've built up, or it could be that they aren't really like who they've envisioned each other to be. But it sounds like a fun ride that might crash when they meet, or could be the bees knees. Might as well proceed with caution.
You can think you are getting to know someone very well, because the need to believe in that person is so strong. There's no guarantees in love and life, but going ahead with a hunch is better than being stagnant or going backward.
Julie808
Level 8
May 14, 2020
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If it seems too good to be true...proceed with caution.
CarolinaGirl60
Level 8
May 13, 2020
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Yes as it was how my late partner started off our relationship. 2 months on the phone with only 1 picture apiece to know what we looked like (it was a very long distance relationship). It turned out to be the best way because when we finally met there was little chemistry. But still another 8 months with only an occasional visit. One really needs to get to know another before making any commitments.
JackPedigo
Level 9
May 13, 2020
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I wish them well, but there is nothing like meeting face to face to really check the chemistry.
HippieChick58
Level 9
May 13, 2020
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Disagree and my experience showed, me anyway, that chemistry can and often does give false readings.
@JackPedigo Agreed. How many stories have we seen even in this very forum, about people that were greatly attracted and sexually compatible with someone, only for it to turn out they were incompatible in other more essential ways. people can overlook red flags and bad pairings for lust, it seems.
@demifeministgal My first 5 relationships were based on meeting face-to-face and chemistry taking over. A couple actually had happy periods. It was the last relationship where we were introduced and, being long distance, got to know each other over the phone. Absolutely no chemistry just knowledge about each other. It was a relationship based on commonalities and was wildly successful.
When people meet they are often either young or desperate. Over time each one may change and what attracted them to the other no longer worked. To have a good relationship most must be flexible and try to change together. There is no chemistry for that.
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