Does anyone believe in love at first sight? Or do you believe people should become acquainted and gradually become close?
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.I walk in doors @ first sight, no need to believe in doors, get acquainted with doors, learn the history of doors.....in is prepositional. ...people can have beliefs about real things but " believe in " is non-sequitur. ...syntax ERROR. ....I HAVE zero beliefs about the gibberish sounds gawd gott gods in any language all are NON-words = gibberish. ...pseudo-refetents without objects
GreenAtheist
Level 8
Dec 18, 2018
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Love @ First Sight is our birthright just as is our Atheism. ....all else is learned behaviours
GreenAtheist
Level 8
Dec 18, 2018
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I don't believe in love at first sight, but I do believe in like and lust. You can be very much physically attracted to someone and/or "click" with them when you first meet them, but it takes time to form a deeper connection, and I don't think you can truly love someone unless you get to know them better. First sight is a start, but that's all it is unless both people want to explore more. At least that's been my experience.
bleurowz
Level 8
Dec 17, 2018
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I'm always sad looking back at all the women who chose me for lust. I prefer one choice FIRST SIGHT for who I am not how I dance or diddle. ...I wished a cheerleader or synchronized swim team woman would have chosen me for how our babies would look growing up
That's why I played football not because I like choreographed violence I wanted a cheerleader to love me not the other players who bragged about fucking them not loving them
actually before I answer, I will apply a little math: everytime one is attracted to a person they just met, two simple outcomes can happen:
A- the couple continues on happily ever after = love at first sight
B- the couple doesn't make it = no love at first sight
so 50% of the above scenarios is considered love at first sight but in real life what are the chances A happens over B? probably much less than 50%.
Most couples grow their love over time and most often it's because of the initial spark. So yes love at first sight does exist but it's not that initial feeling that makes a couple last.
Lukian
Level 8
Dec 17, 2018
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Love at first sight won’t last if it doesn’t meet your expectations behind that. If you don’t have expectations I don’t know where your getting enough info to call it love? It may be curiosity, infatuation, attraction and hope ...but love? I prefer to save that term for someone I like more every day.. If you get actual feelings of love at first sight I’d be sorry for you because the pain of not getting what you want will feel real even if it’s not warented.
ArdentAtheist
Level 8
Dec 16, 2018
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Love at first sight, to me, is a recipe for disaster and I have been there. People absolutely must take the time to know another and the older and more experienced one gets the more important that is.
JackPedigo
Level 9
Dec 16, 2018
3
Yes if Passion and love come so fast at 1st sight yes. I have been with her for so many years.
PinkyandtheBrain
Level 7
Dec 16, 2018
3
Both. Chemistry and attraction can be instant, but it’s takes time to develop the trust and vulnerability a good relationship requires.
UUNJ
Level 8
Dec 16, 2018
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We are ALWAYS vulnerable as our fragility in intimacy should never be "developed" but instead ADMITTED as for trust, that too is an instant risk continuously tested and proven worthy of repitition
UUNJ:
@GreenAtheist I disagree. One can be in a relationship and maintain walls to protect one’s heart.
@UUNJ that kind of conditional provisional incremental intimacy may be a common woman's intention but an honorable man like me wants to be needed, wants to be protective without possessiveness. .....the metaphor of walls is just too weaponized from Mexico to Beacon Street both left and right, gay&straight, progressive and conservative
UUNJ:
@GreenAtheist potato, potahto. We can each use terms that make sense to us. When I’m in a relationship that feels right and good, I can feel my emotional walls crumble.
@UUNJ I am sorry I misunderstand your purposed post. ....surely in our hostile dishonest patriarchal society, women would in many lifestyles NEED the sense of walls/strong emotional boundaries of non-disclosure and safe distance message to others: " respect my internal emotional space"......please forgive me operating upon the same words for my lifelong commitment to transparency and public political personality modeling........with TrumpOLINI modeling "pussy grabbing" with 1st Lady Melania tacit approval we have 2 women enabling 2 President's sexual predator behavior leading back to Arkansas Attourney General law enforcement ethical betrayals
May you negotiate the relationship details precisely as your pal agrees
It takes 2 on that page for instant love to last....most animals that mate for life mate the day they met.....I have seen the light of love in every soul but like the old slave song, some hide their light under a bushel.....for love to last she must let her light shine on her lover illuminating the way to their mutual joy. ....if she only wants to fuck, boys are only too happy to oblige. .....real men can only beam their hope for a mate, build our bowers with baubles twigs yarn straw clovers daisies and spread our peacock feathers. ....only she can decide for a day or a life......getting acquainted is never gradual. ....only delayed denied or INSTANT. .......VAL KILMER was married to Mira Sorvino the repeated moments of FIRST SIGHT movie. ...his massage soothing voice and raindrops on an old tin roof inspired her to worship 2 twin trees themselves and marriage in architecture her Manhattan top profession
GreenAtheist
Level 8
Dec 16, 2018
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i'm on same page -- infatuation at first glance but love requires knowing the person
TheDoubter
Level 9
Dec 16, 2018
3
It might be perceived as love at first and develop , but most often its a strong attraction with a lot of hope for love
Cutiebeauty
Level 9
Dec 16, 2018
4
A person can have the feeling of love at first sight but that would be basing it on appearance alone. They can be in love by the sight of them but might not love them if they start to get to know them. Kinda like fans of celebrities. They love them til they get into some bad trouble. Some will still defend them no matter what.
AdamWarlock
Level 5
Dec 16, 2018
3
"Love at first sight" is popular candy, but little else...
seattlepanda
Level 7
Dec 16, 2018
2
I believe in chemistry at first sight, but actual love is a much more complex emotion that cannot be experienced at a glance.
Amzungu
Level 8
Dec 16, 2018
11
Absolutely
If our eyes are fully open we CAN KNOW if love bonding commences or is tentative while rejection must be respected and withdrawing from the scene the best ongoing response
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