Ok...welcome to agnosticland from a sailor who remembers the siren songs of real mermaids. ...now on to your profile for my 1st read

Cheers! My Engineer's brain tells me to put as much detail as possible and have some fun hitting the word limit exactly My regular Joe's part of the brain says fill out a brief profile like most of the other ones. In the end I decided to not pretend to be someone else and go with the detailed option. If someone isn't interested then we probably aren't a match. I get what you're saying about incompatible people contacting you. I have had some of that but I reckon for different reasons from the ladies. I wouldn't want to be a lady on Internet dating. Too many assholes on there for the wrong reasons.

Good luck with that strategy. Lol.

@pmar074 Honestly online app dating is very terrible it is the bottom of the barrel. Go with real interactions.

Happy New Year to you too!

To me, text messaging, email, digital profiles etc. is just a necessary evil of the modern age. This may sound a bit strange but the reason I'd much rather talk to someone face-to-face is I get a much better feel for how genuine they are by looking at their eyes and facial expressions. "Eyes are the windows to the soul."

@pmar074 I couldn't agree with you more! It would be interesting to know what percentage of people who sign up for dating sites actually end up in a long term relationship - not the percentages the sites quote cause we know they lie - I've only known one female friend who found her current husband that way. But she literally made it her "job" while she was looking - had different dates lined up for lunch, drinks after work and late nite dinners.....I guess there really is something to that whole saying about it being a numbers game.
Here's to a have (and lucky) new year to you as well!!

POF is full of stupid people but a few of us get picked or diamonds in the rough like you are found

I tend to lean towards A too. However, I can understand how some people would find it an uncomfortable process as it feels a bit like writing a LTR CV.

I pass up anyone who hasn't given it a good effort or if it's just a repetition of what I have seen 1000 times. " I believe in living life to its fullest." ARRRGGGHHHH! To me it just says "I have no imagination and I can't be bothered with trivial stuff like communication."

@mollygirl Oh yes. Some of my personal favorites: "I want someone who makes me happy", "I like to have fun", "I just want someone who can make me laugh".

Yes, we all want those things. But we each have different ideas about what makes us happy. Is going to dive bars and listening to live local music "fun" or is being tied up and having candle wax dripped on you "fun? I need to know these things if I'm going to make an informed decision!

Risking rejection AND accurate self disclosure is a challenge to even public speakers like me

@GreenAtheist yes, but saying something as benign as...

I like football or
I'm friendly or
I like dogs

Hardly seems risky.

Oh yes, the "ask me" gets to me too. I still find myself wondering if men are more likely to do it because they're lazy. The women may be more interested in a coffee date to talk - especially as the cafe culture is quite strong in Auckland. I've also heard some horror stories, from a friend in the UK, about her experience of internet dating. I think many more women are far more well behaved and genuine online than some of the men on these websites are.

@Cabsmom agreed fearsomeness is no excuse for a lazy brain