You make a good point. There needs to be so many things that are 'synched" for intimacy to occur. Posting on a public place to strangers is a start...The real work occurs when there's a meeting. Do we appeal physically to each other? Mentally? Emotionally? It takes a lot of work and a lot of time.

Men are - from a biological standpoint - the seed planters.

They avoid...as you've noted...intimacy.

The challenge, then is put on the woman to make that intimacy worth while.

We need to get back a lot of devotion for us to want intimacy...but it starts with us "giving" first!

From seed, to style, to emotions, to knowledge....we have to "turn them on" if we want intimacy....it can't just be requested on social media.

We're civilized now.

We can't just expect devotion because we're seed planters and providers. That worked up until the middle of last century. It doesn't work that way anymore...

@Robecology ...couldn't have said it any better. While I consider myself a feminist, I will be the first to admit that it falls to us women to create that "safe harbor" so to speak - so that men will want to open up to us completely - willingly peeling away all the layers so carefully crafted for society - and hoping that his woman will be able to tell him that she loves that very version of him. None of us like feeling that vulnerable so we do that delicate dance....and try to not step on each other's toes...

It does seem to be weird. The ones looking for love all seem to be attracted to the ones who are not.. lol

@hippydog yeah - like I said....I think the universe is just laughing at us!

I am determined not to settle.

Yes - women go thru a stage when its the "bad boys" that appeal to them. That stage is usually short lived however - when they realize there is no potential for "conversion" - only a lot of grief and heartache. Maybe some slashed tires as well...hahahahaha.