Lol, good point. Not exactly as in depth as I put it here.

I agree. Important to be fairly specific. While you don't want to scare off potential parents, you do want to weed out potential problems.

it's definitely an uphill struggle

I liken it to food. A cheeseburger at Mc'Ds, or a home grilled master piece. I'll go with the later every time.

That is true and that's very sad. I can tell someone that I screwed 15-men in one day and people will tell me that's my decision that they don't judge. I could also tell them that I am not interested in sex unless I am in a committed relationship and they judge me and think I'm a complete Nutter

@Kojaksmom and the times they are a changing...

@Kojaksmom While I agree with most of what's been said, I think sex is the sixth step, and comes before I can be fully committed. Sexual compatibility is a necessary prerequisite.

I'm not sure you should consider yourself celibate. I recall a comment that held the opinion that a volcano is still considered active even if it hasn't gone off in 50 years!

I will say looking has been intermittent at best. Between kids, work, dealing with the ex, karate and house/lawn work I am not left with much.

I've done the exact same thing I've given up looking for someone. If it happens it's going to be happenstance only

@Kojaksmom Constant, strenuous searching is demeaning to the self. It may sound egotistical, but I care too much for myself to do that.

Thank you, i'd have to attribute it to looking at other couples. There was something noticeably different when interpersonal understanding was prioritized. A thick and hearty connection if you will. I noticed inside jokes, consideration for the other with literally no benefit and in some cases discomfort taken on by one to surprise the other. It just seemed so beautiful that I decided at a young age that was what I wanted.