Back due to popular demand, but please stick to subject of dating photos. Thank you
One for the ladies really: I’m on a dating site and there are so many photos of men looking sad, with shades on, with a beer in front of their faces. It’s kind of hilarious and makes my job as a person looking for someone lovely to spend their life with a lot easier... but here’s the question; what the hell are those guys thinking? I don’t care how handsome you are; if you can’t crack a smile I’m not going to want to date you! Does anyone go for these guys?
It's not so much about a smile, but it seems like some of these guys are trying to look intimidating or too serious. One can have an unsmiling face and still be appealing.
The shaded guys never are attractive for me. And what's with the fish and the cars?
They’re all yours
If men could fish from their cars they would be in heaven.
So many of them presenting their manliness with a big ugly dead fish. Cracks me up.
As long as the man keeps his shirt on for the dang picture, I wouldn't mind seeing a dead fish.
Some people feel uncomfortable smiling for a picture. My younger daughter is this way. Someone may not smile in their pictures; but, in person, can actually have a very nice smile--when its natural--not forced.
@K9Kohle789 AGREED.
I am really terrible at selfies. Bad lighting, reflections off my glasses and never sure how to hold the phone for a good angle. Even as a kid I hated having my picture taken. In everyday life I am smiling and laughing far more than serious face.
Hey, Barnie. A good way to take a self-shot is to use your camera's (or phone's) timer feature. Put it on a tripod, or a shelf, set it for 5 or 10 seconds, then move in front of it to capture your charm.
Photos aren't everything.
I've looked at so many photos since I arrived here - because of scammer hunting - almost everything I can now excuse as someone trying to look like themselves. As long as they aren't scammers.
Better than trying to look like someone else or stealing a whole bunch of photos from a politician in another country - or a porn actress. Both of those happen a lot btw....
However men over 50 posing shirts off? No.
Anyone using a filter to look 20 years younger.... ugh. It's like you've met the crypt keeper when they remove it.
Finding a date on a photo that means it's at least a decade old... oops!
And the ones catching a fish or killing any animal are going to piss off the vegans... so just avoid it unless hunting is your favorite activity and you can't live without it. (But ever since a vegan explained their view on fishing to me - I can't look at those either).
Pictures of you and your pet? YES! It makes for a relaxed picture. And we'll love you for it.
But I've been told photos of me stroking my black pussy are too confrontational...
@MrBeelzeebubbles Depends on how you do it....
Awful photos are a non-gender-specific problem.
Perhaps, but what makes a photo awful doesn’t seem to be. Some men seem to be referring to weight, whilst I don’t think any women have.
@girlwithsmiles I'd rather not play the "which gender is better at what" game.
I know this was meant for women, but I wanted to chime in a bit on that. Yes, Iv'e noticed that too. And worse, many guys post pics, like you said "with a beer in front of their faces.
I never quite got that.I would figure at the very least they would try to give a pic that was at least somewhat flattering. Or at least show in some way something that would make themselves "appealing" for lack of a better word. But I can't even count how many pic's Iv'e seen of guys in front of their 4x4, beer in hand, and think. Yeah, this will bring on the ladies.
Or maybe I'm missing something.
Or the sports car, boat, motorcycle... give me a break!
Although the not smiling doesn't bother me in the slightest I do wonder why some don't use some basic editing to center their photo, and mabey retake the selfie a few times so the angle and expression looks attractive weather it be a smile or not...
I'm a very a un-photogenic person. I've never published a selfie I haven't taken at least 10-15 times and edited.
I guess we’re all looking for something different. Your would be man would be more techie and patient than mine interesting.
Maybe another thing to add on to the poll would be men that look proud or powerful. Like the stereo typical picture of a policeman or someone in uniform.
Policeman? I'm liable to think bachelorette party..
I don't get the shades, I mean why hide your face? Beer, seems immature but I will be 53 next month so maybe that's my age showing.
Yes, I feel the same
After reading these comments, I'm apparently screwed. In the only one where I'm NOT smiling, I'm with my cat, and my primary profile pic has sunglasses!!! I am not photogenic and seriously dislike most pics of myself. And, I DO smile alot, so maybe I'm just nuts.
I’m not sure if it’s the same for women, I hate photos too. For my dating selfie I imagined meeting someone that I really liked.
Sad and a beer? That's sad...
The beer is warm
Or, it could be that women (from the time they're little girls) learn that if they want something, all they have to do is smile.While males typically only smile when they are laughing at, or with someone. Also, some people have over-bites, and are incapable of 'toothy' smiles.
They don't call it Asbergers in the US any more. It's ASD (easier to type, btw). I have it too.
Beyond this one, which I don't even really count, I don't do dating sites. My guess is that they want to appear cool? Or maybe "edgy?" Beats me. Living in a very small rural community in the Bible Belt, being an over 60 atheist, I figure the margin of men who are not crazy or annoying is so narrow that I don't even bother trying to sift through what's left anymore. Being single can be nice.
Change your statement to over 50 and you just wrote what I was thinking.
Pretty hot if bellybuttons are your thing
Maybe my autism makes me a bit weird, because I read the words someone writes before I check any photos. Still relatively new here, and have decided to follow both men and women who write with clarity and thoughtfulness (and use the shift key).
I've done the meat-market-meetup sites, to no avail. Ageism is rampant, and the guy's fantasies seem to always get in the way.
I like this site--the intelligence and generalized acceptance is profoundly refreshing.
Agreed. And when you run into an exception, there's always the "block" button on the offending person's profile.
In my age bracket some guys are still trying to "look hard" aka look tough so they refuse to post any smileys pics just all trying to look like a pissed off badass pics. XD
Some men look like they want to punch the person holding the camera. They look grim, sullen and/or angry.
Nobody wants to date an angry or depressed person. Every picture tells a story whether intended or not.
What matters the most with your online dating profile? One word: Photos.
You have 5 seconds to make a good impression. If your main photo is not clear, bright and attractive, they move on. A genuine smile is inviting, warm and appealing. Women want to see your eyes and smile.
If you look happy in your photos, women will see you as a fun person they will enjoy being around.
If I ever decide to use one of the dating sites, I’ll remember: to smile, no beer, show face. Got it.
"Hi, I'm BOB! I'm looking for someone to tell all my problems to. I only sound angry ,,,,,,all the time because,,,,,I'm BOB! ,......Dammit! I hate cameras. I hate TV! I like meat.
Anyone want to go out?,,,,,,"
Don't forget the ones holding dead fish with their beer bellies hanging out. Yum.