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Was sex more fun when you still believed in original sin?

To all former believers: was sex more fun when you still feared an all seeing, all knowing, wrathful God? For me, agnostic sex is still awesome, but without the fear of eternal damnation, it's not as risky or exciting. I also got a kinky thrill thinking the old guy in the sky was floating on a cloud, judging me. Thoughts?

EricTrommater 9 Jan 26
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I never actually thought about it during the act, and if I gave it any thought at all, it was kinda creepy that a guy in an imaginary place was watching me get it on.

However, the very best sex of my life was with my married neighbor, who was also a Jehovah's Witness, and I guess by her standards we were sinning left, right, center, front, back, and sideways (and on one occasion sort of upside down). (I know, I know... TMI πŸ˜€) So, depending on how you look at it, I guess when she was sinning, sex was the most fun?

If I had it all to do over, though... much as I loved and wanted her, I would tell her to get herself free first and then be with me. Because that's the straightforward moral choice. I should never have got in the middle of their marriage.

@Jerry8472 They were sinning with the atheists and agnostics like me πŸ˜€

@miked3003 .... Interesting. I wonder of it's something about the religion?

I know mine was very frustrated because her husband viewed sex as mainly for making kids, and they had done that, so except on the rare occasions he was super-horny, he wasn't interested. If their church indoctrinates people that way, then those who aren't good at suppressing a normal sex drive are going to seek outlets outside of marriage...

@miked3003 Probably raised that way, then.
My best man was a gay Mormon who drank and went to the strip club with us (for academic interest only on his part).

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Well...it feels good to know the divine spy camera in the sky isn’t watching me when I’m having sex and being a complete creep and pervert about it, so I’d have to say it is that more enjoyable without the original sin thing.

....and if God was watching, he could have at least sent me down a few tips on how.

@EricTrommater I literally almost died of laughter at your comment.

Sex is definitely more enjoyable without it i feel

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That's the silliest question I have seen lately! I just never attached my sexuality to my religion. Although, it did appear it was supposed to be shunned as much as possible by the church teachings! But, then on the other hand, hardly anything out of my religion stuck to me! Maybe, it has always been true, what has been said about me...'I am hard headed, want everything my way, and I want behave nicely.' My sex life has never suffered, though! So I have no idea if I stuck to the question, but that is my story!

Thank you! I was going for silly.

You're right, but with this poster's question it's our leg he's pulling. πŸ™‚

@EricTrommater you will need to catch me off guard, β€˜for silly!’ I am deeply rooted in realism!’ Too much, maybe?

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Well I know it was more fun when I had more of it. ...I assume atheist sex is when you only believe it's good if you have evidence that it is, but agnostic sex you can never know if it good or not because it's unknowable. πŸ™‚ (Sorry, couldn't resist).

Lol! Good points!

,,,nailed it brother

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Never thought of it that way. Love sex anyway. I do remember growing up Catholic and refraining from self pleasuring before a test as kind of a bargaining w god.

Did it work? Lol, asking for a friend. πŸ˜›

@EricTrommater eh... I was an A student anyway, so. I couldn't tell ya.πŸ˜‰

I do remember as a teen and young adult I made a deal with God that I would quit self pleasuring if I had a girlfriend. No girl, well, gotta do what I gotta do... lol

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never once did I think about that...although someone besides god watching me is kind of a turn on...

Kinky!

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I never had sex as a believer. I never had really bad sex and more than likely I have never had sex with a real believer. In other words I've been picky my whole life.
Whoops I just remembered I did have sex with a believer once. It was not the best sex I've ever had.

Did he mumble "OH, GOD!" πŸ™‚

@LucyLoohoo I don't remember that but I did go to church with him for some unknown reason and when I started snoring I was assured he would never ask me to go to church again.

@Lorajay EXCELLENT strategy!

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The worst part about being an atheist, you have nobody to talk to during an orgasm.

Yes, crying out "Oh Universe!!!" at the end doesn't quite cut it, does it.

Oh, theorical God! Oh, theoretical God!

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When I was younger I was more afraid of getting pregnant than anything else! Other than that I was too horny to care! Lol

Wish I had met you when you were younger!

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Are you kidding? I never believed for one minute about any nonsense about sin and sex (or maybe I was one of those who didn't want to believe). It became more pleasurable with practice and learning new ideas.

Well I did! Santa and the Easter Bunny were also tramatic lessons.

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I have never been religious so I would not know. Though sex is still fun as it was always. Seems to me like you need to find a new kink to keep it exciting. Or maybe you are doing it wrong? πŸ˜‰ hehe

Sacha Level 7 Jan 26, 2018

Do we ever learn to do it right?

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Sex was more fun when I was doing it with someone else. Boo hoo

I keep telling my foster son (22) it doesn't count as sex when there is no-one else in the room.

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There is much to be said about enjoying being a human without guilt for being a human.

"Religion is not always in sex, but sex is always in religion."
David La Deau AKA Compelledunbeliever

There is much to be said about forbidden fruit being sweeter as well.

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My fantasies often involved public sex with mild S&M, but since I'm basically amoral, hard to tell if past religious notions fueled any of this. With my ex, I often played Dominatrix and we did role switching, but it seemed to come from our both of us being androgynous, more than beliefs.

My kind of lady, though I prefer privacy, I have found sex in public to be a very common fantasy among female friends.

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What is original sin?

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I’ve never believed in God, but I do recall the all seeing, all knowing wrathful Mom catching me in the act once, and that was no fun LOL... Sounds like you need to try some more risquΓ© public interactions. πŸ˜‰

Don't we all!

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Absolutely not!! Fear was not supposed to be part of the picture!!

Oh I see what you mean Eric. But you see, the thing for me is that sex in itself is exiting, and I don’t need the element of risk to make it more exiting. It looks like the excitement of the risky part has more to do with the thrill of the risk seeking behavior than with the sex itself.

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There was no time when I was having sex and believed in original sin (if I ever did).

Same here. My parents taught us that we deserved sexual pleasure.

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NO! The burden of guilt has been lifted! So I can enjoy it more and feel free to experiment.

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I had a girlfriend in high school, who liked to 'do it' in unusual locales. One day, she took me into a Catholic Shrine her family attended. She led me up a winding staircase, that led to the bell tower. Then, she seduced me on a landing, right under a picture of Jesus. All the while, I couldn't help but feel it was inappropriate to be doin that in a Catholic Shrine, beneath a picture of Jesus. I felt downright sacrilegious!

I once had sex on the grass behind the church of my childhood. I knew the pastor had his own home so the place would be deserted. Great location, for outdoor summer loving!

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Never even given this a thought - the possibility of a god being interested in watching me and whoever making love seems remote to say the lest ..... of course I have never thad sex with anyone called mary magdelene

She was awesome.

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My first wife’s grandma caught us before we got married. She told a story that she lost her cherry in the apple tree with the Preacher’s son. She was cool!

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Can't seem to remember how it felt. Do people still have sex? It hasn't gone out of style?

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No... it was more fun when I could convince her that sin will set her free.

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I've been an atheist for some years now. I didn't feel ashamed or anything.

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