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Intimacy would be nice to have but how can I even have that if very few people want to get close to me. I mean sometimes I try to talk to people and I just get looks of disgust. It’s not like I’m hideous or anything but it just make me feel like no one wants me around. How does one get intimate if no one wants you close?

Bronzsonator 4 Apr 17
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@Bronzsonator I have nearly the same experience, and I'm convinced that people like you and I have missed out on some developmental learning experience(s). Our world is different because it's the only world we've known.

There's no way we can go back in time and have those experiences that other people have had - experiences that would have imparted confidence and/or social perception - so if we want to have these things we will have to learn them now.

There are some wise and caring people here, and as they describe their reality I try to open myself up to it.

BitFlipper Level 8 May 21, 2020
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Ummm, you talk like 3 sentences & you are "rolling on the floor"? That would be Tinder. Everybody else wants to get to know their partner a bit first.

AnneWimsey Level 9 May 20, 2020

@Radu I'm on tinder. I heard that people meet each other there, but I see no evidence of that. None of my messages have been answered, and no messages have been send to me.

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Welcome, @Bronzsonator. The pandemic seems to be a rough time for intimacy, but don’t let it beat up your self-worth. It will end. You don’t explain who “no one” is but perhaps you’re seeking the wrong people in the wrong places? Commonality is key to friendships, which are key to romantic relationships.

Joining us here is a good start, but there are also clubs and meetings geared specifically to people interested in gaming and anime which can help you find someone. In the interim, join in the forums and conversation threads, and perhaps something will click for you. Good luck!

Lauren Level 8 Apr 18, 2020
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Intimacy happens After friendship!!! Slow the hell down!

AnneWimsey Level 9 Apr 18, 2020
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The standard counseling answer to that question is: self development. If you want to find a better person, first become a better person. It works over and over. For several reasons.

mischl Level 8 Apr 18, 2020
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Join a social club...

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First pretend to a woman either you are rich or gay.

St-Sinner Level 9 Apr 18, 2020
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There have been many times that I would describe my life in exactly the same words. Right now I feel less fatalistic, and I wish I could describe how I managed to get my emotional level off the floor and up to my knees.

BitFlipper Level 8 Apr 18, 2020
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On this site , a completed bio is a good start . If no one wants to be around you in person , you need to find out why . Check to be sure your personal hygiene is as it should be . Look at yourself in a mirror and check if there are things you can do to improve your appearance . Perhaps try working out ?
If you have communication skill problems you may want to join the Toastmasters club to improve your skills . Do you spend your first communications talking about your ex ? Do you whine or complain a lot ? Is everything about you ?

Cast1es Level 9 Apr 17, 2020
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Do you mean during this epidemic nobody wants to get close to you? Or did you mean in general, even before social distancing went in to effect? 😕

I'm pretty sure he means in general. The pandemic just makes it hurt more.

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You might get a more specific answer if you would post a picture and a real bio.

Lorajay Level 9 Apr 17, 2020
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Everyone is bored and horny,,But everyone i know is playing it safe until after this is over

RoyMillar Level 9 Apr 17, 2020

True I can see that

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