One cannot find peace in someone else. You must find it within you. There is no one that fulfill you. Only you can do that. Look inward. Find purpose. "HE" is not the answer nor out there. Be not defined by absence. You are enough for you. Change the manner in which you find your calling. Seeking it in someone else is a fool's errand. Do what you love & do it for the betterment of the world. Volunteer, join Meetup, rock babies at the hospital, rescue animals, restore habitat. Do for the world & you will find fulfillment in your work....not in a male fantasy.

I am sorry to hear this. I feel similar with being almost 32 and getting hurt over and over. I will try hypnotherapy now because there must be subconscious beliefs that hold me back. Always worth a try!

I’m 41, never been married and have had very short relationships.
I think you are still grieving the loss of a relationship and that makes this thought/feeling feel polarized, intense, and probably hard to shake.
I have an amazing son in my life who is keeping me on my toes and I realize that that loss of a partner that I’ve felt my whole life, the continuous comparisons to others who are in a relationship have been a bit misguided. I now see the good and bad when I see them, I see a lot of unhappy people, dysfunction, personal sacrifices, and realize that happiness is independent of another.

I hope you find time to date you, find what makes you tick, enjoy this down time. Journaling, discussing the feelings, and getting on with life (even begrudgingly) can help you move through this process quicker. If the fog is intense and unbreakable with doing these things you may consider talking to your family doctor. I’ve had patients use temporary anti-depressants to get the ball rolling again.

I’m not sure why I’ve not been in a marriage, my heart is open to it, but I would only want it if we are both healthy.

Most people will say things like learn to love yourself. And you have to be happy alone before you can be happy with someone. And things like that but it offers very little pain relief. I DO understand and I'm right there with you. I am 42 and yet again entering single solitude. No one that wants to me...no one to say good morning Gorgeous to or anything slightly romantic. I walk around and see things I'd like to to share with a significant other and realize....no one cares. No one wants to hear that stuff from me and no one certainly cares enough to start a conversation with me. I also agree I don't want my daughter seeing me depressed and I fight like hell to hide it from her but she sees too.
I will say this...it gets better. There IS someone out there that would care....we just have to figure out new ways of finding them. YOU matter. And you will matter to someone else !!

Take care of yourself right now and work on appreciating who you are regardless of whether or not you have a partner. When you feel better you can consider dating again with a feeling of confidence because you know you'll still be okay if it doesn't work out.

I am in the process of getting a divorce as well. It's not easy to go through. There's the feelings of shame, loss, doubt, failure, inadequacy, and lonliness that we all deal with. And there is nothing wrong with having those feelings. Learning to grapple with them, and accept them, and then to move on with your life is all part of the process that eventually leads to recovery... It's certainly not achieved overnight it is a process that takes time.

I felt so horrible I almost did something that I would not have recovered from had it not been for a few very good friends. I had to learn that sometimes It's okay not to be okay. But you don't have to go at it alone. You just need to find a good friend to talk to or someone you can trust. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with needing to vent every once in awhile... As for facing solitude... I think thats a bit harsh... I mean I don't think any of us are truly alone here. Remember that you have friends and family that love you for who you are. Shut the computer off. Get some sleep. Eat a good meal. and tell yourself that your gonna be okay... its just takes a little time to adjust. And if all else fails... throw eggs at his car.

Being alone can be difficult at first but if you remain with the void and do not escape it you will find joy in being alone.

Before you date get yourself in a good place. Find things that make you happy and interest you. Get peaceful with yourself. Then you can date knowing you are ok alone.

Try to find what makes you happy. The rest will follow. You're a beautiful amazing person. Be happy and if they're lucky, you'll allow them to be happy with you.