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I haven't felt a woman close to me in so long. I miss it, even the smallest things. A little touch, a hand on my back, fingers in my hair, even a woman's scent.

Stenz 6 Oct 13
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Due to health problems and disabilities I can't do things like hike. I used to love the outdoors, and spent a lot of time in the Adirondacks as a kid. Now I enjoy the outdoors from a chair. I have limited energy and mobility, I can't be a man of a lot of action anymore. I can be a man of dinners, movies, Netlfix, short walks, conversation, laughter. I work part-time and that takes a lot of my energy too. I like what I do and solving problems. I can't be something I'm not, nor will I. My mind is sharp and so is my wit.

Stenz Level 6 Oct 14, 2019

@MissKathleen did you miss something here?

Some people call it spoons, some call it steps, all I know is I have a limited amount that changes with every day, so I do the best I can with what I've got when I have it.

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Just start doing little things,like saying hello to someone on the street,make a comment to a lady about her dog if out walking,visit local coffee shops and hang out a bit,,Go to singles dances , do volunteer work in organization where there a lot of women,,just be a really nice polite guy,be your self and not pushy ,take a real interest in a person and there life even if you will never date them but does leed you to some one who may when they see you interacting with all the other people ,Make your self feel comfortable and other people will feel comfortable around you also after the first casual meeting,,there are lots of lonely women and men out there ,who just want some one to just smile and say hi to break the ice to start conversations,,Biggest thing is you have to put a bit of effort into it ,and most of all ASK them first before you do anything ,do not assume,,and there opinions ,,they want to know you as much as you want to know them and do not expect sex on the first few dates and that will probably get you lot more in the future,,Good luck

RoyMillar Level 9 Oct 14, 2019
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In these women's equality times, women should make the first moves.

St-Sinner Level 9 Oct 14, 2019
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What are you doing about it? @misskathleen provided many good suggestions...

@MissKathleen I've attempted to "help " some men here with advice but they usually argue with me.. Kinda strange to disagree with a woman telling you how to meet a woman! Lol

@MissKathleen that's strange.. Please pm me his name?

You think your helping, but you're not.

@Stenz it's really kinda stupid for you to say that since you've never even spoken to me about anything.. Kinda speaks for itself, don't you think?

@Cutiebeauty You commented on this thread. All I see here is people asking me to change who I am. Maybe you should have read some of my other comments, and gotten to know me before commenting. Pot. Kettle.

@Stenz, if one is so interested in the closeness of a woman, and misses it so much, perhaps one does need to change. At least, change what one is doing or not doing so that he opens himself up more to the opportunity for that intimacy again. This forum is a communication tool, and when one send out signals, others react. We don't get to choose how they react. That's the deal we make when we sign up for open communication.

So here's the first necessary change - stop the whining. Women smell weakness in a man from miles away. It's a turn off. Trust me.

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I have an assignment for you. The American Humanist Association has a local chapter near you. [americanhumanist.org] Yes, you need to go. Meet other Humanists in your area. Get out, get involved. Chances are good there will be some single ladies there. No promises, but it is a step in the right direction. Yeah, I know, I know; no guarantees. I've been single for about 10 years, active with my chapter for 3 years and VP for the past year. No personal relationships but great friendships. I live in a conservative bastion, I'm over 60. I think the odds that I will ever meet an truly available decent guy in my metropolitan area are about nil, but I haven't totally given up.

Just found the Phoenix Humanist group this year and have met a lot of intelligent and welcoming folks. No longer looking for a love connection but am loving talking to smart thinking men. I also recommend searching out the closest group.

I went on meetup and joined my local group!

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Get a coed appointment for a hairstyle....it's worth the money for a shampoo massage and a helpful woman hair trim....including eyebrows and hairs in your ears and nostrils....ask her to make you look your best for a great lady to choose you for lifelong love

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Prepare thyself for long life 37 more years statistically ....add 8 more years if you find love or deep involvement with community.....make yourself available attractive fit well dressed clean and active in your locales....volunteer in larger community projects....there are Atheist groups in Rochester and call into WHAM 1180 to expose that idiot theocrat Lonsbury for his stupid Mormon gibberish and his vain attacks upon liberals....be a hero be a friend donate to My Sister's House and other women shelters, DRESS4SUCCESS be part of solutions not closet do nothing problems .....moaning and groaning for love is a poor bower for " her " to choose your baubles.....wear a flower in your lapel....take flowers to work....buy nutritious candy for Halloween days with co-workers.....I wish I had your youth ....I am 67 and women my age want your virility agility and stamina....take dancing lessons play an instrument sing karaoke love songs....keep trying pal ....love with a wise woman is the only heaven in existence and cannot be captured or bought....practice cooking romantic recipes at home....have scented candles ready to be lit when SHE declares her interest to arrive...hope springs eternal....adopt a cat or dog... volunteer at animal shelters....be a great guy

You make a lot of assumptions, like that I'm an bale to dance, that I am agile, neither are true. My cats sadly died, and I'm barely hanging on to my part time job. I don't hike or kayak, I can't anymore. Women want a man who is all about action, whereas I need to take things slow.

@Stenz Attitude is everything for you. Maybe it's your own self-talk that is the defeating AND depressive factor for you. There are no magic bullets for that. It's always your choice. Non-action is a choice.

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There are four women that are in your area listed below. Some say they're here for Community but community means they might enjoy at least having coffee with you. If you don't message them you will never know.

Lorajay Level 9 Oct 14, 2019
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It's always tough .

GEGR Level 7 Oct 14, 2019
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I don't want to be mistaken for an "incel" or some MRA nut.

Stenz Level 6 Oct 14, 2019

You're a keeper quit worrying about bad boys ....you're a good man in prime of life....look forward.. inviting Fingerlakes women into your life is a joy....when they make kind offers be gracious and accept according to your heart not your zipper

The best way not to be mistaken for such a person is not to behave like such a person. I'm not saying you are, but if you feel the need to indicate against it, you might be putting too fine a point on it. Get out of your own head. 🙂

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Last year, during my 14 months of involuntary loneliness, I'd be in the grocery store and walk through the scent left by a woman... and temporarily kind of blank out. I'm pretty sure that celibacy is not healthy for a man with a high testosterone count.

mischl Level 8 Oct 14, 2019
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You’re preaching to the choir, my friend:/

Haemish1 Level 8 Oct 14, 2019
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Even the faint scent left by shampoo.

BitFlipper Level 8 Oct 14, 2019

Just buy some fruity or female smelling shampoo to solve that issue 😉

@demifeministgal There are feminine characteristics that we enjoy just from proximity. It isn't just the sensations, it's the presence.

@BitFlipper Indeed I was just making light of your specific comment 😉

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Me too, miss that so much

bobwjr Level 10 Oct 14, 2019
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