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I am 48 now and can honestly say I've never experienced true love I've had partners not lots and have done all the kids stuff but I've never been that lucky to feel like that I envy you who have.

Shadrack1971 4 June 12
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I thought I had found it at 28 (wrong). Then it came again at 37 (again wrong). Finally, at 53 it came again and this time it was right. I guess one could say practice makes perfect.

JackPedigo Level 9 June 12, 2018
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I’m hesitant to view our popular view of “true love” as a real thing. It’s often wrapped up in and warped by ideas that aren’t sustainable in the real world: that one person can provide all you need or desire, that love never changes or evolves, that there’s only one person for each of us, that it’ll always be pure and good, etc. I’ve been lucky to experience lots of kinds of love and intimacy and I’m still growing and exploring. There’s a lot of variation. But, life’s too short to pine for some fairy tale. I don’t know if I’m saying “love the one you’re with,” but maybe something in the same ballpark.

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Thanks for the advice.

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I didn't find love until I found myself and then I was able to know real love for my husband @Shadrack1971

Oh and I was 51 before that happened

I live in hope thanks

@Shadrack1971 you're welcome

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I like what Neil Peart wrote in Ghost of a Chance:

I don't believe in destiny
Or the guiding hand of fate
I don't believe in forever
Or love as a mystical state
I don't believe in the stars or the planets
Or angels watching from above (a reference to Amy Grant's song)
But I believe there's a ghost of a chance we can find someone to love
And make it last...

TimFromla Level 4 June 12, 2018

I like that

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Welcome to the club. Perhaps we should start a group for those of us who have never had the "true love" experience. We could call it "Where's Cupid" or "Waiting to Inhale" or "Love? Bah Humbug."

Mooolah Level 8 June 12, 2018

Sign me up !!

Great idea

I like that! Our theme song Could Be Love Stinks!

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What is "true love"? The Platonic ideal of love? Whenever the word truth enters a conversation, things can go sideways fast. "Truth" is the linguistic equivalent of dividing by zero. It's undefined.
For myself I look to maximize my happiness within the bounds of my morals. It's all an evolving process. I am happier in relationships if I don't get any goals for those relationships.

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Inspirobot.com just generated this meme. I’ve no clue why it added the image of pot.

UUNJ Level 8 June 12, 2018

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Why does it have to be a train wreck? It could also be a pleasure cruise.

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I didn’t find it until I was 40 and it was magical, mystical and the power of true love was enormously overwhelming. You know when you find it, there just is no comparison to that feeling. It’s a connection between 2 people where you literally complete each other and everyday is a blessing.
I wish everyone gets to experience true love at least once in their lifetime. It’s a beautiful thing.

Hazydays Level 7 June 12, 2018

If you don't mind asking, what happened? Your profile says you're looking. No need for details, don't want to be intrusive. Top level comment will do. Thanks

@IamNobody My husband died a year ago (this week) after a sudden illness. He was a beautiful soul and I’m open to whatever the future brings as I know he wanted me to find love and happiness again. Whilst my profile says I’m ‘looking’, I’m not advertising on the dating side of this site. I believe in fate and I’m looking for a connection of the minds first which will hopefully lead to a connection of the hearts. Something organic and real will happen. I’m in no rush and my heart will forever be open to whatever the future will bring.

@Hazydays Wish you will find the one who will truly understand what you have said, that your husband will wanted you to find love and happiness again. I like when people celebrate their love ones by keeping their memory alive. I have a much better idea now. As I've said, didn't want to be too intrusive. Sorry for your loss.

I'm sure I'll have many life times lol

@SACatWalker feeling ‘stabby’ at my response?

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How do you define “true love”? Different things work for different people. Some consider companionship and love the goal. Some need passion. Some need a lifelong commitment; some don’t. Maybe you’ll meet the perfect person for you once discern your own definition of true love.

UUNJ Level 8 June 12, 2018
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I didn't find it until I was 50. It is worth waiting for, though very, very few (in my estimation) experience it.

Mitch07102 Level 8 June 12, 2018
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Join the club! I'm 52 was married for 21 years am now a widow. I've completely given up on love. There is no hope out there, so just date and have fun.

Kojaksmom Level 8 June 12, 2018

Sorry for your loss. Hopefully you will keep the door a little bit open. Don't shut it down completely.... We are on the same flight but different airline....

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I suppose I had it, but it faded a few years in. He always loved me so I hung in there.

thislife Level 7 June 12, 2018

@LetzGetReal None taken, but not really. We were christian, had a big family. I was the one that changed and grew out of love. Then I became an atheist. I couldn't face being the bad guy to him, my kids and most everyone I knew.

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