I've often joked about writing a book. So many funny, surreal or even scary experiences with online dating.

@Dew25 we should collaborate!

@Corvislover that's actually a really good idea....stories and perspective from both sides.

@Dew25 im only 109 dates in so far. How about you?

@Corvislover ha! You got me beat. I was around 60.....I've pretty much given up on it now.

@sweetcharlotte I’m sorry you were hurt and then shamed. Nobody deserves that. I was responding to a question about online dating posed by someone who may have no experience with it, and I was cautioning that ghosting happens. That’s not an endorsement, nor do I participate in that behavior.

@sweetcharlotte As I wrote, there is no telling why someone would do that. People can put all sorts of things in their profile that may or may not be true. Before I become vested in anyone online I vet them. Get their full name and research them on Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter, etc. If they won’t give you their real full name then block them. Did you research this man’s background?

@sweetcharlotte Again I am so sorry this happened to you. You don’t deserve it. Nobody does.

@sweetcharlotte The dating game is not always fun. It can be really stressful especially for those that have been with one person their whole life and never played. I have had several relationships and so to say, been around the block. Even so, it is still often discouraging.

@sweetcharlotte I have a very close female friend who was having an affair with a married man. I cautioned her not to fall for him. He’ll do the same thing to you as he’s doing to his wife, I told her. She got mad at me and wouldn’t talk to me anymore. The guy divorced his wife, married my friend, then 2 years later cheated on her with a new girlfriend. There are two morals: One is people in live find it hard even impossible to hear advice about their love. That’s just real. Don’t beat yourself up for not listening. The second is that people din’t Change. If they treat the people in their lives badly today, that applies to all people, today and tomorrow. Be kind to yourself. Don’t let naysayers bring you down. Learn and grow. Love yourself.

BTW - I live in Toronto. It is a nice town. I come from New York City and still have NY manners and attitude. Been in Toronto since 2005.

Yes. So do I.

@zesty Don’t get me wrong. I’m very sexual and it’s an important part of a relationship for me.

However I do have a brain with thoughts and opinions on other subjects as well

@Marcie1974 Just wanted to point out that there are a lot of women, exacly like me, who are looking for pure sex, nothing else. We are free of church and traditional society dictated norms. When I date I flash my tits and pussy. When do research or teach - my advanced degrees in science.

@zesty I get that. But for me that isn’t dating. I’m all for getting my needs met occasionally, but I don’t consider that dating.

That just my definition though, everyone looks at it differently. My thing is just be honest...don’t say you’re looking for long term if you really aren’t

@LetzGetReal yeah, I was just putting my experience.

@Marcie1974 Sure. I always state before that I don't want a one-night stand. Just a couple of hours. OK, maybe three. Lol. Interestingly, sometimes from these "encounters" a good friendship arises. Funny, isn't it?

I get the frustration regarding carnal advances. This stereotype being pervasive is a real hang up for me. Mainly because I cannot relate. It just makes approaching, in any context, a courtship interest all the more difficult. The first thing I feel I need to do is explain that the common stereotype doesn't apply, which is exactly what someone would say if they were the stereotype and trying to fool others...fuck me this is getting circular and depressing...

@Phayon my best advice, and what catches my eye, is if a guy doesn’t bring up sex at all. No innuendos, no talk of body preferences, nothing. For me, don’t even bring up that you aren’t only looking for sex. Any normal woman who is actually looking to date with be absolutely appreciative of that.

It’s so damn refreshing and impressive to me. Through virtually no effort on your part! Lol.

@Phayon I do get how frustrating that would be on your end though. But from my viewpoint, it’s absolutely shocking and amazing if a guy doesn’t bring up sex in the first few hours (much less days) of chatting.

Oh no... have you thought of moving? I know that's easier said than done sometimes.

For a moment I thought you might be from Montana

Where you live, not many people .... if you can relocate or maybe retire, your chances will improve.

dating sights are bad investments. i've never found anyone remotely interesting there.

There are also men such as I that prefer woman with meat on her bones. Don't give up

@Unity Come to my city - you will have meaty women beating down your door demanding dates with you.

@SKH78 That sounds like a place I would love!

@Unity You would have to call the police to remove all the women breaking down your door, demanding to have a chance with you.

@SKH78 Perhaps I should head there now.

Sorry to hear that

Here's a virtual hug. Don't give up

Well... what I mean is using an online dating apps as a tool for the real thing... lol.

@Doraz ...I'm up on this one...

Lol... well, I meant using online dating apps as a tool for the real date.