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Would you raise your children religious just to fit in?

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Absolutely not! My ex-wife is trying to raise my kids religious.. so I do the most destructive thing I can to her teachings.. I teach them logic, and freethinking. The result.. my son has learned to play the game, he lets her think he's religious to avoid her wrath, then laughs at her stupidity with me.. I wish it didn't result in him thinking less of her.. but he sees a lie when one's told to him.

countrygeek79 Level 3 Oct 19, 2017
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I was still trying to be religious when my kids were last living at home, but when I let them know I no longer believed any of that crap, they told me that they never had in the first place. Good on them.

NightSerf Level 3 Nov 27, 2017
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So often we find out that kids are smarter than we think. smile001.gif smile001.gif

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I gave my son a religious education so he could be culturally literate--how many things cannot be understood without knowledge of the religious traditions underlying them. However I also encouraged him to be a freethinker, and he is now an agnostic.

vnessg90 Level 2 Oct 27, 2017
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I took the same path. At 7yo (now I'm bragging) the boy said "I don't like religion. It's silly".

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Never raise children in religion to fit in. Raise children to be intelligent seekers of Truth.

lecoq Level 3 Dec 19, 2017
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No, when my baby's mother, without my input, started running her through the Catholic factory I protested. She told me, you teach her what you believe and I will teach her what I believe.
Well, My daughter is 19 now and it seems like I beat the Catholics at logic. There was really no competition...

MichaelPaul Level 4 Nov 15, 2017
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All four of my grown children are atheists.

Caron Level 2 Oct 26, 2017
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That's pretty cool, I wish I could say the same. Congratulations

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If I had kids, I would not raise them religiously. I would ensure that they learned about as many religions as possible from a scholar or history point of view, because knowledge is valuable. If they choose to follow a religion on their own however, that is their choice. Forcing a child to be atheist is just as bad as forcing them to be christian. Present the facts and the theories, tell them your own, and allow them to make their own judgement. Chances are, if they have not been indoctrinated, they will likely choose the most logical option, or come to it eventually.

Melody Level 4 Oct 3, 2017
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Absolutely not. I tell them that some people have an imaginary friend and to respect that. They giggle knowing they know, kind of like Santa Claus.
They keep asking why people think there is a god and my answer is that some people need it and it makes them feel good. They have been to church when they visit family and they have no desire to become religious.

alasdair77 Level 3 Dec 20, 2017
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Fuuuuuuuck no. But I also would not force them to be atheist. I will force them to use logic and reason though..

Amymichelle Level 4 Oct 29, 2017
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My son decided on his own he didn't really believe. I think he probably overhears what I talk about but he is a smart kid. He doesn't think it makes sense and I am not going to tell him different. He made a comment in front of my mom one day, like we don't even believe in God and my mom said yes we do. I said no we don't.

etruji29 Level 5 Dec 20, 2017
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Fitting in is over rated. Greatness is achieved by standing out, not fitting in.


Actually, there was a rumor going around my son's school that he was a Satan worshiper, and he quite enjoyed it.

captainphilbo Level 4 Dec 18, 2017
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Totally agreed! Fitting in is highly over-rated, & in my mind, detrimental. Going along w/ the crowd is what sheep do.

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My kids chose for themselves. I have a daughter who's an atheist and a son who attends church regularly. They are both terrific people. I focused on teaching them to think for themselves.

JimG Level 4 Nov 6, 2017
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Just to fit in no my ex-wife believes in God they will have to make that decision on her own like I came to that decision I don't force what I believe on to my children because that's just repeating the cycle of religion they have to make that decision on her own they know I don't believe in God and they're already asked me questions I tried to be as vague as possible because they're 7 and 10 they don't have time for that right now they're kids they need to be kids

Enzo424 Level 4 Oct 1, 2017
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(If I had kids) ... Oh hell no.

Cookyanimal Level 3 Sep 26, 2017
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My children are grown ups. While young I took them to church, to be more exact my parents used to take us all as we spent Sundays together. I did not want to upset them, on the other hand, I did not think they were really indoctrinated. Restrictions of 10 commandments I thought were useful help to form the values. When my son was 16 one day after church he said,, I can't take añy more sermons. It is nonsense. He stopped going and that was it.

Lonely Level 5 Sep 16, 2017
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maybe your son found out that the church elders don't practice what they preach

Great story, and you must be proud of your son.

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Did my parents convert just to stop the other kids from throwing pennies and yelling 'dirty jew!' at us? Hell no. And no, nope, no way. I raised my kids the only sincere way I could. Atheist.

AmiSue Level 5 Dec 23, 2017
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Never. Conformity is overrated. Especially if you have to compromise your principles to do it.

KKGator Level 7 Dec 20, 2017
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NO WAY!!!!!!!! One does not sacrifice truth for the sake of convenience or temporary popularity.

Lisette Level 3 Dec 9, 2017
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Nope. My ex tried. But my boy came to atheism on his own, and my role was simply to answer questions and demonstrate that one can (and therefore should) live a good life without primitive delusions.

NerdyOkieDude Level 7 Nov 24, 2017
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Never. I encourage my children to constantly question, to seek answers based in reason and logic and to never be afraid to be themselves

GodlessDJ Level 2 Nov 12, 2017
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Never. I haven't any children, but if I did they would be raised to know about religion, but left to decide for themselves as adults which way to live. They would have my example.

Larry_Gott Level 2 Oct 26, 2017
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Of course not. That would be immoral. Make sure they know all about the various religions, and give them your point of view (as RE classes in the UK are usually taught by a religious person - usually a christian - so they will miss out on the various viewpoints other than the teacher's).

GoldenDoll Level 6 Oct 26, 2017
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No.. on the contrary raise him in the truth with the hope he can share it with friends.

Meskeptic13 Level 2 Oct 23, 2017
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Absolutely, positively not. To me, the idea of teaching a child to believe in god "just to fit in" teaches them that it's better to be liked than to be true to yourself. It also breeds confusion and mistrust.

Ycarusbog Level 2 Oct 22, 2017
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No. They should choose, not me. "To fit in" is a lousy reason, but I do not put much stock in convention, so I could be biased.

Zster Level 6 Oct 7, 2017
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