I live in America and am surrounded by Christians.
Whenever I talk about myself to religous people, I want to say ,"I am an atheist". Do you say that? Is there a better way?
The simplest response is "why are you a Christian/Jew/Muslim," and the normal reply is either a rehearsed line or a dumb look.
I’m usually as honest and polite about it as possible. I’m an atheist. If that offends them, that’s just too bad, especially since religious people are pretty diligent about expressing themselves in a highly invasive manner. There is definitely nothing wrong with simply and politely announcing I’m an atheist. If they express concern, I’ll say something along the lines of, “Well, I’m sorry you feel that way. I am who I am. Have a nice day.” If I’m feeling more energetic and funny, I might mess with them a little, particularly if they’re being obnoxious with their religion...
I just tell them that I don't want to be associated with what now commonly passes for Christianity.
I generally wait for them to bring it up. I don't get to the point right away, but eventually I will tell them if they ask enough questions. I like to make people feel comfortable around me before I shock them with my beliefs.
I am not an atheist I'm not agnostic I'm an Orthodox Jew
I don't usually tell them unless someone asks, luckily I don't live in the bible belt so it wouldnt come as a shock to most people, as I think there are more like me than not. I do wear a nice dainty sterling silver " A" pendant but no one has asked about it except for a very good friend, who us ultra catholic (she is from texas if that tells you anything, although shes not in your face religious) I was a bit worried about upsetting her as I heard that she's praying for me (yikes) I told her the pendant was for my middle name. Not sure if she knew I was lying, but she said nothing. I will tell her later the truth, but hey, catholics are used to being lied to anyway so how is my lie any different!
won't say a word but keep looking at them with a strange made up smile.
they will crawl away like a crab
I live in the Bible Belt so I'm far more comfortable telling people that I'm a Unitarian Universalist. The overwhelming majority of people have no idea what that is. And I could give a very basic vague definition.
We once had a tiny atheist organization in town. Several years ago most decided they would try out the "Unitarian Chruch" to increase the size of the social group. I followed the group to the Unitarian church only once. While there I had a long and adversarial discussion with two of the church’s Unitarians (they were members and held paid positions in the church) who also happened to be theists adhering to the Jewish faith. I was not polite and forced them to defend (Judges 11:29-40) in short, Jephthah kills and Burns His (virgin) daughter to fulfil his promise to Yahweh. And yes, they both defended the morality of their god having Jephthah burn his daughter because their god likes the smell of burning flesh.
@NoMagicCookie that sucks. For the most part I found u.u to be great. In raleigh our minister was an agnostic, the associate minister was pagan. Most of the congregation didn't give a shit what anyone believed. We have no crosses or bibles in our church .
@Kojaksmom Think it was Jen Peoples on The atheist experience (worth watching most all episodes) did a very good review of UU. It is long, well reasoned, and for the most part concluded UU is not a positive influence.
@NoMagicCookie I'm sure that's true for some. I found some atheist to be the biggest assholes that I've ever met. I found other atheists that are the most amazing people. If your church makes you feel like s*** it's not the right one. There are reasons why I appreciate the Unitarian Fellowship in Raleigh.so far I've been really happy with it. And no I do not believe in God or the bible and I hate most organized religions.
I only say something if they bring it up. Given that I work in a scientific field, I'm lucky in that most of the people I interact with on a daily basis are also atheists or agnostic, so despite being in the Bible Belt, its rare for my atheism to come up in a conversation with a theist.
Now, in those scenarios where I am conversing with a theist and a religious topic comes up, I don't mock or belittle them and I don't cut in "well, I'm an atheist, so...". I simply share my thoughts on the topic at hand and it becomes rather quickly apparent that I'm not a believer.
Only if someone asks directly will I mention it. Otherwise, it's my own personal belief, and I have no business pushing it on others.
I found if it comes up it's easiest to just say I'm an atheist. If I skirt around it or sound like I'm "only doubtful" I'll get an earful of how god loves you and don't worry god has a plan. Atheist seems to make people go quiet right away.
Unless they come at me with "I am a Christian (or Jew or Muslim or whatever)", I don't feel it necessary to make it part of my "getting to know me" spiel. Really, don't most people just exchange names and jobs and talk about families and whatnot? If they are that aggressive that they have to introduce themselves with their religious belief, then just do it back. Otherwise, if it eventually comes up in conversation, then just say it. Theists have no problem stating their religion, or where they attend church, etc. Why should you?
I just usually say I have no religion and no gods if I do not know the people. I only use the word Atheist with people I know. All my friends and family know my views (most of my family is super religious). I cannot believe the stigma behind that word in the US.