I've decided to primarily date younger men. Old guys whine too much.

I feel for you. I will be 57 in May and I gave up on dating. I seemed to attract the mentals and by that I mean folks in serious need of a shrink and meds because they were not all right in the head. Two wanted to marry to get their hands on my farm, land is over $4K an acre where I live. I live in a super religious rural Republican area and all the really decent guys are take, are religious, Republican, drunk, wife abusers and users , I could go on. For now I just want to get my committments to farm and family leveled out and then if I meat someone great, if not, oh well...

Seems like a lot of fingers pointed outward and makes me wonder what you're are really looking for or expecting out of a relationship. At 50 most people have plenty of baggage of all kinds. What about finding people with similar interests or professionals in the same field (not the same office or even company) . Or just let the activities or interests happen first and perhaps the "dating" will follow. Good luck.

The ball is in court you decide what you want ,I think is not bad to do so even after 50 but have to be careful

You're 50 ? Wow you look great !!

Throw in a small town in a rural area. The nearest city of any size is 3.5 hours, one way.

It's a nightmare. My classification of men at this point is that they all belong in one or more of 7 groups:
1.live too far away
2. too young
3. too old
4. married
5. gay
6. jerks

That's when you get to the 10 who are left, and...yes.

Gay best friends are the best! Not only are they fun, fierce, and dress better than most men, they give it to you straight (no pun intended)! I'm 52, and while I'm open to perhaps meeting someone, I have given up on finding anyone special, but will make the most of my life spending it with the person I do love best..........me!!

Sounds perfect to me!

Being new on the list, I sort of enjoyed the many comments. And being older, with many women on here preferring younger "men" - I'm wondering whether I should join all those both male and female that I should just give up and fade off with all the skeptics into the sunset. However, I've usually, in the last 35 years of so, had younger girlfriends. Yes, the last one was 18 years my junior. However, instead of joining "the" crowd, I'm probably going to hold the line and allow myself to be open to possibly good things that may come along. Oh, and yes, sometimes disappointments become very painful. However, I suppose I should learn to enjoy any pain that may come along. After all, when one can experience pain, one can also confirm that one is still alive. To be alive means more to experience, to enjoy, to have joy, to fly! I'll just take my chances. That's been my life - and so far - it's been AWESOME!.

It's tough but I still try????

Since I am a 70 year old man. Dose that mean with all the cougars on this site I will have to settle for an 80 year old lady looking for a boy toy?

dang.

I agree with you. I am 64, financially solvent, still attractive. But I have a hard time finding someone to date. The men my age seem old, and most of them have sexual problems, or are just too fat to attract me. The young men are immature, and most pass me over, anyway. The few women I've reached out to are suspicious, because I've been in a long marriage to a man. Plus, I am somewhat shy, don't like the bar scene, and travel a lot. How's that for complicating factors?

I think it's pretty sad that we've reached a point where so many people are so closed minded that they would let politics be a prohibiting factor in an otherwise perfectly viable partnership.
In a relationship where both people think the same way, one of you is unnecessary.

Try dating over 70.

I don't know if I'm prepared to put the time in that I think dating would require. Being single again takes more time and effort. Previously there were two of us to do all the general everyday stuff such as cooking, cleaning, etc. And 2 incomes. Now I'm finding I have to work more hours to earn enough and spend more time dong household stuff. That doesn't leave me much time for 'chasing the ladies' plus those tunes are not going to play themselves
So, sure, there are things I miss about not having a partner and should Uma Thurman show up at my door clutching a banjo I wouldn't turn her away its just not as important to me as it once was.

It is a nightmare

I just got back into dating after many years, I am living the very nightmare you describe.

I think you just about summed it up lol I would also add, and I'm not being sexist as I've only seen female profiles, there is usually of huge list of what they don't like, thus the bar is set so high it's no wonder they don't have anyone. The other one that amuses/irritates me is that prospective dates must be of a minimum height, I.e must be at least 5'10", not because they themselves are tall but because they obviously think this clearly filters out the twats.

Not just women....scary sites....what are you meant to do....don't know anymore....

Dating had always been a nightmare at any age..it's just turning 50s that you realize all the pointless BS you dealt with when younger no longer applies..

It may be the region of the country in which I live, or it may be simply my gender. I have found the dating and my age is delightful.

To begin, women over 50 are far more interesting than their younger counterparts. They have experiences so, they have developed views over years and they have had the opportunity to travel, often raise families, and become more worldly.

Many of them have shed the inhibitions of Youth. Well they may have developed routines in their daily life often they are relatively open-minded and able to engage on a variety of topics in the variety of ways.

That is not to say that there are not bumps along the way and quite frankly, those who prove that there are significantly more horses asses than horses in the world.

Open your mind and your heart. You will find like-minded people when you least expect it.

I'm not Gay, but where does one sign up to be your friend?

Oh man I absolutely love that I will be 50 and single in 3 days. I was married for 26 years. Dating is awesome. It's all about your headspace and what you want or expect to.get out of it. Im not looking to replace my X. I'm taking my time and dating. Truly dating. I never did it before. I went from one relationship to the other. I eventually want to find a great person for me. Someone who has things in common with me. I've dated from 25 yrs old and up I don't care, different nationalities too. It's been great. You only live once might as well have fun. Short, tall, thin, heavy. Once you get rid if the box you put people in your world opens up. The only thing I require is they have to be smart, nice, cute to me, and not much older than I. I've even had a few good relationship come out of dating but no one perfect for me yet. I got lots of time. Oh and good music taste helps too. No country unless old country.